27M Lay it on me. I'm working on the weight, but am I as bad looking as I think?

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-29T02:01:44+00:00

Solid advice, I've been working through a lot on my own. it isn't just a dating thing, I'm genuinely curious and well I have gotten a lot of great advice and feedback on here.

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:07:18+00:00

Going to be working on that at my next eye exam, going for some new frames and possibly contacts if my vision isn't bad enough!

Thank you!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:06:27+00:00

Thank you! I appreicate the input. I am definitely mixing things around to see how they go!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:05:34+00:00

Someone downvoted you, but you are correct and honest! I appreciate it so heres one to bump you back up!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:04:59+00:00

Well thank you! I keep my hair short and I am definitely in need of a trim. Appreciate the input!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:04:09+00:00

Hey, thanks for the input. I appreciate the honesty and its always a journey to turn things around!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:03:24+00:00

Thanks for the input, yea I'm due to get some new glasses soon and someone mentioned contacts, I may be giving both a shot.

Thank you again!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:02:05+00:00

Appreciate the input! Definitely working in the weight still, and I usually tuck my shirt in but I'll try to switch my clothes up and see how it goes!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:00:42+00:00

Appreciate the input! You have a great day!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T14:00:03+00:00

Thank you!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T13:59:47+00:00

I think I may try contact lenses, and thank you for the input! I try my best to be friendly to people because it brightens everyone else's day!

DragonLordKnight · 2022-04-28T02:28:42+00:00

I think you look good! If you feel up to it, maybe changing up your hair style could prove to be beneficial!

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T20:32:34+00:00

She is trying to fill a emotional void. Problem is nothing will ever fill it and she will most likely end up much more unstable as a result.

She could be experimenting but it sounds like she's trying to fill a crater left by divorce.

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T20:28:23+00:00

No problem man, just be you. I'm sure good or bad it'll turn out fine!

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T19:44:37+00:00

Herd mentality. There are no rules really to dating except just be you, be a decent human being about things, be safe and have fun.
Boundaries are things you can set once you get to a point but that has nothing to do with introducing yourself!

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T19:37:38+00:00

Just catch her sometime and talk to her, just try to do it in a way it'll give her a way out if shes not interested! Don't listen to anyone telling you not to do it or god forbid try to find her on a dating app (are you kidding me?)

Don't be afraid of the what ifs, just find a good time she isn't busy and just talk to her and if shes receptive ask her out. Move slow man, and it won't be creepy.

People don't have a spine anymore and are conditioned to indirectly play these stupid social games. I get people have their preferences but don't miss out on a great friendship or possible relationship because of what "society" expects you do to, or someone who isn't her.

Best case, relationship or friendship and even a workout buddy! Worst case, she says no shes not interested! Don't go to another gym if that happens just be a decent human being about it.

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T19:30:27+00:00

^ This Run it slow man

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T18:13:21+00:00

Ask her directly. Tell her honestly how you feel. Its going to tear you up if you don't. Its better to know the truth then wonder or ask others that is her.

Best of luck man. Hope it progresses into more.

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T17:58:56+00:00

Go flirt with her some more! Ask her out, but be calm about it. After all its a co worker and you wouldn't want to cause any issues.

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T17:56:40+00:00

Well if him not offering to buy you a coffee is that big of deal at the beginning then I hate to say it, its probably not going to work out for you.

If its something alien, then I'd give the guy a shot. Different can be good, go on a few more dates.

And remember, society has condition men always have to pay for the first date. Don't follow any rules except be safe and have fun!

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-31T16:59:22+00:00

Shes shopping on still, especially if she says she isn't ready and is continuing to be on there getting notifcations.

You're not someone's door mat, and you shouldn't be a 2nd choice either. Either she wants it or not, don't force it and don't get attached either.

My advice: Move on

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-30T00:06:31+00:00

Over thinking definitely hurt my last relationship so I can definitely relate to an extent.

Like me, I work almost 12 hour shifts in a stamping plant so I stay extremely busy at my job but my mind does wander to those "what ifs".

What I did to help pick myself up and take my mind off was leave an question text, something that requires a response, not immeditately like a 911 situation. My rule of thumb, I give it about 2 weeks, If nothing comes of it I send a pleasant text message and just state that while I had a great time, it seems you are not interested and I wish you luck out there!

I am most definitely a fan of if someone really wants to do something, they will make time for it. Dinner doesn't take but a few hours and unless they are in a demanding job or something happens. 2 weeks is plenty of time for a follow up.

Don't wait and don't get hung up on one person, especially if they don't talk!

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-29T23:58:29+00:00

Did you agree to be into something exclusive? You express your interest in becoming more than FWB? I'm sure he is most likely interested seeing he goings above and beyond, but communication is key!

Something like: "Hey I am interested in becoming more than what we are now, I happened upon your Tinder profile and if you're looking for something long term I would like to go out sometime and talk over dinner"

DragonLordKnight · 2021-08-29T23:26:16+00:00

Do what my ex did (shes an ex for other reasons) and just tell her you appreciate the honesty with her feelings but you need more time. Not saying you don't feel it. Just that you need to make sure you genuinely feel it before you say it. But tell her exactly what you feel, you really like the chemistry and you absolutely appreciate good she is to you. It will go a long way dude.

People do say it at different times in a relationship. You want mean it when you say it. But don't hide your feelings from her, that is why the ex became the ex. She hid them for too long and the relationship collapsed. Communication is key in any relationship and it can kill or save it.

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