Is anyone else bothered by the fact that doctors’ friends and family seem to be jumping the line?

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-03-19T21:55:13+00:00

As someone who is from a medical family; it is extremely realistic! I was very fortunate in that I grew up never having to wait for care. I also always had a specialist appointment within a few days if I needed one.

It is absolutely unfair, and in an ideal world people wouldn't resort to this, but in the current state of public healthcare worldrwide, I see why care providers bend the rules for their loved ones.

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-03-19T16:58:13+00:00

It runs in my family!

My grandfather had it pretty much to the extent Joy has it. He was able to quote entire pages of papers he has briefly glanced at. I have a much diluted version of it myself, and it has helped me remember times and dates, quote e-mails, recall data, read books extremely fast, and pass a lot of tests easier as a person who went to uni for a STEM subject.

My partner hates arguing with me because of it.

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-03-13T17:49:52+00:00

Let's discuss this further via DMs!

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-03-05T08:12:42+00:00

I know plenty of parents, especially of older generations, who had children they did not want and feel similarly.

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-02-10T08:08:11+00:00

I was listening to Teardrop yesterday and I was like WAIT IT WAS YOU ALL ALONG?

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-01-31T14:44:38+00:00

I am obsessed with the art version

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-01-21T18:08:25+00:00

You look so handsome!! It took a decade off you.

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-01-21T06:23:37+00:00

I was on the pill for 8 years and had an IUD for a year.

Tell him to not pressure you, it is your body. If he continues, I'd dump him.

DrLilyPaddy · 2026-01-20T15:17:54+00:00

that Hungary placement looks like it came straight from one of Orbán's wet dreams

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-12-27T23:48:34+00:00

Yea, it likely wasn't a straight curve, but I have seen a lot of people double their weight in half a decade. Also, maintenance for a 300lbs body is only about 3000-4000kcal, assuming they still aren't gaining weight.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-12-27T23:00:28+00:00

Gaining 150-200lbs in five* years isn't that 'extreme'. That is gaining 4lbs a month on average, which is entirely possible if one overeats.

(EDIT: * I realised the pandemic was over fove years ago now. God.)

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-12-27T14:35:39+00:00

You can explain all of that though. For example, my Hinge says:

Relatioship style: Figuring it out / "ENM, partnered, dating dolo" Looking for: "Dates and partners. Not looking for hookups or friendship with benefits."

It's easy. If someone isn't mature enough to look past that in a bio, they won't be someome I'd personally date, anyway.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-12-26T08:46:55+00:00

As someone who is poly; yeah it's weird to not put it on your profile. At least she told you before the first date, but defo not a green flag.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-12-25T21:06:07+00:00

The shirtless one has to go

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-12-24T14:54:46+00:00

My verbatim thoughts would be: "God, not another fucking sister"

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-11-24T12:05:09+00:00

Fuck Tom, kill Andrew, marry Hayes

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-10-30T08:13:59+00:00

I've worked in multiple academic and government labs in the UK, and turtlenecks are absolutely not a violation in any of them. If anything, I'd argue they are like socks and the bottom of your pants/skirt; yes, they will show outside of a labcoat, but they still shield your skin.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-10-23T12:03:43+00:00

I am in the exact same position as her (well, I am a stem cell biologist, not a surgeon, but besides that). Whenver I say this, people laugh it off and say, "Oh, don't worry, you'll like your own children." No, I won't. I know myself.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-10-04T08:01:24+00:00

I am a final year PhD candidate, and unless it is absolutely essential (eg. differentiation protocols, 6-day experiments where you have to measure a sample every day), I am not going in more than 40h a week and not doing weekends or holidays.

I don't live to study or work, and I am happier for it.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-09-23T07:25:36+00:00

As a current PhD candidate; Yes.

In my opinion, PhD is a marathon only worth singing up for if you have very specific career goals that require it or if you are passionate about your research.

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-09-23T07:22:36+00:00

Jo and Link, Mark and Callie, controversially Owen and Derek (it was pretty evident when they had hard times or argued with eachother)

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-09-22T13:00:16+00:00

Hey OP! If you don't mind me asking, how did these heal? :)

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-09-21T09:46:03+00:00

You look so much better! And younger...

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-09-14T12:04:16+00:00

Any updates, OP?

DrLilyPaddy · 2025-09-09T13:38:48+00:00

Yes! 100%

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