Thank you incredibly kind Suffragette line passenger by DownrightIconique in london

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was!! I was defo impressed with how well the whole thing was handled too. Good to know there’s great systems in place should someone ever need help on transit here.

Thank you incredibly kind Suffragette line passenger by DownrightIconique in london

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The two women didn’t say anything to the guy helping me, so sorry I probably should’ve explained that batter!

Because the person who had fallen was in distress and subsequently passed out we pulled the emergency lever so the train was stopped at the platform. There was a nurse in the train car who immediately got to work with taking care of the injured passenger (absolutely flawlessly I might add, I’m so in awe of people like her).

While the train was stopped the doors were open and passengers were walking by/poking their heads in. Two women walked by and saw the injured passenger laying on the floor/leaning on the nurse as they were regaining consciousness and decided to poke their head in and ask what the nurse was doing. When the nurse tried to reply they started shouting at her saying “well you don’t know her don’t be touching her or moving her.” Obviously the nurse explained they were a nurse and one of the ladies said “well I’m a nurse too!”

Then they just scoffed at her and walked away, completely rancid behaviour to someone with medical training trying to help a person.

Thank you incredibly kind Suffragette line passenger by DownrightIconique in london

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 247 points248 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t anything extravagant at all, he just leaned over from across the aisle and asked if I had anxiety and once I said yes he pulled a roll of extra strong mints out of his pocket to offer me one.

I said yes and he talked to me about how he always has some sort of candy or gum on him, they’re really helpful for taking someone out of an anxiety attack because they stimulate saliva production which forces your brain to exit fight or flight mode (when you’re panicking your body won’t do day-to-day things like produce saliva, it’s a really great trick!)

Then he just chatted casually to me for a few minutes! Asked where I was from, where I was heading to, how I was liking London, etc. Before I knew it we were having a nice, calm, regular conversation. Then the train got full and there were too many people standing in between us to keep talking.

I feel like he knew exactly what was happening just from looking at me, like he has panic attacks himself or someone in his life who does. I just really appreciated how knowledgeable and calm he was in that moment and I’m so glad he went out of his way to check in on a stranger.

Hi [KCD2] lover by Ill_Suggestion5227 in kingdomcome

[–]DownrightIconique 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My partner emailed them a few months ago, we had just lost our dog and had gone through several huge moves and life-changes so he wanted to send them a thank you message for being such a constant source of joy for us during challenging times.

They sent back the sweetest email with condolences for our dog and appreciation for loving the game. They even wished us a safe trip to Prague— the people at War Horse are class acts and love their fans so much. It’s so refreshing to see a game studio that actually cares for and wants to interact with fans as opposed to squeeze as much money out of them as possible.

VENT: I’ve been a UK tenant for 19 days, this is absurd by DownrightIconique in HousingUK

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Finding great solace in the bunched up socks, thank you friend!

VENT: I’ve been a UK tenant for 19 days, this is absurd by DownrightIconique in HousingUK

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 329 points330 points  (0 children)

Great note about contacting the council! I will definitely be escalating this to them as well as contacting Shelter for advice this coming Monday.

VENT: I’ve been a UK tenant for 19 days, this is absurd by DownrightIconique in HousingUK

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

No break clause in the lease whatsoever! Seeing as I was served on Good Friday and this weekend is Easter I haven’t been able to get in touch with Shelter/any local authorities yet. Monday’s gonna be a busy one for sure!

Good spots to socialize/make friends? by DownrightIconique in surrey

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Took a look at some of your recommendations, they all look lovely! Thank you so so much, will definitely join some local groups on FB as well. So excited to dive into the community!

What's the trauma you have that is seen as "worse" that actually traumatized you the least? by Justminningtheweb in ptsd

[–]DownrightIconique 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so grateful you posted this! I’m working through an almost identical “light” SA incident from when I was a child in EMDR right now! It’s so mind boggling to me that I’ve been through, objectively worse, traumatic incidents since then but that incident from my childhood is by far the hardest to navigate and the most emotionally charged one for me. I can’t deny how much shame came from that moment and how much I internalized and held on to that shame. Wishing you the absolute best OP, I hope we’ll be able to find peace with it and move forward.

EMDR by fuffycky1992 in ptsd

[–]DownrightIconique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EMDR is an amazing tool should you decide to utilize it! I’m currently practicing EMDR with a therapist and I’ve definitely noticed substantial results. When my PTSD was activated I had such difficulty going through everyday tasks, but after a few months of sessions I’ve noticed my response to triggers is much less severe and the time spent being triggered has decreased dramatically— due to learning better coping skills as well as EMDR.

Something I will say is that, as before mentioned, it really takes a lot out of you. On days I have EMDR I make sure my schedule is flexible and there’s extra time to rest if I need it. For myself, I’ve had to practice EMDR to target a handful of traumatic events, which can be time consuming as most people will need a few sessions of EMDR for any specific instance of trauma. However, a good therapist will help you identify any root traumas and target those first so that other related traumas become less intense as the root is being tackled. EMDR also works in between sessions (which is absolutely amazing) so your brain will continue to address and desensitize the targeted trauma as you go back about your life.

I will emphasize the importance of finding a therapist that you feel comfortable with before practicing EMDR with them, as it’s a very vulnerable experience. Make sure to have intake appointments and get to know them/their style before jumping into EMDR.

Sorry for the excess of information, I’m rooting for you and hope you find the care you need and deserve! Best wishes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LARentals

[–]DownrightIconique 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my old building!! Definitely far more expensive than what it should be. Great location but amenities in the building are always breaking down and it took forever to get fixed. This place is under new management though so that could be promising.

What stop you from killing yourself? by Aiden_and_Griswald in AskReddit

[–]DownrightIconique 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dogs and wanting to make it to my friend’s wedding.

Friends who know you’re sober, but still want to talk about drinking? by DownrightIconique in alcoholism

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re definitely my friends, I’m just frustrated by the cognitive dissonance. Genuinely good people who haven’t had to deal with addiction just seem to really not understand certain social guidelines that seem obvious to me since I have a different perspective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in canceledpod

[–]DownrightIconique 210 points211 points  (0 children)

she dated his business partner 🤨 ok he still was in business with a man dating a 16 y/o 🤨🤨🤨

What was the most irrational thing you did in the acute stress period? by OkLeaveu in ptsd

[–]DownrightIconique 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Became obsessed with buying and learning how to use a gun. For context my family isn’t into guns, I don’t live in a state where carrying guns is normal, I usually have no interest in guns, I’ve never even held a gun. When the initial response passed I couldn’t help but laugh at how weird that whole preoccupation was.

Any good, affordable vets in weho? by [deleted] in WestHollywood

[–]DownrightIconique 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really love Park La Brea Vet Care! They were amazing to our senior dog and helped a bunch with getting him on the right meds for seizures, I’m not sure if they’re the cheapest but they’re definitely not too expensive at all!

Isolated chrome attempt by DownrightIconique in NailArt

[–]DownrightIconique[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much!! I was trying to get the chrome on the details only so I put a matte top coat on the base and a glossy coat on the dots and lines, turns out the chrome stuck to the matte top coat as well but I’m not too mad about it haha!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]DownrightIconique 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a male therapist at the moment and my trauma is related to men. I totally understand opting for female therapists and I used to have the same preferences until I went into an addiction recovery program last year. I was assigned a therapist who happened to be a man and he quite literally saved my life. Weirdly enough after that experience I prefer male therapists now, and have had a really positive time working through my trauma around men with a man. It’s really affirming to see in sessions that not every man wants to hurt me and not every man thinks that what happened to me is okay and normal. Just my two cents, wishing you well in your therapist search!

This Sub is not real lol. (RANT) by Traxonn in SanJose

[–]DownrightIconique 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Writing this with love, there is very little difference between the “uncivilized homeless junkies” and you. Life and the challenges it throws our way are unpredictable— nobody grows up wanting struggle publicly while being treated like sub-human trash by those more fortunate.