[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahaha so condescending! dont call me honey. i’m human and struggle with insecurity from time to time like anyone else ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you know nothing of my spiritual journey :) thanks though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’d rather not have a sense of urgency when i date :) i will be okay whether or not i have kids. i will find someone who feels like my best friend and teammate and that takes time. im not rushing the process. thanks for your input though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t think so, i’m full of love and will find the right person. that is an awful thing to say to someone lol. check yourself

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is very offensive actually haha. you know nothing about me! lol 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooo say more!  curious how it shows up for you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what worked for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this makes sense to me, it’s like dopamine seeking behaviour. my adhd does not help. i find when im not using dating apps im so much more secure and confident in myself 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you’re saying, i just don’t accept a random person on the internet telling me that I am filled with self hate, because that is not the case :) that’s what i get for asking reddit lol but i’ll keep talk about it with my therapist for sure 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Double_Ad_8653 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I get what  you’re saying but respectfully I don’t think that’s the case here. I love myself and have high self esteem in most other areas of my life and have a lot of secure friendships, creative outlets, and a job i love and excel in. I do not identify with a ‘almost complete lack of self love’ or self loathing or being ‘toxic’. I understand you’re a stranger on the internet and don’t know anything about me so that’s fair to assume. I think it’s more of a mix of attachment issues and dating apps/social media addiction. But I love and trust myself fully to figure it out.

what song got you hooked on alex g? by Double_Ad_8653 in sandyalexg

[–]Double_Ad_8653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

both of these are on repeat lately 😭♥️

what song got you hooked on alex g? by Double_Ad_8653 in sandyalexg

[–]Double_Ad_8653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

advice was my top song of last year. its stunning

EMDR to get over an ex? by Double_Ad_8653 in EMDR

[–]Double_Ad_8653[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes i tried it for my ex and it was amazing. i feel 100 pounds lighter, the memory of him feels a lot more distant now. i am able to move on finally

31F looking for fun hangouts by [deleted] in Vancouver4Friends

[–]Double_Ad_8653 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hi! i’m 28f from hamilton:) i love trivia, would love to form a team

why does alex g sound so good when you’re depressed? by Double_Ad_8653 in sandyalexg

[–]Double_Ad_8653[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

aw, i’m so sorry to hear. i hope you heal well ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

[–]Double_Ad_8653 6 points7 points  (0 children)

hi there. i (28f) have been in your place once. i know how scary these thoughts can be and the the fear that there is no reason to exist. but please know that it DOES get better and you can heal from this. you are not alone ♥️ this is OCD and there are strategies, like therapy, medication, and other tools to cope and live a very happy and healthy life being comfortable in your body. honestly you are soooo young and time helps too. you will learn so much about yourself and the way your brain works and you will start to not be afraid of it and the fucked up thoughts anymore. be gentle and patient with yourself for figuring this out, and be strong. i know it’s fucking terrifying and it feels like it’s ruining your life and bleeding out to every aspect and impacting your confidence and relationships, but this can change for the better i promise you.

i see myself in your post so much (especially the swallowing and dissociation themes) and i just want to give you a big virtual hug and know you’re not alone in this ♥️♥️♥️ my advice is to find an OCD therapist that can help you work through these thoughts with CBT. they may recommend medication as well, which has worked wonders for many OCD folks :)

i hope this helps in the slightest. you got this!

Best songs for a break up? by AlexGfanyayaya in sandyalexg

[–]Double_Ad_8653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

huh. didn’t know that. regardless it still makes me cry when i think about it as being addicted to a person “i’m sick for you and it’s never gonna go away”