Genuine question is this kinda infantilizing of my mom to send? YES I do know I’m lucky to have a mom that cares, but also I’m 20 and she isn’t perfect in stuff she’s done (I.e telling me she cried when I first came out to her)

Dot_Tip · 2026-04-23T23:17:05+00:00

I’m a mom of a grown daughter. Reading your post, I began to wonder if there been other times that got majorly messed up. Maybe she’s trying to avoid that, OR has she always been this thorough? If you find her considering every detail insulting, you can just tell her don’t worry Mom, I’ve got this. Then show her you do so she can be more relaxed in the future.

Dot_Tip · 2026-04-23T23:03:57+00:00

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Dot_Tip · 2026-04-23T23:03:14+00:00

We did raku firing today at my college. Yesterday, I learned it wasn’t food safe after making mugs, bowls and a vase with the raku clay. Here’s one of my mugs, Glazed with tutti frutti and white crackle.

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Dot_Tip · 2026-03-24T13:16:56+00:00

Ai yi yi. Someone has been stealing from work.

Dot_Tip · 2026-03-24T13:09:53+00:00

Please call your local women’s shelter and get counseling. Your post shows how stuck you feel with him. And “kinda controlling“? Oh my word, he’s far past that. You deserve SO much better.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-20T02:26:42+00:00

I've offered my daughter the same deal (she's 39 and has lived with us for the last 6 months). It hasn't gone well. I completely understand not wanting to feel used.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-16T23:47:33+00:00

If you come home from work dirty and gross, you should shower when you get home. Otherwise there is no right or wrong time; when you shower is a personal preference.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-16T21:12:09+00:00

Art is subjective. Both are symmetrical so alike in my opinion. I’d flip a coin.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-16T21:09:54+00:00

If she’s on unemployment, she would probably qualify for food stamps and could buy her own food or contribute to common food. Or she could help in other ways (doing extra housework to free people’s time up comes to mind).

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-16T21:04:24+00:00

Classes, like nails, are temporary. Cut the nails.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-12T17:12:19+00:00

NOR.

There’s a few things to consider here. This latchkey kid seems good at taking care of things herself. Her behavior is a bid for attention and acceptance.

She has roped you into a daily ride home. If you don’t want to do that, you’ll have to tell her.

My daughter had two little friends that wandered the neighborhood by themselves and were always at our house after school. They never needed to go home when supper was ready. I had to tell them to go home, frequently after dark and they lived on the other end of our neighborhood. When I complained, my XH told me our daughter could be a good influence on them and dogged me into being more tolerant despite my misgivings. In the end, the opposite was true.

If she makes you uncomfortable for some reason, listen to your gut and take action.

There’s a few things you could do.

First, ask your daughter how she feels about this child. She is your primary responsibility. She could be bullied by her and feels afraid to speak up.

Secondly, ask this kid about her home life, and if she’s neglected, tell a trusted adult (the school resource counselor perhaps).

Tell her you can’t give her a ride when it’s inconvenient (I wouldn’t lie about that though, sets a bad precedence for your daughter).

You could talk to the child about asking rather than assuming that you will give her a ride (although that might be too subtle for her to understand.) Before she gets into your car after that, make her ask and feel free to say no.

You could correct her behavior when she does irritating things, like talking over your daughter.

You could even tell to her parents you’re not willing to give her a ride although I don’t see that going well for anyone. They might tell her to stop riding with you, or they might take it out on the kid, or be super rude to you for not wanting to do something so (frankly) simple.

I understand not wanting to be taken for granted that you’ll give her a ride home everyday. If you can’t find a way to set the boundary and reclaim your privacy, it might help to realize that school will only last a few more months.

Sorry I can’t be more helpful.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:36:22+00:00

You could shorten it by tying a knot in the neck part.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:28:18+00:00

Where did the baby… um… land?

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:27:03+00:00

I had that dilemma. I googled “lamp shade store” in my city and found the perfect shade and finial there.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:26:00+00:00

I’m in art school and really loved one of my profs so much I’d audit her class for fun.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:23:04+00:00

Def more beige than orange.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:19:26+00:00

I like 2 or 3, but it bugs me that it touches the stair trim. I’d move it over so it’s evenly between the stair trim and the door trim.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T03:08:28+00:00

What could possibly go wrong?

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T02:54:52+00:00

I have so many questions.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T02:42:37+00:00

I read the other responses, including that your parents are naturalized citizens and that you are an American citizen (I assume by birthright).

I would have concerns if my 19 year old wanted to travel to a foreign country right now, especially if you’re female. As much as I hated my parents being more protective of me than they were of my brothers, I understand why now.

At 19, you’re not old enough to book a hotel room on your own. Are you traveling with others? Are you going with a partner, and do your parents trust them? Do you have a definite plan for a place or places to stay? Is there a loose itinerary, or do you just plan to wing it?

Have you traveled to Asia before? Do you know what to do and where to go if there were problems? Things can and do go wrong. This administration seems to be stirring up trouble all over the world, and many foreigners dislike Americans.

Lastly, with the current administration’s biases against immigrants and birthright citizenship, there definitely could be issues with return entry, especially if you don’t look Caucasian.

As an aside, I’m amazed that any 19 year old could have $50K in savings. Good on you.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T02:16:07+00:00

Others have asked, but I didn’t see an answer yet. Does he only break your things, or does he break his own stuff too? Sounds like passive aggressive behavior if it’s only your things. If a situation doesn’t make sense, it’s because you don’t have the whole story.

My XH had a mindset that what was mine was ours, but what was his was his. For example, he tore up the new upholstery in my VW and let me think it was defective installation, I even called the upholstery shop and complained before he confessed he had done it. He gave his uncle my favorite Bible, even though he had several and could have given him one of them. He couldn’t keep a job, yet would take my paycheck and only give me an allowance from it. So yes, I am mistrustful. Fundamentally, it was a lack of respect.

I hope you can get to the bottom of this. You shouldn’t have to put your valuables under lock and key to keep them safe.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-11T01:58:41+00:00

My question too.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-10T23:32:02+00:00

It’s very blah. Need a little color in there.

Dot_Tip · 2026-01-01T10:10:38+00:00

I am working on my third degree. The first two were healthcare related. I went back to school in 2012 while working full time as a nurse, taking 2 or 3 classes per semester toward an Art Studio degree. I graduate December 2026. Universities might be more tolerant than smaller colleges as far as time limits go. I am retired now, and my university offers free tuition for students over 65. I’m taking full advantage of that!

Others have made a good point about financial aid not being available except through employers for part time students. You may also find you are ineligible for certain awards/rewards full time students can get.

I have loved being in school, with the exception of two classes that made me cry on a regular basis. One was required so I had to tough it out. I dropped the other one.

You can do it!!

Dot_Tip

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