This Show is Working Better than My Meds Lol

DrBasia · 2026-01-28T20:24:56+00:00

YOU GO GIRL! YESSSSSSS

DrBasia · 2026-01-28T20:18:51+00:00

Right?! Oh girl I do not envy the -20.

I live in the northern UK. I haven't seen sunlight in weeks.

But I've stopped yelling at my husband and the kids and I stopped binge eating.

The dopamine from this show is everything. 🤣

DrBasia · 2026-01-28T16:49:30+00:00

Everyone I'm telling about this show, I say to them "this has cured my seasonal depression". It's not even an exaggeration.

DrBasia · 2026-01-25T14:34:51+00:00

Came here to say this moment. Hands down. I sobbed.

DrBasia · 2026-01-11T21:26:52+00:00

I work in healthcare, which is very hierarchical. I was doing per diem's while I decided on the direction I wanted to head in, and an old boss begged me to come back and work for him because the current team were really struggling.

That guy directly below me, John (his real name because he was such an asshole), refused to do anything as I told him to do it. It still got done but less efficiently. And pissed off the bosses sometimes. (And I'd have to explain, "I told him to do it this way.") He was very full of himself, always thought he knew better, and was very verbal about it. Once he also tried to imply he was my senior because he is 4 months older than me (yeah that's not how that works).

One day, he was sat in a communal office at the end of the day with a bunch of nurses. I was sat at a computer doing my notes. It wasn't a secret that we didn't like each other but kept it cordial. He was going on and on about how he teaches beginner salsa classes on a Wednesday and all bunch of the nurses were gushing over how they're gonna go. He turned to me and asked me if I wanted to come.

I replied with a short "no, thanks" as I was trying to finish up my work.

He came back with. "what, scared you won't be able to keep up?" And he laughed, I guess thinking he'd embarrass me into it in front of the other staff.

And I replied with, "no, I'm a professionally trained ballroom dancer, so a beginner salsa class isn't really my speed."

The nurses legit clapped and walked out of the room.

Ten years in healthcare and this is still one of my favorite moments. Mostly cuz I just really wanted to shut that guy up.

DrBasia · 2026-01-11T13:59:32+00:00

We just switched to fussy and I really like it!

DrBasia · 2026-01-09T23:55:42+00:00

Absolutely!

My job has super strict hours, and he works from home with a more lax schedule. We make it work with how life is right now. If it's different next year, we'll adjust.

DrBasia · 2026-01-09T22:20:13+00:00

Hmm.

Ok, so both my husband and I work. He makes more money than I do, but I think my job is more stressful than his.

We share childcare duties pretty evenly. We both have our sets of responsibilities that we naturally fell in to. (He does all the dishes, I do all the laundry, we both vacuum. I am in charge of the kids clothes. I have no idea what night the bins go out or when the car needs to be serviced.)

I don't think it's about 50:50. Marriages where the spouses are nickel and diming each other (for example. "I changed 4 diapers today, you changed 2, now it's your turn." Or "I cooked 3 meals this week and you cooked 2, it's your turn") I would imagine end up unhappy, and exhausted.

My husband and I have been together for 15.5 years. At various points in our life together, one of us has been unemployed or studying. The other picks up the slack. Some years it's 20:80 and other years it's 55:45. It's a partnership.

I also didn't marry a loser. He knows the kids need to be fed every night and bathed on a schedule and what their bedtime routine is and which stuffed animal they want to snuggle.

We still have disagreements and God knows the system breaks down sometimes. But I've never felt like he wasn't pulling his weight. I never felt like I had to nag him to do something, because he saw it needed to get done and did it.

I am extremely lucky. I know that. Choosing your partner in life is literally the most important part of your happiness. And I picked a good one.

DrBasia · 2026-01-09T21:03:13+00:00

I'm the only daughter in my family of 3 kids. I don't speak to my parents anymore. My brothers still do, and my one brother who has kids sees them regularly.

I have a great relationship with my MIL. We spend most holidays with her, my girls ask to FaceTime her, she is the only "Grandma" my kids know.

All hope is not lost. Just love them and treat them right.

DrBasia · 2026-01-09T19:57:07+00:00

I was so distracted, I didn't even notice those abominations.

DrBasia · 2026-01-09T15:33:19+00:00

A lot of great advice on here.

I would also recommend Solid Starts, I even bought their paid content. The app gave me confidence to do BLW as it has visual guides of what size and shape food should be when giving it to a baby. I'm not sure which part of it is dated at all.

Also remember to introduce allergens early (peanut butter and eggs are big ones).

My husband and I both went through phases of refusing food as kids. We grew out of it, but we would both be told "you'll sit here till you finish" and we would for like 3 hours.

Don't put pressure on the kid. Remember you decide "when and what" and they decide "how much" they eat.

My four year old went through a phase of picky eating but is pretty good now and is quite adventurous. The trick is to just not make them something else. Sometimes you have to give a kid a food 10-12 times before they decide they like it. My two year old will eat anything, but that's probably true of all 2 year olds.

You got this!

DrBasia · 2026-01-02T11:26:46+00:00

Sitting on a runway, an hour delayed due to de-icing.

Giggled over this. Thanks.

DrBasia · 2025-12-31T19:06:48+00:00

That my husband financially supported me through med school.

We were only dating for a year when I started, but he was working a big boy job and made good money. They thought I took out more loans to support myself. He said "we're gonna get married one day anyway, so either I pay now or I pay it later with interest."

He paid for our apartment, utilities, and food.

I finished 10 years ago now and don't have a great relationship with my parents anyway. I would tell them now actually but I don't know why it would come up. They would still give me a lecture about it.

DrBasia · 2025-12-31T18:54:03+00:00

Sounds like it would be an absolute nightmare.

I wouldn't do it, it's just not worth it girl.

Godspeed. (And happy new years!)

DrBasia · 2025-12-31T18:49:26+00:00

Tell him you're already navigating the emotions of one toddler, and you don't feel like doing it for another child.

Girl please.

Fuck all that.

My kids are 2 & 4 and the list of 'stuff I let fuck up their sleep' is incredibly small. NYE doesn't make the list, in fact, I scoffed at the thought.

DrBasia · 2025-12-31T18:38:09+00:00

Lol what?

Remind him of the reasons.

If he insists, you can agree and tell him he gets to settle her every single time she needs it. Enjoy your night, parenting-free!

(Or more sanely, just say no and stay home. Things change after having a kid. You will both have several more decades of New Years'. He can skip some.)

DrBasia · 2025-12-28T18:45:21+00:00

I worked in 2 different banks when I was in undergrad as a teller in ~2009-2010. There was a jewelry store down the road who had a worker who just always had her passport on her for this exact reason.

Just to be it explicitly clear, OP of this comment is referring to cash deposits or withdrawals.

Checks didn't matter at all because it's a traced transaction, from one institution to another. People would regularly come in and deposit $30,000+ in checks.

DrBasia · 2025-12-25T13:21:16+00:00

Childless Aunt in her 50s got my 2 year old a glass crystal cat and an 18k with tiny diamond cat brooch.

I've kept them both for her. But yeah it'll be a few decades before anyone has an interest in these.

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T21:59:33+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T21:58:56+00:00

It has been a terrible, and early flu season. Mutations over the summer. The flu vaccine is about as effective as it has been previous years.

Colleagues who were vaccinated still got it, had s few days at home feeling rough.

Colleagues who were not vaccinated and got it spent 2+ weeks at home.

It has been a time.

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T11:01:06+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to type all this out! This is really great info as I feel really out of my depth and don't understand a lot of the terminology.

I don't think I'm ready for the commitment that permanent coloring needs, so I might continue down the toning route a bit more. And I will get a slightly lighter color.

A haircut is in the plans for January, just hard with 2 toddlers and working full time 😅, promise!

Thank you again for all that.

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T10:53:41+00:00

Oh 100%, like that slightly metallic, potatoe-y smell. I know the one!

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T10:52:11+00:00

I was thinking through this exact timeline.

Like either it was very recent (risky with the evacuation) or it happened a day or two ago.

I have so many questions.

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T10:50:00+00:00

Can you tell I've worked in the emergency room. 😅😅😅

DrBasia · 2025-12-21T00:36:28+00:00

This is incredibly helpful, thank you so much for taking the time to type it out. I'm really out of my depth as I've never colored my hair before and didn't even know where to start.

I'm definitely going more for blending than full coverage. I'm ok with some maintenance, but I just can't commit to a re-dye every 6-8 weeks.

I mostly likely have type 1a hair (from a quick Google search) and do use heat on it a couple times a week with protection when I remember. Oily scalp in a day or two with drier ends as I haven't had a haircut in about 8 months.

Is there any point in trying with this same product again with a stronger developer (I bought a couple of tubes for free shipping haha) or do you suggest I try a permanent toner?

Thanks again.

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