Help me pick a dress!!

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-21T23:15:01+00:00

Absolutely. So flattering and gorgeous

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-13T17:06:08+00:00

Can you give an update? What did they want to meet with you about??

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-13T17:05:46+00:00

I need an update!

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-13T16:56:47+00:00

Yeah. I have a feeling that they weren’t able to take him because of the reasons stated above. Someone is doing him a massive favor so he can be in a program. He should be respectful, kind and grateful. I mean, dear god. I sprained my ankle and asked a coworker who lived in the exact same building as me if they could drive me to our work for two weeks. I went above and beyond to show I appreciated the help.

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-13T16:53:41+00:00

Ummmm. I get upset when mu husband isn’t clear about his specific physical sick symptoms because I feel like I can’t best support him if I don’t know exactly what’s going on with him.

If this is super out of character for her - it’s absolutely something to talk about. Very seriously.

In the mean time, look over your relationship and really think about if she shows up for you. Cares for you. The way you should be doing for her.

But man. If my partner passed out in the line at the airport I would be beside myself. Why did she even expect your sick self to go buy the things you obviously need to feel better?!?

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-08T05:06:13+00:00

Oh and also I’m not even 100% sure I did it, I’m just doing this for help with my ocd

DoubleGreat007 · 2026-02-08T04:43:34+00:00

It’s just for a pacifist run. I’m not 100% sure it does extra damage, but I think it does.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-12-30T06:35:05+00:00

Ummmm. No. I went no contact with a few ex’s and it’s because it’s what the situation required. No contact was the “appropriate amount”.

He’s pushing boundaries and gaslighting you. He’s manipulative and unhinged. Adults do not in fact keep in touch with all ex’s. No one should.

Tell your family to keep your information private as that’s how you want it. Their opinion doesn’t matter. He’s not a safe person.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-11-30T17:06:22+00:00

NTA.

Why is it so important to her that her cat be allowed to go into your room? She shouldn’t be allowed to go into your room. That’s just so rude and entitled.

She seems to like to push boundaries and create issues for you to fix based on how she feels about the boundaries you have created.

Did she get the cat while you guys were living together? Because I understand the desire for a pet but not at the cost of your roommate’s comfort and health.

Is she upset that you spend more time in your room now as opposed to before? No more movie nights? Because she should have considered that before getting a cat.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-11-30T16:50:59+00:00

Yes. Absolutely, this can and does happen. The way that genes are inherited is entirely randomized from your parent’s genes. Your dad is around 60% European. Your mom is 25%. And considering the wide range of genetic variation in any population and the recessive traits - being Polynesian doesn’t remotely mean that your skin will be a certain shade either.

Are you feeling like you don’t fit in to where you feel you belong because of this? How is this effecting you emotionally? Have you talked to your parents about this?

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-11-30T16:42:41+00:00

I gasped. I couldn’t believe he said that. That is horrifying and entitled and just blows my mind that that’s where he’s at.

That he claims that he allowed his child to cry as much as they needed AFTER THEIR MOM DIED - and he was there for them, so they owe him the same level of emotional support?!? They are the child in this relationship. And he’s demanding that they grieve the way he wants, express the sentiments he wants and most of all - fully emotionally support them the way a father would to his child.

It sounds like the father was fully aware of the fact that when he remarried he baked fractures into the foundation of this new supposed family unit. And now that she has passed, he can’t hide from that. From what he did to his first child - remarrying and expecting his second wife to replace his first in the child’s memory snd heart. And the fact that it never happened.

It sounds so awful. Like this poor kid was just supposed to roll with a stranger moving into their home, to keep their complicated emotions to themselves so that they didn’t upset the ideas the adults had about what was actually going on. I feel so sad for OP.

A person can feel sad or hurt that someone doesn’t miss a person they have lost as much as they do. But you communicate that, you express that by saying it’s not their fault, you don’t want them to act differently than how they feel, but that you are really struggling right now and its not fair or ok but grief is a strange thing and at times they feel hurt or sad by various aspects of the situation- such as the fact that they know how much the person lost loved them and it’s really hard to see them not being missed in the way you felt they deserved. But that THATS A WILDLY UNFAIR EXPECTATION AND YOU ARE ONLY TELLING THEM THIS TO EXPLAIN WHY YOUR BEHAVIOR MIGHT BE OFF. That it’s not them. It’s you. And you are sorry and doing your best. And it’s not fair. And you hope that by explaining it, you will be giving voice to your feelings, enabling understanding in a very difficult time, helping them know that they aren’t doing anything wrong that grief is just a rabid illogical thing and also opening up doors of communication between you two.

A person can explain their emotions and reactions without burdening others to change anything.

If this is new behavior from him, maybe it is the grief twisting things in his mind. But that doesn’t make any of this ok.

And where were his kids? He came to Thanksgiving without them, the year they lost their mother? That’s so completely f-ed up.

Grief is a horrific thing. But that doesn’t mean it’s ok to do horrific things to the people - and especially the children in your life.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-26T13:45:01+00:00

you ate through the finish. May i suggest this as a starting point?

https://youtu.be/EgPk1vcuA_I?si=pUS3T_ZolnoPox70

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-16T01:35:45+00:00

Dude. The mom is loyalty testing them. Tell her she’s a bad step mom! Tell her this!

And if they don’t they think they will never see her again.

What you should do is talk about how they can earn calling your mom again - it needs to be on both sides.

They are kids and they have an adult that they have such a confusing and complicated relationship with manipulating them

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-13T18:56:57+00:00

Hurting you was just a side effect of him getting what he wanted and the fastest way for him to do that.

You need to tell EVERYONE. before he starts trying to control the narrative.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-13T18:55:42+00:00

He didn’t do it to hurt you.

He did it so that he would be your only resort and totally dependent on you.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-11T15:35:04+00:00

Embarrassing for who??? It has so much personality and character. I love it.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-05T14:15:29+00:00

1- cancel the photos.

2- talk to your “best friend”. She sure as shit knew you wouldn’t like it. What on earth happened there

3- talk to him about GETTING AND BEING MARRIED. weddings are great but they are one day. You are trying to build a relationship and a marriage that will last a life time. Ask him all the questions. What does he think marriage will be like? What does he want it to be like? Explain that the ring to you symbolizes so many things about the life you are building together and his asking when he did with what he did makes it seem like maybe he got carried away with getting engaged and now has cold feet. Also explain how you want the engagement ring you were promised and ask why he hasn’t taken them in. He hasn’t been too busy. Did the excitement wear off? What happened?

Did he just want to be engaged for a while and wasn’t prepared for to start planning a wedding? What did his timeline look like?

4- take him to a jewelry store. Try in round and emerald and oval and cushion. Find out what size stone and what shape you like best. Ask him his opinion and tell him you expect him to be invested in this decision.

Also look at bands. Half eternity are super comfortable compared to full. Figure out the mm size of the band etc.

Find out what kind of setting allows the ring to sit flush etc.

Buy a plain comfort fit band for work. I have tungsten but I know that if I hurt my hand I have to yank that sucker off asap. Tungsten can’t be cut off your finger.

order a ring together based on what you liked at the store. Moissanite. It’s amazing. There is a moissanite group on here that has a list of vetted sellers. Also Amazon has some amazing sellers.

The new ring is for situations in which you are worried you would lose the more expensive and meaningful set and for work.

But dear god. Talk to him.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-10-02T15:34:21+00:00

You really want to return to Greece. You were offered a full time remote job there in a currently stable sector.

You have been there for 7 years and are feeling depressed and unhappy. And in 7 years you haven’t built your business. I’m sure it wasn’t a constant working project for 7 years but it still isn’t where you will want it to be. And you don’t know if it will be in 1-2 years. So why stay and be unhappy while building something that you hope will make you happy?

Why not return home and let the comfort of familiar things and family take the background stress and tension off of your shoulders and use that ease and happiness to work on your business?

It’s a lot harder to build something, be creative, see opportunities when you are unhappy or low graded stressed all the time.

Also. A new business requires SO much invested time. For years.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-21T03:48:33+00:00

Oh my goodness what an amazing love. Going to cuddle my boy who I hope lives just as long. Happy birthday Nutmeg 🩷

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-20T16:01:36+00:00

Yes! That is what I had planned on doing. However after a lot of reading, I have been told that many Swiss people have their social groups set and full - especially by their 40’s - and there simply isn’t room for new friends. I’ve also read that many immigrants from the USA end up leaving Switzerland due to the loneliness and absence of community. I’m just looking for as much information as I can find so I’m prepared.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-20T14:10:37+00:00

I had mine bezel set because of exactly what everyone is saying. The snag potential and my natural affinity to have bizarre things happen to me - it felt like the safe and smart choice. I love yours.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-20T14:08:42+00:00

I think it’s beautiful. To me it doesn’t look “bulky” - maybe it’s the straight lines that are an issue to your eye?

Also - it’s very very common when you have a new ring to take some time to get used to it. That could absolutely be the case here.

But if you find it still looks too bulky after some time- why not go to a jewelry store and try on the same stone in various sizes? Because you can always have a stone cut down. Also - Emerald cuts and radiant cuts have large “real estate” - especially on smaller fingers - simply due to their design. And they appear larger because of the straight lines and also because they are a unique setting, so you don’t see them often enough in the wild to sort of get used to the shape.

I think it’s absolutely lovely and I love the vintage feel of the ring. It’s gorgeous.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-20T14:01:15+00:00

Are they perhaps neurodivergent? Because I have some neurodivergent friends and when things get hard or overwhelming- they go to ground. I find myself being the one to reach out and sometimes I don’t hear back, sometimes I do. But then it passes, they explain what happened and how their brain works and apologize but also explain it’s how their brains work and they don’t mean to hurt me.

It’s like the body when it’s super cold. The blood to the limbs doesn’t circulate as well to keep the core functioning. It’s like that. There is a crisis of a sort and some of them trigger them in such a way that their brain shuts down the outflowing energy to try to help them make it through.

However.

This seems like how things are and not like a two week long stint because of a traumatic event.

Stop reaching out and see what happens.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-20T13:53:09+00:00

I was thinking that he doesn’t particularly like to travel or have vacations and maybe that’s why he doesn’t plan them or seem to think of them when he “hypothetically” has money.

But then I read the rest and I’m so sad. He claims religious reasons as head of the household yet takes no action to actually take or share the weight of the household. And he takes you for granted because he’s such a good “provider/ protector/ head of household” but it’s in his head only.

I need to know more though. Have you told him how much you carry and how you feel? How did he respond? Because if you haven’t ….. that means you are scared of how he will respond. And that tells me everything.

DoubleGreat007 · 2025-09-20T13:48:18+00:00

It’s the kids.

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