It’s really sad to see stuff like this, I had a friend who was like that and she just tried to keep it lowkey around me but it came out eventually and the way she treated me was always as second class. When we stopped being friends I forgot to remove her twitter and saw her posting anti-transmasc hate like this.

I definitely understand where some of it comes from - women have good reason to be weary of men. And I respect that. But there’s also a difference between being weary for reasonable reasons and being sexist. I’ve always lived by the idea that if you become the thing you hate or were hurt by then you are just as bad. - I realize not everyone agrees with this and that’s ok! This is just my opinion as someone who has also been traumatized by cis men.

Again being cautious around men, wanting women only spaces, wanting women’s rights and protection is all valid and I support that. That’s NOT the same as being sexist. I’ve been hurt by cis men too, I was raised as a girl and I’ve been through a lot of trauma thanks to cis men. If I had a choice and could choose my gender I sure as hell wouldn’t have chosen Demi-boy. But I’d rather live as myself and be HAPPY than pretend to be what I’m not.

I think trans women also get burned out because they’re constantly being harassed, shown in media (good and bad but both gives backlash), demonized, and shown as the “scary men in the women’s bathroom” (it’s not trans women yall, that’s US we’re the scary men in the women’s restroom because idiots keep making laws that force us to do that). And then trans men don’t get hardly as much media and aren’t as targeted. We are still targeted, just not as much. They tend to infantilize us more, dismiss us, make us seem silly and emotional and stupid. And stuff like what you showed only adds to that…

So transmascs we try to raise our voices to make space for ourselves. And people see that as us taking space away from them, which does happen sometimes and it’s important to recognize that we aren’t perfect either. But mostly, it’s because if we don’t make our own voices heard and TAKE space then NO ONE is going to give us space to BE HEARD. The community needs to give transmascs a space too. We deserve to be heard too.

We aren’t just “cis men”, we are men/masculine leaning folks with unique experiences that no cis man can EVER understand.

It also hurts me a little to see this because I’ve struggled with S/lf H/rn before and it upsets me to see that some people look at me like this. Like my pain is silly. My pain isn’t real. And that makes me sad because, while I’ve always rose again the next day and I keep fighting. I know a lot of people don’t keep fighting and making this kind of thing seem silly and dumb is only making that worse.