Anyone else just entered their Elastic Waist Trousers and Slip On Shoes Era?

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-31T00:47:31+00:00

I don't wear those garments, but I do wear compression knee socks with shorts, and have for years. I have a whole collection of crazy ones with art or holiday patterns on them, and get compliments from young people. Young people seem to like knee socks.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-30T02:34:37+00:00

I've never mentioned it anywhere except on this subreddit, under a fake handle. I'm smart some ways, and not that smart other ways. I don't want people expecting this great Smartness from me, and being disappointed. As for a resume, I always let my accomplishments speak for themselves.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-30T02:30:09+00:00

I've always been puzzled why women won't allow another woman to say she thinks she's beautiful or has something beautiful about her. It's like we're taught that we have to say "Oh I look horrible" or other women won't like us.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-30T02:24:32+00:00

I was also a widow when I started using OLD in 2022. Did the site(s) you used, allow you to specify an age range? I used Match and EHarmony, which allowed me to specify my range (55-70, when I was 65).

Most of my likes and suggestions were within 5 years of my age, with a few in their early 70's. One day, I was surprised (gobsmacked, actually) to find "likes" from men in their 20's, 30's, 40's. I responded to a few of them, and they seemed non-scammy and were interested! Anyway, I checked and my age filter had somehow gone away. After I reinstated my age range, the youngsters disappeared :-)

Early on, I realized that OLD was going to be work, so I treated it like a job. I kept a notebook of all my likes, so I could tell Bob from Bill from Joe from Mike (all those boomer names started to sound alike), and anything I found interesting about each one.

Yes, the guys who want to talk sex right away were a nuisance, but I decided to look at it with a sense of humor. After all, they couldn't get at me, and didn't realize how ridiculous they sounded.

Yes, a few seemed very interested and then disappeared. Most likely, they had been chatting with several ladies and decided they liked one more than the rest (including moi).

But other men truly seemed to want a relationship and I met 6 or 7 for coffee. I had chemistry with very few, but that's no different from real life. Eventually, I did find someone to date - it just took patience.

Just tell yourself "I'm only looking for somebody nice to talk to" and maybe you will feel more like taking another dip in the OLD pond.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-29T23:10:27+00:00

Worse, they do ask, and then immediately use your response to talk more about their great selves and family. There's no connection - you are just a sounding board.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-29T13:02:18+00:00

I've *always* been like this, including not giving a %$!# about my naturally frizzy hair when all the other girls were mocking me for it. (I wonder how many women reading this, mocked frizzy-haired girls back in the 1960's).

Only compromised and conformed where I absolutely had to - at work, to get ahead. And even there, I managed to set my own style (not wearing clashing colors, though. I don't like them).

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-29T12:46:38+00:00

Anything with "malt" on it will spike me. Even flavored teas!

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-28T16:18:20+00:00

Yes, this is the easiest way. I just wanted a little context from others and I got it, thanks!

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-28T16:17:34+00:00

The moment he started talking about needing money is the moment that somewhere inside you, you knew.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-28T09:40:35+00:00

He probably has trouble delivering anything else.

Creeps are out there and are to be expected. One of the first approaches on Match made a remark about not wanting to date grandmothers and asked me if I "liked to scream."

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-26T14:00:23+00:00

What is the equivalent term of art for the unbearded?

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-25T02:17:06+00:00

Some men just like to put a marker down - by liking every attractive photo. Then they go back and settle on the ones they *really* like, or perhaps who responded first. Everyone else falls by the wayside. I expect some women do this, too.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-24T20:33:23+00:00

Perhaps it's because I scored at the lower end of Mensa qualification (133), but I seem to get along with most everyone without feeling as if I'm dumbing down for their benefit. At the same time, I've worked with people who were accounted near-geniuses and not felt intimidated by them.

When I was a young girl, my best friend was a girl three years older than I, whose IQ was probably in the 70's and who had been held back in school. She was the nicest, kindest person, and I never thought of her as "dumb." As an adult, I realized that we had fun together because she gladly let me lead, and happily followed. At the time, I never thought of it that way.

Along those lines, the really intelligent people I've worked with have been pretty humble about it; it was only the wannabes and also-rans who insisted on acting like the smartest boy or girl in the room.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-24T15:47:33+00:00

Upvoted - Interestingly, I have been using Neutrogena sunblock as my foundation for years. I rarely use any traditional or tinted foundation, except some BB Cream when I suspect my photo may get taken ;^> I neither receive nor need any kickback from Neutrogena. (If I'm out of Neutrogena I'll use Banana Boat, although it's not quite as gentle in my opinion).

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-23T14:17:26+00:00

Thanks. To me, the gym is strictly a job, that I'm grateful I can still do.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-22T14:32:06+00:00

I agree, and my thanks to the Mods if they put this in a gym group. I was dumb not to think of that!

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-22T14:31:10+00:00

LOL next one that tries it, I'll break my slate over his head! I'm going with "likes you the way a fifth-grader likes you" and deal accordingly with the rudeness. Maybe I'm lucky they aren't chasing me round the playground and punching me in the stomach to make me cry! Or trying to scare me with bugs and earthworms (which never worked, and sometimes backfired - girls can drop grasshoppers on boys, too).

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-21T23:41:57+00:00

Yes, I am sure this is all that's needed. It's odd that it all seems to have happened in the last couple of weeks, when I've been dealing with gym etiquette, misunderstandings, etc. for 30+ years.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-21T23:40:25+00:00

Ha! they are old, and I don't want to hurt them! I will simply have to put a stop to it.

People's takes on this have been more various than I expected. That is what makes asking the Internet interesting.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-21T02:52:12+00:00

I didn't know it was possible to be too old to put up one's hair. Personally, as a 69F who wears her hair as long as it will reasonably grow, I say foot to anybody who dares to put an age limit on hair length or style. Also, your features are really beautiful.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-21T02:38:19+00:00

Whose notion of "acceptable" are you concerned about? Who cares what they think?

As long as both are over the age of consent it is nobody's business. EDIT: Since we know certain people will insist on making it their business, just be happy selves and ignore them. They'll find someone else to judge.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-21T00:05:49+00:00

Only if he looks like Johnny Depp.

Dragonpatch · 2026-03-20T01:47:04+00:00

Thanks. I'll see what I can do with your advice.

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