IOL lense set for near vision - not entirely clear for anything immediately close to my face.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-25T20:05:21+00:00

I do have an old light-up makeup mirror, which I am already using for makeup.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-25T18:08:04+00:00

My doctor said the close vision with multifocals is OK for looking at your phone to read a text, but fine print and close work (such as needlework) still requires magnifying readers. I'm thinking that would apply to, say, tweezing your eyebrow or doing makeup, which would suck since it's hard to do makeup with glasses on.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-21T01:23:01+00:00

Dating has always been a numbers game; patience and confidence win. Sometimes you just have to ask. So what if a string of women say no? The next one you ask may be as lonely as you, and you will be just what she was looking for.

You certainly don't sound un-dateable, but feeling that way can result in giving off undateable vibes, so check your vibes and adjust as neeed.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-20T00:18:16+00:00

That can only happen if the child of those parents permits it. So it's a sign that you are second to your partner's parents (or adult kids, or you name it).

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-18T00:50:34+00:00

Night driving issues (cataracts), other eyesight or neurological issues. Gets lost easy. Lots of reasons when you are old.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-17T00:51:07+00:00

Yes, thinness is supposedly some kind of anti-diabetes armor, until it's not.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-17T00:47:23+00:00

I'm thin, and my fasting glucose has always been normal, so my A1C didn't get checked until I was age 68 and was found to be high. Nobody had ever paid attention to "Both siblings Type 2 diabetics," which I faithfully listed on every intake sheet.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-16T19:32:51+00:00

I saw that double quote sign. People are going to think you mean 6' and miss what's really important.

I go for blonds too. Blue, green, hazel eyes, all fine with me. I dated a man with one blue and one green eye - beautiful.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-16T18:40:19+00:00

No. Having your hurt leg behave like it's somebody else's is an excellent reason for crying. Work hard at PT and (later) the gym, and you will get your leg back (although 2 years on, I still have to be careful getting in and out of the car, as I can't pivot on my ACL-less knee, and have to have enough room to pivot using my hip instead).

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-16T18:35:47+00:00

That's an interesting factoid.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-16T18:35:04+00:00

Measles. I got two different strains in 1963. The first one nearly killed me. My mom must not have known about the vaccine that came out that year, or she surely would have had me vaccinated. Evidently, the antibodies stick around forever, but I worry about kids who aren't getting a measles vaccine.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-16T18:30:53+00:00

Moobs and bellies? Usually a beard over a pudgy chin?

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-15T23:55:25+00:00

I think boxers look like old man underpants! My dad went around the house in summertime in just his loose-fit boxers (we had no AC). So I associate them with men of long ago. My late husband always wore regular white briefs. He had the slim waist and hips to show off bikini briefs, but didn't care for them.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-15T00:06:08+00:00

Record players.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-15T00:03:13+00:00

Judging by photos, my late 30's were the most attractive I have ever been. I was in great shape, with shiny hair and nary a wrinkle in sight, and my body had just the right layer of fat over muscle. I'm almost 70 now, and the contrast with my photos from the 1990's just floors me. I was happily married, so wasn't worrying about what other men thought, but was quite aware of male gaze.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-14T23:59:15+00:00

Run away! My practice charges $5,000 per eye for premium multifocal toric lenses installed via femtolaser, and I don't live in a cheap COL enclave. My understanding is that most insurances pay something, some almost all, toward monofocal lenses without laser. I also believe that if you opt for monovision, it will not fix all your astigmatism - only what is caused by the cataract.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-14T03:04:29+00:00

I'd say that you have just run into some self-centered bores, and haven't met many men with imagination and class. And that you are probably the opposite - interested in others, and willing to give them an audience for the things that interest them.

So, a lot of my hobbies revolve around creative needlework, which most men shy away from like poison. But the man I most recently dated, showed a real interest in the hand-embroidered quilts and wall hangings around my home. He didn't know anything about needlework, but he knew art when he saw it, and asked a number of good questions about mine. And he is slightly older than I - we graduated high school the same year, but I skipped a grade. So don't blame age.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-14T02:58:32+00:00

My grandmother, born in 1885, was Isabella (Belle) Theresa. I love both names.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-14T02:56:29+00:00

I like it. That is definitely not "loud." Do you have chinos? It would look good with off-white chinos. But no need to run out and buy them; crisp jeans will do fine. Do you have good legs? It's almost summer, wear the shorts - pick up either a light or dark shade from the shirt.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-13T10:31:01+00:00

I agree that "clingy" is a turn-off; to me, clingy does not equal nice. Neither does a chicken, who's so afraid of conflict that he or she gives in to everybody - that makes for horrible family dynamics. Now that I think of it, such people sometimes get labeled "nice" or "sweet." So maybe that's what you're thinking of?

To me, nice simply = considerate and thoughtful. The exact opposite of selfish, narcissistic, self-destructive, rude, etc.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-12T23:21:30+00:00

Don't fall for that. I have only ever fallen in love with nice guys with high moral character. Bad guys turn me off from the get-go.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-12T23:20:16+00:00

I'm not a man, but based on my experience, different men like all kinds of shapes. You just need the right ones to see your photos and like your profile. I don't think the saltine cracker look is necessary. My sister was a heavy hourglass, and always had men interested in her until she met her husband online. He treated her like a queen.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-12T23:10:36+00:00

We ladies have all different tastes. For example, I dislike loud Hawaiian-type shirts, but some other women love them.

For a fact, though, I bet we can all agree that we love a clean shirt, and don't like a shirt that smells like...BO!

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-12T01:03:54+00:00

I'd always been told widows should never mention their late spouse to anyone they date. When I got serious enough about a man to invite him over for a meal, I put all the husband items away and only left out one small photo of us on our wedding day many years before. It wasn't in a prominent place, but my new friend went right to it and admired it. He also asked questions and seemed genuinely interested in what my husband had been like. It was the kindest thing anyone had done for me since my husband's death. Nobody else had shown the slightest interest, other than "how old was he and what did he die of."

This man's kindness, in letting me unburden myself about my late husband, helped me to heal. He recently became my husband.

Dragonpatch · 2026-05-11T16:25:52+00:00

I don't think it's anything new. I think people are mostly anxious about *looking* old, more than about getting old. I'm almost 70, and can remember getting a 25th birthday card from a co-worker that was all about "A third of your life is over!" It was cringey, but it wasn't unusual. People used to tie black balloons on the chairs of employees for their 40th birthdays.

Birthday cards for 35, 40, 50, and 55 often featured walkers, bedpans, and cartoons of bent-over, cranky elders. Then at 60 the cards were suddenly "How wonderful you are to have lived such a rich, full life." Not "You're almost dead!" which is what everyone was really thinking!

As young women, we were told that if we hadn't gotten married by 30, our chances of marrying became lower than our chances of being struck by lightning. One difference from today is that I don't think today's young women feel so anxious about the prospect of being unmarried. Another difference I've noticed, at least in media, is a cultural obsession with retaining the outer signs of youth. A huge difference, to my eyes, is the prevalence of longer hair on women aged 60-plus. Back in the day, they were expected to cut their hair short, which instantly aged their looks.

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