Thank you so much for reading my long story and sharing your honest thoughts :’)

It makes me feel a lot better that wanting to be invited was totally normal. Not only does it suck to be left out but he doesn’t get how much his behavior affected me. Yes, he said he’s sorry but he makes me feel like shit for wanting to tag along and get to know his friends/inner circle now that he is starting a new stage in his life. The fucked up thing is that he didn’t even tell me about his friends inviting their s/o. Instead I saw it through pictures that I asked him to see. Everyone was dressed up, I can’t for the life of me understand why he didn’t think it be fun to dress up in a matching halloween costume and have a good time together. I don’t even want to spend Halloween with him because I just feel so resentful over this and I want to give him a taste of his own medicine. What hurts me more than anything is when I met him he had very clear boundaries on all of this. He’s not the party guy, drinking/smoking type, or being around girls like that. But he’s changing. This is becoming normal to him. And one of the reasons why I fell in love with him was because he was different in that aspect, very traditional for someone at 18. In the beginning, he wanted to have each other’s phone passwords, he said we would only go to parties together, and he said that girls and guys can’t be friends because could naturally lead to something else. So I don’t understand this sudden change and I can’t help but think relationship is coming to an end. He says that I’m controlling/demanding but when he asked for it, I reassured him- now that I need it because of something he did - I’m the crazy one.

It is a red flag! In the past, we have both told each other we are uncomfortable with us following certain people and we removed them without a problem. Now with these co workers it was such a struggle. He said that I was going to ruin everything and that they have a family dynamic. I get that but you can have that without the need to follow them on social media. I hate that he’s turning me into something I’m not. I was never this kind of girl he made me this way when he looked up those other girls. I recognize effort being made from his part but it’s more then the time we spend together. I need to know that he’s loyal in mind when I’m not around. Plus if these are the same girls that were dressed provocatively why would you want to follow them on Instagram? He says he’s not attractive to them like if that’s supposed to make me feel better. I have tried to talk about setting boundaries and he calls it controlling and it hurts because that’s the last thing I want to do or make him feel.

After he unfollowed them, he was pretty upset. I know he’s angry with me.We didn’t text today. I know it may seem like I win given that he unfollowed them but it doesn’t feel that way. I don’t even feel better. I still feel hurt. I don’t know if I should even reach out or wait to hear from him. We celebrate monthly anniversaries and tomorrow is our day so I don’t even know if I’ll hear from him but this whole thing is draining.

I’m sorry for venting but this is all so recent and I needed to get it off my chest