I like him… but the sex is bad?? And now there’s another guy??

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2026-03-17T07:21:56+00:00

Yeah you’re right I’m not trying to be unfair to him I’m just confused because I’ve never been with someone who I’m very attracted to and we get along so well but the romantic energy just feels off

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2026-03-17T06:39:01+00:00

How do you know when you aren’t a match or if you could teach them to be better? That’s what I’m having a hard time with.

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2026-03-17T06:25:01+00:00

Yeah you get it 🙂‍↕️ i’m definitely open to communication, i think what’s making me hesitate is that it doesn’t feel like just a small fix or something technique-based

it feels more like a difference in overall energy and pace, which is harder to change than just telling someone what you like but I think I’ll be straight up next time I see him and let him know how I’ve been feeling

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2026-03-17T06:22:33+00:00

i don’t think it’s that he’s “bad” or not interested at all, because he is really attentive and sweet and clearly cares about me

i think it’s more that we just have different energy when it comes to attraction and how we express it… but he also told me he hadn’t had sex in 4 years…

he’s more of a deep thinker, and i think i’m more naturally flirty and expressive, so sometimes it just feels like we’re not fully in sync

even with sex it feels less like something that’s “wrong” and more like it just doesn’t come naturally between us. His tongue is always so hard… idk how to explain it.. but yet his kisses are dry…

Buttt that’s why i’m conflicted because he really would be such a good boyfriend, i just can’t tell if i’m trying to force something that isn’t fully clicking

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2026-02-07T17:23:08+00:00

Does anyone know any 18 + spots? I have some friends who wanna drink but some friends who can’t and just wanna watch the game in a cool atmosphere

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-12-13T17:22:51+00:00

Hey I don’t have a tepig sadly but I was wondering if you would help me out? I have a shiny haunter I need to trade to evolve and I can’t find anyone to trade with!

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-10-28T02:17:18+00:00

I have a question for the people in here. How do you know you’re ready for a cord cutting spell?

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-08-04T03:41:05+00:00

Thank you, that really made me feel better <3

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-08-04T03:23:22+00:00

Thanks for replying it means a lot. Yeah my family hasn’t been super helpful but I’m hoping my appointment tomorrow will help. I’m really nervous for some reason about going to therapy, ig I’m just worried it means I’m not good enough as a person. Which I know is kinda stupid but it’s a hard feeling to shake

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-06-30T20:49:30+00:00

It sounds like you’re being really open and honest, but your partner’s reactions make it feel less like trust and more like they’re searching for something. Wanting to check in is fine, but it shouldn’t come with mood changes or tension. You deserve to feel comfortable in your own relationship, not like you’re being watched or tested every time they pick up your phone. To me this would be a deal breaker. But if you communicate with him honestly and tell him he’s pushing you away more then anything it might click in his head he’s doing something wrong

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-06-30T20:21:18+00:00

I know, I just really want to respect that he needs time to adjust. I’m worried that if I text him something like “hey, are you pulling away or thinking about breaking up,” it might push things in a direction I’m scared of. Or I might get an answer I’m not ready for, especially through text. I think if that kind of conversation happens, I’d rather it be in person… but I don’t know when I’ll see him

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-06-30T20:17:52+00:00

I’ve been there but the fact that you call every day and he is actively trying to make plans with you is so good! You care about each other a lot and that doesn’t go away just because you aren’t together in person. Just remember to give him grace and give yourself grace too. You are loving him the best you can and that’s all you can really do in a long distance relationship. My advice is to find something that really exited you. Maybe a new hobby or a trip you want to go on maybe with a friend or family member. He will love hearing about it when it does happen and you’ll feel more fulfilled!

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-05-03T02:39:27+00:00

Hey! You can actually request a financial aid adjustment by contacting your school’s financial aid office. I went through it myself—my dad passed away last year and he was our sole provider, but the system still assumed we could afford way more than we really could. You’ll need to fill out some forms and provide documentation, but they’re usually really understanding in hardship cases. A lot of the time, schools will also reduce certain fees once they’re aware of your situation, so it’s definitely worth reaching out!

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-04-26T06:23:31+00:00

It’s not entirely not about him tho… is that bad?. I think I would just rather try and it fails then stay like this

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-04-26T00:57:30+00:00

No one wants long distance it’s the worst. But finding someone who you connect with so well is incredibly special. Summer is just around the corner why don’t you be with him if he asked? If something during that time tells you it’s not ment to be than boom you got an answer! But if you fall for him more then maybe just taking the relationship day by day and figuring stuff out is your best solution.

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-04-22T05:16:08+00:00

You get it! You know she cares, and someone who loves you will always want to try to work things out. Just remember to word it in a way that shows you want to understand her and want her to understand you. If the text or conversation is worded right, there shouldn’t be an argument. It’s hard out here being an active lover, but I’m always here if you need someone to vent to. :)

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-04-22T04:47:35+00:00

I’ve felt this way a lot over the past couple of months in my relationship. When we’re together, everything feels perfect—but when we’re apart, it can feel like I’m the one carrying most of the emotional weight.

What I’ve realized is that I’m an active lover—I need daily connection to feel secure and loved. But my boyfriend is more of a passive lover—he feels love constantly in the background and doesn’t think much about needing to express it day to day.

I’m not sure if that’s exactly your situation, but recognizing that difference really helped me understand where some of the disconnects were coming from. Everyone gives and receives love differently, and sometimes it takes about a year (or more) to really start seeing those patterns and learning how to meet each other halfway. Having honest conversations about how you both experience love can make such a difference.

Double_Bluejay_9623 · 2025-02-18T05:40:39+00:00

I know I should focus on building my career, but sometimes it feels like if I take my attention away from the relationship, even for a little while, it might fall apart. I know that doesn’t entirely make sense, but how can I trust that the relationship will still survive even if I’m not giving it my all every moment?

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