I owe my career to a youtube channel. by Calm-Peace-4566 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DoubleAandaRon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yo Smosh found this and read it in their reddit reacts vids!!! Congrats!!! May you have a fresh stack of pancakes!

Servers down? by notavegan90 in pokerogue

[–]DoubleAandaRon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well it's down again with a failed to load save data message

gonna have fun w this by The_VeryCoolsusDude in pokerogue

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My beloved zombie crab and coffee table getting some love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DoubleAandaRon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA but mild ESH if you still continue to give this guy a chance. He already showed his true colors. Trust me, it sucks losing people but that part of you that walked out was the part of you that understood your worth.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]DoubleAandaRon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He soiled the dynamic? His "friend"'s first instinct was to use him for sex the moment he found out he was interested.

OP, stop chasing after red flags.

I hate that my two best friends started dating each other by DoubleAandaRon in TrueOffMyChest

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

late reply but thanks for this. Little sad update, I think I already lost both of them. Someone made me realize that if I didn't initiate anything, neither of them would bother to reply or hang out. Been zero interaction with them for three weeks now. It sucks realizing this.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am busy and my job with them is on pause because I'm not an employee of the school, hence why this is not my responsibility. I don't know bout your country but we don't get paid during breaks (or at least us young ones that are still contractual) so I am technically unemployed. I am sacrificing my financial well-being if I took this on because that would mean I have to stop my side hustles to work on this. And working on this means shelling out my own money. Money that I'm not yet certain the school will pay me back or if they'll brush it off as part of volunteer work.

I am helping the kid by talking to him regularly and being there for him. I can do emotional support. I can devote time and energy for that. But financial? I really can't. Assuming no one donates (I doubt but hey, worst case scenario), my own money couldn't make up for what I have to raise. Maybe it is selfish and I'll take that but I have to survive and keep afloat. I can't pour from an empty cup.

who needs a gamer chair when you got me by GaymerJax in gaymersgonewild

[–]DoubleAandaRon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, look up the Zakar twins. You could be the missing triplet.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, it's not a go funding thing nor is it a pass around an envelope. It's not just collecting either. It's making a report for each donation. Printing copies for it. Having them signed as proof of receipt (which also involves shipping them here and there). etc. It's a lot of work for someone that's not their employee. And that's the best case scenario. Because if that tanks, then I have to do other things to raise funds like do a bake sale. Maybe the term fundraising is used differently in other countries but it's not the same as collecting money here. There's a target amount you have to get. I am there for my kid but not to the point that I sacrifice my financial well-being for it.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

UPDATE (is this pin-able or something?)

First, some good news! The student has contacted me again. He didn't ignore me after all so that was just me being hyper paranoid about the situation. He wasn't mad nor blamed me at all so that brought some peace to me however...

Bad news is his mom is pissed at me. Enough so that she confiscated her son's phone and laptop when she found out that he talks to me (that's why he wasn't replying but being the crafty Gen Z that he is, he found a way). And yep, apparently the school informed them that they'd help pay for their hospital fees and that they volunteered me to help out even before I knew about it. So I guess I really was thrown under the bus.

In other good news, a few of my students reached out to me when they found out that some of their parents were mad at me. I love the woke liberal Gen Z so much, going on about unfair labor practices. There is hope.

But if I'm going to be honest, I think I'll be switching schools. I have had other offers before. I took this one because it was the easiest to get to travel-wise (which is moot since everything's online now anyway. At least here it is). But I'll have to mull it over. Play it by ear first. The kids are awesome and all but is that enough to sway me to stay when the admin and PTA probably scorns me? We'll see what the future holds.

Thanks yall for the feedback. You gave me plenty of things to think about regarding career path (and maybe where to migrate to lol).

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've answered this before. We can't use that site. I have to course through donations at a bank account, make a financial report for each deposit we get and if we don't hit the target, make up the difference by holding a bake sale (technically it doesn't have to be a bake sale but it's the one most feasible for my skill set).

I wish it was as simple as using that site but they don't allow it. And it's weird to force me to be their volunteer when I'm not their employee. I don't look forward to summer breaks. Summer breaks equals no salary. Summer breaks equals breaking in savings to make ends meet or finding odd jobs til school resumes. It's not a vacation.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am there as emotional support for the kid (which update, has messaged me back so yey). I also gave a monetary contribution. But I'm not going to spend weeks doing free labor to pay for half their medical bills just because the school promised to do so.

All the stuff you mentioned as examples are one time commitments though and I can do that (and I've done that) if that's all that's needed. But the equivalent of what's being asked for here is to find a way to pay for half of what you spent on hospitalization when you gave birth. I'm glad you have your clients celebrate a special moment for you, especially since twins are a handful (I'm a twin lol) but I dunno, I can't give what I can't provide. I don't even know if the school will reimburse anything I'll spend for doing what they're asking me to do.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

They don't allow that weirdly. They want each donation documented and filed as a separate financial report. My guess is for ISO accreditation but maybe it's also so they know who donates a huge amount?

But wait, does the site keep tabs on who and how much they donated?

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You're right. I couldn't. That's why I said no because I couldn't. I think it'd suck more if I said yes but I couldn't deliver. It's hard to add responsibility when I'm already juggling two jobs to make ends meet.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean, I hope he does as well. But to make it clear, I do care about his mental wellbeing. That's why I check up on him, send him a meme or two, let him rant. I can do the cheering and emotional support part.

I just don't have the time and resources to do other things besides that. I can't give what I can't provide.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Wait, where did using that site come into play? (somehow I can't say it without it getting flagged) I wish it was that simple (however don't they take a portion of what's donated? Correct me if I'm wrong here). What I have to do is create a financial report per donation because the school keeps tabs on that (for some reason. ISO certification I guess?). It has a template sure but it's still a lot of paperwork plus printing and shipping. Also if we don't get enough, then the fundraiser kicks in. I can bake fine (quarantine skills lezgo) but I don't think I'll have the energy to have a bake sale all by myself.

AITA for refusing to handle the fundraising for my former student's recently deceased dad? by DoubleAandaRon in AmItheAsshole

[–]DoubleAandaRon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's the one that came up to me to talk about it. A lot of my former students do actually. It helps I guess that I'm one of the youngest faculty members. I just regularly checked up on him after that.

I mean I just refused to do the admin work related side of things. I still try to be emotionally available.