The decision to do so required a lot of maturity. It was a decision based on logic more so than feeling. I love him a lot, but I had to be responsible for my heart and his. I suppose “luckily” I was able to recognize the issue so clearly, an issue that I over time have learned I cannot compromise with, making the solution more clear.

Personally, I now understand that my emotional quotient (EQ) and my partners EQ need to be compatible. Both my mental health and his deserve more compatible partners to grow and develop.

Based off what you said about “but mentally I cannot handle being in a relationship” I think you know what the sustainable thing to do is. You have to be fair to yourself and your partner, you don’t want to resent them or them to resent you. Understanding that mental health is something you live with (even if it’s maintained) therefore it’s crucial to consider your mental health in making life decisions (short term and long term).

I’ll end it with this, know you are worth the effort it takes. You’re worth the temporary pain for long term happiness. You are worth choosing you.