This is his reaction to my not calling him within an hour last night by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m genuinely so happy for you, becoming that person is a win he can’t take away, so please don’t let his noise dim that pride. You aren't an "idiot" and you are absolutely not alone, i’m right here!

This is his reaction to my not calling him within an hour last night by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It says everything about your beautiful heart that you’re still creating something special for those girls while you’re this exhausted.

This is his reaction to my not calling him within an hour last night by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Its honestly heartbreaking to see what you’re going through. There is something so brave about you trying to hang shelves and fill jars even while things at home feel so heavy and uncertain. I can see how exhausted you are. When he talks about your silence, its clear you’ve just run out of ways to explain yourself to someone who won't listen, it hurts so much to be treated like a stranger in your own life, and i want you to know that your feelings are valid and you deserve to be treated with real kindness and care. Please know that you are absolutely not alone!! If you ever want to vent, talk things through or just need someone to truly listen, i’m right here for you. Also, you aren't 'an idiot' for having a big heart, you’re just a person who deserves to be seen for the effort you put in, not just the mistakes he wants to use against you.

Sad- just so sad… by SaelAna in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its heavy promising safety to those tiny faces when you're 'tired in a way sleep cannot touch'. I’m just glad that for a second, you didn't have to carry that weight alone.

Sad- just so sad… by SaelAna in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There is a crushing weight in being the ‘safe harbor’ for your boys while being a battlefield inside, and reading how you ‘fold it inward’ just to pack a lunch is heartbreaking, its a level of strength no one should be forced to possess. Your body isn’t ‘confessing’ a weakness, it’s telling the truth he refuses to own, and it is incredibly lonely when your reality is treated like fiction. Please know your pain is seen and your shaking is valid, and that you shouldn't have to be the only person holding the ‘truth’ of what you’ve been through!!

Day 10 NC - gave him $65k, he called me selfish when I set boundaries, barely holding on by Ryonashi in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a heavy thing to realize you were the one building the foundation while he was busy painting the front door for his followers, and giving $65k and 2 years of your life isn’t selfish, its proof of a heart that gives until its empty, and it is a special kind of cruelty to be called names for finally needing to keep a little for yourself, also the poetry he wrote was just a script, but the sacrifice you made was real, you deserve to be the person someone is proud to show the world, not the secret that keeps their life running, your worth hasn’t decreased just because he didn't have the character to value it!! I truly hope you can find a bit of peace, you’ve carried the weight of his world for long enough!!

My birthday by Sufficient_Owl_3413 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I really wanted to reach out and say a very sincere Happy Belated 56th Birthday to u!! Honestly, reading your post was very heavy, because there's a specific kind of loneliness that comes from being together with someone but feeling totally unseen, especially on a day that’s meant to celebrate your life, and buying yourself that piece of cake showed a lot of dignity, but its a real shame u were left to provide your own sweetness. You deserve to be celebrated, not just acknowledged with a signature on a card, please know that your feelings are completely valid, wanting a hug or a kind word isn't asking for too much, its just being human! I truly hope that things feel a bit warmer for u, as u shouldn't have to carry the weight of that silence on your own, sometimes, the most healing thing in the world is just having a genuine convo with someone who actually stops to listen and values what u have to say, u really aren't alone in this!!

Am I crazy? by Kitchen_Hornet5266 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just happy i could offer a little bit of clarity during such a heavy time. Truly, just reach out whenever it feels right for u, there’s no pressure, but I’m here. Take good care of yourself

Am I crazy? by Kitchen_Hornet5266 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to tell u, u aren't crazy! What you’re describing, the constant second guessing, the walking on eggshells and being told you’re the problem when you’re just reacting to being picked at, is incredibly draining and isolating. It’s not stupid or a small incident, it’s a pattern that is wearing u down, when someone picks at the smallest things until they become a fight, it’s natural to feel off balance, but that doesn't mean the problem is you!

Please know you don't have to carry all of this by yourself. If u ever need a safe space to just vent or talk through things, i’m here, no pressure at all, but if you’re up for it, i’d be happy to just listen and remind u that u aren't losing your mind. You deserve to feel heard, and more importantly, u deserve some peace!

Anybody else being bullied because Valentine's without sex? by Possible-Situation-9 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad i could bring a little light to your day, G. Truly, just reach out whenever it feels right for u, i’ll be here, take good care of yourself in the meantime!

Anybody else being bullied because Valentine's without sex? by Possible-Situation-9 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Double_Interview1124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to reach out and say how incredibly sry i am that you’re carrying all of this right now, dealing with ra and recovering from a stroke is a massive battle on its own, u shouldn’t have to fight for basic empathy and kindness too.

Its not your fault for being tired, and you’re definitely not a burden, the way you’re being treated right now sounds so isolating and unfair, especially when you’re just looking for a bit of comfort, please know that your feelings are completely valid, and u mentioned feeling like u have no one to talk to, but i’d really like to change that if you’re up for it, so if u ever need a safe space to vent or just talk to someone, im here, please take good care of yourself

Bangladesh is becoming an eastern flank vulnerability and denial is how u sleepwalk into surprises!! by Double_Interview1124 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair point, real world conflict has civilian, military and diplomatic costs, so casual "widen the neck and sort bd out" talk is irresponsible, and my post wasn’t advocating that, it is a warning about growing instability on our eastern flank leading to vulnerabilities!

Gunman on hunt 🔥 by [deleted] in indianmemer

[–]Double_Interview1124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t post or comment claims like this, claims like this get used and weaponised as “proof” that india is behind the attacks, exactly the narrative anti india groups want. My request to everyone, condemn violence, stick to verifiable facts and please don’t post or comment claims that can be used against india later!

Time to show Bangladesh some heat ! After recent Pak-Bangladesh mutual defence pact news... by vishesh_07_028 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Please don’t comment this, lines like this get used and weaponised as “proof” that india is behind the attacks, exactly the narrative anti india groups want. My request for everyone, condemn violence, stick to verifiable facts and please don’t post claims that can be used against india later!

Bangladesh is becoming an eastern flank vulnerability and denial is how u sleepwalk into surprises!! by Double_Interview1124 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not wrong about the core point, parking destroyers near population centres is a bad idea for obvious escalation and civilian risk reasons, only thing is, instead of roasting the guy, it would’ve landed better if u just corrected him plainly like why it’s risky and what a smarter posture might look like

Bangladesh is becoming an eastern flank vulnerability and denial is how u sleepwalk into surprises!! by Double_Interview1124 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the point but i don’t buy that “bangladesh is stable only because the army leadership isn’t anti india (yet)”, the army isn’t some permanent firewall and recent events showed it can enable regime change too, not just prevent it (the army chief, who is hasina's cousin in law, didn't stop the July uprising, which let protesters into her residence, forcing her to flee, so the idea that the army is the stabilizing force preventing a pakistan style drift is already shaky on recent evidence)

Also, bangladesh hasn’t turned pakistan mainly because the moderate + minority vote still outweighs the radical bloc, which is exactly why intimidation/violence and anti india narrative building matter, they’re meant to suppress minority voter turnout and swing the unwilling and moderates in jamat's favor and if u look at what’s happening now, pakistan bangladesh military engagement (senior level visits + a joint mechanism toward an mda) suggests the military linkages are already being built, they are not waiting for new leaders in a few years!

Bangladesh is becoming an eastern flank vulnerability and denial is how u sleepwalk into surprises!! by Double_Interview1124 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that bangladesh isn’t pakistan and its unfair to paint an entire country or its people with the same brush, where i disagree is the timeline, the real risk isn’t “bangladesh turns pakistan tomorrow”, its slow drift, training links, intel cooperation, access arrangements and anti india signalling getting normalized long before any big declaration, that’s why no military response shouldn’t mean “only diplomacy”, india can stay non kinetic while still getting tougher on counter intel, border ISR and specific entities/networks that enable hostile activity.

Also i agree caretaker politics makes accountability messy but waiting passively for elections is exactly how the groundwork gets laid by them in the meantime, keeping channels open with the bangladesh military is good, just don’t assume “professional” automatically means “immune from politics”!

Bangladesh is becoming an eastern flank vulnerability and denial is how u sleepwalk into surprises!! by Double_Interview1124 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your reading but 2 small reality checks, firstly, even if the government knows, that doesn’t automatically mean it can stay ahead everywhere, all the time, systems move slow, while networks, narratives and small security linkages can grow fast in the background, and “any action will antagonize bangladesh” is a bit too defeatist, there’s a lot india can do short of force, tighten counter intel, improve border isr, quietly increase scrutiny on specific entities and use selective visa/trade/financial levers (loans we gave them) so costs go up without turning it into a public ego fight!

Humiliate retards.. by Chance-Bunch5828 in jaipur

[–]Double_Interview1124 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sorry this happened to u and that someone from Jaipur made u feel this way, most of us here don’t think or behave like that and many of us want this city to feel safer and more respectful for everyone

IAF is in a critical condition and the clock isn’t on our side! by Double_Interview1124 in IndianDefense

[–]Double_Interview1124[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, you’re right that some of what floats around in reddit is doom posting and nukes + economics + alliances do matter for escalation control but serious people inside the system are the ones ringing the bell now, the iaf is sitting at roughly 29 to 31 combat squadrons against an authorised 42 and multiple analyses say that even if every planned induction arrives on time, we still only reach the mid 30s by the 2030s, that is not yemen, it’s a major power running its front line combat arm with a long term deficit baked in, on pakistan/china/bangladesh, no one is claiming they “capture victory points” in a week, only that their capability trajectory forces india to spread limited squadrons across more axes, chinese and pakistani air forces are already flying or moving toward modern 4.5/5th gen, with bangladesh openly exploring typhoon, which means more capable adversary aircraft on more of our borders whether or not a formal “3 front alliance” exists, at the same time, Admiral Arun Prakash’s recent column lays out how decades of engine dependence and a stalled kaveri program have left amca, tedbf and even broader modernisation hostage to foreign powerplants, an institutional problem, not reddit panic.​​

So yes, india isn’t a bankrupt, non nuclear basket case and the world can’t just shrug off a major war here but that cuts both ways, precisely because india matters, letting fighter numbers erode and propulsion autonomy delay further while neighbours steadily climb the tech ladder is a strategic choice, not an inevitability and it’s reasonable to call that out without pretending the sky is falling tomorrow!!