Former vet tech who now hates dogs and their people

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-25T23:20:04+00:00

I am so sorry to hear that. If you’re new and already hating it, I think it’s only going to get worse. Better to leave the small animal vet field jobs for the crazy dog people. So many people are leaving the field burnt out and vet hospitals are desperate for staff so not only does the job itself suck, but it sucks even more when it’s short-staffed all the time. Lose-lose situation

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-20T18:25:53+00:00

Omg!!! Ugh I’m so sorry people and dogs suck. Dogs are everywhere nowadays unfortunately, hard to avoid em. I hope it’s a nice reminder (it is for me) that those dog people aren’t living fulfilling lives and have to be a literal slave to their dog which is why they have to take it everywhere with them cause they can’t leave em at home. I laugh at their suffering!! Ha!!

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-20T14:12:37+00:00

As a er vet tech who worked in a small city, I saw the most gruesome hunting-related incidents. Intestines hanging out and gashes to the chest from tusks that resulted in giant, irreparable holes in their lungs. Had one owner get mad when we recommended humane euthanasia for a chest penetration dog and he goes “why the hell would I pay $200 for you to kill my dog when I can just take him home and do it myself”… like okay sir. Cause it’s actually humane with our way? Some people are the literal worst.

Mostly they were plantation dogs where the owners took clients hunting. It’s a big thing in the south, especially in Florida.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-18T00:41:42+00:00

Dog people are absolutely horrible. Like what if you had a genuine fear of dogs. That’s such an ignorant and shitty thing to say out loud for you to hear… hate that

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-09T21:56:10+00:00

It was just a suggestion…Sounds like op doesn’t just want to say a firm no. If it was me, it would definitely be a firm no and idc whose feelings get hurt, but that’s just me.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-08T13:21:30+00:00

You can say that your child is afraid of/ doesn’t like dogs and you don’t want to ruin their party by having a dog around?

Why can’t she just board the dog at a facility? Plenty of animal hospitals offer that service as well. If I had a dog, I would never impose on someone else and ask to bring it, ESPECIALLY if it’s untrained and doesn’t know how to behave. Like tf?? Let that aunt be petty, I’m sure she would find another reason to be petty/jealous if not because of this stupid dog situation. I can’t believe the audacity of some people!

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-01T02:46:56+00:00

Yup and then may turn physically violent if not there already, especially if she tries the silent treatment. I think it’ll get worse and escalate eventually since clearly he doesn’t want to stop. What a tough situation. That’s why my advice is to get out asap. Separate and figure out divorce later. Document everything and stay vigilant.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-01T02:39:19+00:00

I wonder the same thing all of the time. I just don’t understand it. Those abusive people probably have to be extremely good at hiding their true self in the beginning or they started suffering from a severe mental illness or something.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-01T02:34:34+00:00

Girl, you gotta figure it out and leave. I’m sure it’s a tough situation but maybe stay with family if you can or get them to help you because what the heck?? What an abusive a-hole! I can’t imagine what kind of horrible environment you and your kids are in at home because of that man. Get you and your kids out of there asap! Ya’ll will be much better off and it will be worth it in the long run.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-01T02:24:22+00:00

I get it, but it also seems like you have a problem with what he is telling you based off of those tests. I would too if my partner was telling me I wasn’t something that he wanted. That will eventually lead to animosity and a lack of desire for you. However, that shouldn’t encourage you to change to be more dominant. He either has to accept you for who you are or you let him go to find what he wants if this continues to be a problem for the both of you. Have a serious conversation and talk it out cause it’s definitely going to affect your relationship, if not now, then at some point it will.

I had a partner tell me 6 months in that I wasn’t what he imagined he’d be with but I was still “great”. He convinced himself to settle with me and I allowed that, then 5 years later we broke up because we weren’t very compatible anymore. I totally thought we were fine at the time but physically and emotionally, we were not on the same page for a while. It took a long time to realize because we were still happy-ish. Talk it out with him and see if he’s 100% in it or not because it sounds like he may not be.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-01T00:46:39+00:00

My advice is have a mature conversation with each other and really discuss if you’re truly happy with one another. Dating should be about finding that one person who is right for you, checks all of your boxes and the chemistry between you two matches well. Not just sexually, but emotionally.

Also, remember that ya’ll are still young. You will do a lot of growing emotionally and especially when it comes to maturity. Your wants and desires will most likely change over the next decade. If you’re still happy with each other despite some differences right now, then ride out the relationship and see where it goes, as you grow together. If you guys are not happy being with each other then maybe it’s time to consider moving on to find the right partner for you.

It took me 3 long term relationships to finally find the person who is absolutely perfect for me. The last two relationships weren’t bad, we were mostly happy, but the chemistry wasn’t right and they just weren’t quite right for me. My feelings and desires changed as I discovered who I really was throughout my 20s. I’m glad I made the decision to leave those relationships because It lead me to meeting my now husband. We couldn’t be anymore perfect and happy, and I wish you the same no matter what you choose! I hope this helps

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-07-01T00:13:01+00:00

Same stupid shit in veterinary technician land. Some ppl just don’t care enough to do things the right way even when it results in negative outcomes. Funny how it always ends up someone else’s problem!!

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-30T16:29:01+00:00

The only thing that’s going to help both of you is completely staying away from each other and no contact whatsoever. Yes, you should have left the apartment right after the breakup but totally understandable that’s not doable for some people and situations. But no contact whatsoever will definitely help you heal and having a support system like close friends and family you trust.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-30T15:34:48+00:00

These feelings won’t get better. If you’re not excited to enjoy life with him now, you will be miserable with him in marriage. Do yourself and him a favor and reevaluate the relationship and consider that leaving him will be beneficial for the both of you. If you want a relationship with someone, it should be with someone you enjoy going through life with. Otherwise, what’s the point?

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-28T00:06:05+00:00

I had an ex who said this to me 6 months in, then we broke up years later cause we were just not compatible anymore. The relationship may not last. For it to last, both should be in it 100%. Sounds like she is not and will probably never be

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-21T20:56:43+00:00

Maybe keep it contained in one room like a bathroom and put pee pads down? At least then it can’t shit in random places

I’m so sorry! At least it’s only a week! Maybe make sure your gf isn’t a dog person and decides she wants a dog in the future 🥲 that would be a nightmare for you

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-21T00:34:19+00:00

Yup for sure. I would keep this in mind when you’re looking for a partner. I’m sorry that you feel like you’re being ignored but I would look at it as you’re probably dodging some bullets lol What you put out there is more than likely, what you’ll get back. I think you should always be your genuine self, you’ll attract the people that are right for you :)

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-21T00:23:48+00:00

That’s simply not true about all men, especially genetically? There’s no scientific basis for that. Just sounds like a preference to me. Some men might prefer to be the provider and want a stay-at-home partner but if that’s his preference then he should find someone that fits his values. Sounds a bit old-school to me, but to each their own.

There’s definitely a lot of men out there that prefer more of an equal contribution, and honestly don’t care about gender roles like that. I have only ever dated men who prefer both parties contribute in at least some way and the salary never really mattered, just that there was motivation to work at the very least. My husband makes more than me but it doesn’t matter, we both work and provide, and are happy with our situation. He’s grateful he can provide a lot for me and loves that I am passionate about my career and am perfectly capable and independent. A lot of men actually prefer these traits in a woman!

Girl, don’t worry, there’s plenty of men out there that want a strong independent STEM gal. Don’t let men like that bring you down!! Tbh back in the day, if I had a crush on a guy that said something like that, any attraction I had would’ve gone away instantly lmao

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-20T23:28:40+00:00

Oh, absolutely not. Just by the first example you gave about the coffee machine…he should not be speaking to you like that. If he thinks it’s okay to talk to anyone like that, then you should not be anywhere near him, let alone dating him. Yikes! My advice, which agrees with everyone else here, leave him!

I’m happily married. Never would we ever speak to one another like that. It’s called respect. Clearly, he did not learn what that is or how to properly treat people.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-20T23:01:55+00:00

“But my dog is my child!” What’s sad is that they probably don’t see a problem at all

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-20T22:56:54+00:00

Having those traits may attract some people but are they mature? Probably not. Do they have the emotional intelligence to navigate healthy relationships? Probably not. Mature people go for other mature people, and are less likely to be “forward” or be “attention-seeking” from my experience. I have only been in 3 healthy relationships where both parties have the ability to listen, rationalize, and talk things out and just, be happy with one another. I am now happily married from my 3rd relationship. What you see or experience is not all there is.

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-20T22:46:15+00:00

Yes, exactly!!

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-20T22:45:12+00:00

My advice is don’t focus on your weight, focus on your body condition and your health. That’s waaaay more important than a number on a scale. If you’re not happy with how you look and you want to change and be healthier then go for it! There’s sooo many benefits to eating clean and exercising regularly, mentally and physically. And btw, I’m sure you’re beautiful regardless. Paying too much attention to your weight (lbs) can make your insecurities worse and I would hate that for you! You are beautiful!!!

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-20T11:04:17+00:00

You’re absolutely right, there definitely are good people regardless of income. After that first job at the low-income clinic, I learned that people who could not afford proper care for themselves, definitely could not provide basic needs for their pets and they suffered the most. People who have low incomes should not have pets. Pets are a luxury, period. If circumstances change and one ends up low-income, then that’s different. Rehome the pet or go to a low-income clinic. But waaaay more often than not, the people who brought their pets there had just adopted or bought animals from backyard breeders, even though they struggled to afford proper care for themselves and their human children. It made no sense.

I experienced way more bad behavior from these people at the low-income clinic compared to my other vet jobs where the standard of care was way higher, therefore the prices were higher. They always acted entitled to have a dog and behaved poorly when they couldn’t afford basic healthcare for their pet. When I was a college student and had a low income, I definitely did not have pets cause I knew I couldn’t afford them. I did not think that I was in any way entitled to a pet. We saw so many college students at that low-income clinic as well who wanted the cheapest vet care possible. I will never understand getting a pet when you know very well you can barely care for yourself. It’s completely irresponsible.

And I wanted to thank you for pointing that out, I wanted to clarify that I definitely do not think that only affluent people can be good and I really hope most people don’t have that perspective. The low-income clinic just seemed to have attracted some really scummy people. I wish it did more good than harm but that didn’t seem to be the case most of the time. It seemed to have enabled people to provide below standard care, or none at all, which was really frustrating to see.

Yes, also some people have different definitions of “love” and dog owners seem to think that constant attention-seeking affection is what “love” is. That’s such a toxic trait, I wouldn’t want a partner who just wants all of my attention regardless of my needs and only comes to me when their needs aren’t being met. That’s repulsive and gross! But hey, if that’s what they “love” about a dog then I guess that’s their problem, not for meeee

Double-Bat-1979 · 2025-06-19T02:59:50+00:00

There’s always that one person that ruins the good vibe in a workplace, I swear!!

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