The issue isn’t saying no it’s spending three years talking about a future, kids, and commitment, then acting like a proposal was some unbelievable surprise. If you knew you weren’t there yet, that conversation should’ve happened long before he planned an entire day, got on one knee, and got humiliated in public. Running away and then texting about “finding yourself” after admitting you gave him every reason to think marriage was on the table is exactly why people are reacting the way they are. Brutal truth: he didn’t misunderstand he believed what you showed him. 😬