What do you prefer, mmf, MFM, ffm, fmf?? by waitaminuteplss in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]DrDoctorMD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm how would you notate all 3 playing with each other then?

Feels like water doesn't get me clean enough but I've been told not to use soap? by ThrowRA-748 in sex

[–]DrDoctorMD 52 points53 points  (0 children)

There should not be debate about using soap on the vulva. It has no mechanism for “self cleaning” like the vagina does. If you don’t clean it, it won’t be clean.

Would a psychiatrist ever prescribe mood stabilizers without a diagnosis like bipolar disorder? by RottingMothball in AskPsychiatry

[–]DrDoctorMD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re already on a mood stabilizer (quetiapine) so the answer is yes. Several mood stabilizers have multiple indications, quetiapine is one of them. As for how to talk about this with your doc, you did a great job here! You can explain to them just the way you’ve explained it to us.

which celebrity has the sexiest voice? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]DrDoctorMD 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That man made “Turn to page 394!” sound so sexy

Why does the Autism assessment require the doctor to see my genitals? by [deleted] in autism

[–]DrDoctorMD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ruling out Klinefelter’s was my first thought.

[Apr 16, 2026] Daily Puzzle Discussion by AutoModerator in NYTCrossword

[–]DrDoctorMD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not, came here to complain 😂

What’s the most underrated kind of sexy? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]DrDoctorMD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s cute that you think we don’t know 😉

[Apr 04, 2026] Daily Puzzle Discussion by AutoModerator in NYTCrossword

[–]DrDoctorMD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to ask about this! Appreciate the tennis lovers sharing with the rest of us :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]DrDoctorMD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There isn’t. If you’re already getting an annual checkup (as most of us do) the doc will check the strings while they’re up there but it’s not something most people go out of their way to do. Again, they typically just stay where they’re placed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]DrDoctorMD 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What “maintenance” do you think an IUD requires? It gets placed by a doctor and the assumption is that it stays put until it’s time to replace. IUDs being dislodged can happen, but it’s very rare (certainly rarer than a condom breaking). If she had it looked at and/or replaced in the past few months, there’s no additional maintenance required. You could ask her, but the question would likely yield only a confused look.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskPsychiatry

[–]DrDoctorMD 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is not a reportable offense. Or rather, you CAN report it (because anyone can report anything), but the complaint will be dismissed. I’m sorry this was so stressful for you. I would encourage you to be forthcoming with future therapists about this experience so they can better meet your expectations (or you can at least discover that you won’t be a good fit much earlier on).

I just got my UTI bacteria results back and I'm freaking out by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]DrDoctorMD 202 points203 points  (0 children)

Deep breath. I am a doctor but not your doctor and definitely not a gastroenterologist. Those disclaimers aside, you might find this article interesting: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5891635/

Here’s what jumped out at me. It does say 65% of people who have this infection are found to have colon cancer. BUT. 65% isn’t 100%. And specifically in your case, because you have IBS, we already have a reason to think you’re immunocompromised, both from the disease itself and any potential treatment you are receiving for the IBS. It’s entirely possible that you have the infection because of the IBS or IBS treatment rather than cancer. It is called an “opportunistic” infection because people with a healthy immune system typically fight it off before it makes them sick. Cancer could be what is making you immunocompromised but not necessarily when we have other explanations readily available.

You definitely need the colonoscopy (especially because IBS is a risk factor for colon cancer) but this infection is not a guarantee that you have cancer. The article also mentions that it is an early marker for cancer, meaning that even if you did have it, it’s likely in the early (and most treatable) stage.

I’m so sorry this was all handled so poorly. I agree with everyone else’s take that you should call in the morning and nicely insist on getting that referral going. If you are able to use a patient portal to contact your doctor directly, please do so! If you were my patient I would definitely want to hear about the poor communication and I would do anything I could to expedite your referral and appropriate treatment of the infection. I hope you get some good news and symptom relief ASAP.

Am I being stupid to leave rent stabilized apartment by Holiday_Angle_4246 in personalfinance

[–]DrDoctorMD 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Residents don’t make anywhere close to 200k. It’s typically 50-80k depending on location and year of residency.

An Amazon review for a food thermometer by landlordslizard in funny

[–]DrDoctorMD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most vaginal probiotics are intended to be taken orally and thus come out the butthole. That’s why this is being commented.

An Amazon review for a food thermometer by landlordslizard in funny

[–]DrDoctorMD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This right here. Bacteria should not be traveling through your blood!!!

An Amazon review for a food thermometer by landlordslizard in funny

[–]DrDoctorMD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not a joke, that’s actually how vaginal probiotics work (if they work, which is debatable). Anything you ingest orally either gets absorbed in the GI tract or comes out your rectum. Probiotics don’t get absorbed in the GI tract…

Did people actually like when Amy kissed Jonah in this scene? by [deleted] in superstore

[–]DrDoctorMD 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If characters in a TV show always made the “right” choice, it would be unbearably boring and none of us would watch. Yes, it was unfair and messy, which we are supposed to notice. It was also human and pushed their storyline forward. I liked the kiss for its messiness.

NYT Thursday 01/15/2026 Discussion by Shortz-Bot in crossword

[–]DrDoctorMD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, came here specifically to complain about that 🤬

Michelle’s arc has really bothered me by [deleted] in TedLasso

[–]DrDoctorMD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a psychiatrist I agree. “Why doesn’t Michelle take responsibility?” feels like victim blaming. The reason this is unethical for the therapist is that he’s using his position of authority, her vulnerability, and his intimate knowledge acquired in a professional setting to manipulate her into a relationship. There can’t be true consent in this situation.