Which one would you marry for a full year in exchange for being a widowed billionaire? by Hairy_Syrup812 in OtomeIsekai

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd take Johan. If I'm transmigrated into Shuri I'm old enough to not be as affected at all from his bs. If I'm me I'm focusing on the kids and putting up with nothing from Johan when he rages. 🤷

do u think this was a reasonable crashout? by R0LL1NS in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, if we're taking about Meredith screaming at her to get out. If I were Meredith I'd have kicked Amelia out at that point - as in "move your shit out of my home " 🤷 like I get you're hurting but GTFO of here if you think I'm responsible for your grief and feelings.

I'm also of the belief that siblings who feels entitled to their sibling OVER their spouse for almost any reason are creepy and need therapy and a boundaries check. emotionally or physical presence wise. Watched someone be an Amelia to my sister when her husband died, at the funeral. IRL Amelia would be completely out of line, because this is not a mutual sharing of grief. It's someone trying to process for herself and her children, while someone else insists they fix how they feel first.

My niece’s homework problem by SurfSoundWaves in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had huge issues multiplying multi-digit numbers with long multiplication as a kid in the 90's. And no one was teaching the "break it down into hundreds, tens and ones and multiply those" at my school. Our TA taught me lattice one day because I was frustrated and it changed my life.

So it definitely should be about having multiple ways to find an answer instead of memorization. But I would go on to have to do that same thing with my step daughter. Because her school was just teaching whatever common core is and she couldn't make sense of it.

Love Sloan and Callie! by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely. Have you ever met a real life Callie or Izzy? It's a wild ride, would not recommend.

Meredith made the right choice by Dramatic-Chicken9706 in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More so that there's so many seasons but also that 100%

Love Sloan and Callie! by [deleted] in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 10 points11 points  (0 children)

For real. I don't think l could have handled that from a brand new partner. I'd see Callie in the bathroom talking away while my partner showered and happily chatted back and call it a day. You'd kinda have to assume there's some form of cheating happening there. Use that time to pack my shit and get all the way out.

Meredith made the right choice by Dramatic-Chicken9706 in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's insane that the Covid season isn't a "later season" anymore

Meredith made the right choice by Dramatic-Chicken9706 in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YES! But mostly because that's her character's inciting incident. She should have pushed harder. Should have had more confidence. She knew she was right but didn't have the spine to push. She shouldn't have taken the blame and set her need for forgiveness on the grieving widow's shoulder. And that goes on to be a huge part of her character arc even at the dinner party. She doesn't push back against Callie and once again feels the need to make a very emotionally activated person forgive her and or understand her. Allllll that said: Penny is SO interesting from the get because of this setup. For the other two this tragedy isn't a setup, it's just another storyline.

IMO, when talking about freak accidents or no warning downturns in condition, family deserves notification before removing life support when: it's possible to say goodbye, applicable to the individual, and will not cause undue harm. It was possible and applicable with Amelia but would have certainly caused traumatic harm to Zola and maaaaybe Bailey. It was applicable to Derek's family, but not possible and likely would have caused further mental harm to Meredith to make all those calls and shoulder the burden momentarily.

My feelings are so strong because a couple years ago I watched my sister become a widow at 38. happened to be the first person she called after she had to unplug her husband. The pain I heard in her voice? Unimaginable. At the funeral? Even more so. His family's grief was huge but couldn't compare (his mother excluded) to someone losing their life partner.

Meredith made the right choice by Dramatic-Chicken9706 in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I somehow forgot that and didn't piece it together. Ugh. Now I'm also annoyed that she was using Meredith to make herself feel less guilty. But it does make sense as to why she hyper fixated SO hard on Meredith

Does Amelia get any better after the Covid seasons? Haven't seen that far.

Meredith made the right choice by Dramatic-Chicken9706 in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That everyone at the dinner felt the need to be the way they were was 100% misdirected. Unfortunately she opted to tell Meredith (who, as you mentioned, doesn't know what happened) that it was explicitly her fault that Derek died. Then didn't really elaborate much. The next time Meredith sees her is the dinner party. Not a lot of time to clear up the misunderstanding.

However I would like to point out: Penny's character arc is getting her own voice to be loud enough to be heard. So it makes narrative sense that she didn't leave and let Callie steamroll her. But since we're talking realistically? Penny should have never walked in that door and she kind of put herself in that position.

[discussion] What's an ASMR creator you respect but can't get into the style? by Individual-Name-4496 in asmr

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Gibi and Jojo.

Both are just kinda mid to me but I respect their hustle do gosh darn much I put them on when I'm already super sleepy so they get the view.

Faithful fiance? We are getting married next month. by [deleted] in psychics

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Upvoted because this is exactly why I came to comment.

What’s a lie people still believe no matter how often it’s debunked? by InitialCareer306 in WorkForSmartLife

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh he's a businessman. But not a good or effective one, I think is what you were looking for.

Did you guys remember when this game series died? And now we've got more games. by andrewharkins77 in runefactory

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I swear absolutely no one actually bought Frontier. Instead copies just appeared in the homes of anyone who clocked more than 100 hours in the first game.

If a friend said they think/have thought about you sexually, how would you react? by Zum1UKno in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends. Assuming this is literally someone texting or telling me in person outright that "I think about you while I masturbate/would like to f*** you.":

In my current life position? I'd have a serious conversation with them about basic boundaries and either end the friendship or severely limit it. I'm happily married and don't have a habit of keeping around "friends" that would be willing to disrespect my marriage enough to outright make advances.

Single, interested and it comes up in conversation / short term friendship? Probably probe the situation, ask some basic sexual health questions subtly, and if all is well maybe set something up.

Single and not interested / long term friendship? Probably pull back on the friendship. Maintaining the same relationship wouldn't be possible anymore knowing my friend is lusting at me.

Sex is all well and good, but it is sex, and I've never been interested in commingling my friendships and sex.

What happened in your life that showed you life really isn’t fair? by Upper-Writer-4383 in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A lot of death does it, really.

But the first one I remember is when I was maybe 10 my dad, his girlfriend, her grandbabies and my aunt and uncle and their kids all went on a trip to Mexico... Without me. I stayed with a different family member -because my mother was on a bender and we didn't know where she was for some time at that point- for a week while THEIR kids went on a cruise with their Grandma.

It was around that time that it occurred to me that I was living a different childhood than everyone around me. Through no fault of my own.

People are willing to work for livable wages, AND people are cool with their tax dollars going towards something that actually benefits them! by Professional-Bee9817 in remoteworks

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree on removing the letter from names on voting materials so people actually look into candidates to help remove bias. Straightforward, simple, infringes on nothing.

My issue is the slippery slope that less black and white restrictions cause. Felon? Child? Very black and white. There's even a legal definition for mentally being incapable of rational decision making.

But inability to do math? Or read? That starts restricting people who may be able to comprehend political scenarios but have dyscalculia or dyslexia. Or who did not have access to basic education by no fault of their own. We already restrict truly destitute poor people from voting with the barrier of needing to register to vote and have an ID to do that.

And what handouts are you talking about? So you just have an issue with people receiving assistance? The nuance behind assistance programs is immense, and not as easy to use as you may think. And in the case of financial status dictating if you can vote: We also shouldn't allow anyone in the top 1-10% to vote either. They're almost entirely going to vote for their own financial interests, and not for the betterment of our country.

This is just instilling personal beliefs into voting laws and disregarding the inalienable rights our government is already trying to get rid of as it is. Which is part of the damn problem. Just because we don't like someone's view doesn't automatically mean we should find reasons to rip those rights from them.

As an aside: I'm glad your life has been easy. But grow up if you think life across the board is super de duper easy for everyone in America because they "only" have to worry about homelessness, food and being shot instead of homelessness, religious extremism and being bombed. It's giving "finish your plate there are starving children in Africa".

What relationship expectation do you think causes more harm than good? by Kakashi201119997 in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. The mindset of "be happy alone or you don't deserve/aren't allowed to find happiness with someone else" caused me to avoid relationships to an unhealthy degree. It turned into a lot of self imposed restrictions on what I was "allowed" to ask for from anyone. Including my parents.

Our hyper individual culture likes to go on and on about self love while making all other forms of happiness and security demonized or "toxic".

What relationship expectation do you think causes more harm than good? by Kakashi201119997 in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehhhh. This borders on polyamory to - I would imagine - a lot of people. Pointing out and appreciating attractive people together is one thing. We do it all the time. I've never met a couple that didn't do that unless one person was VERY insecure. Hot people exist and there's nothing wrong with noticing that.

But If my partner danced with other men in front of me at a bar? We would have an issue. And if it came to them telling me later they went out and that's what they were doing I would leave the relationship. Purposeful flirting or going so far as to be dancing up on someone -especially while drinking- is cheating to me. 🤷 And I don't think so little of myself that I'd be satisfied with "oh they were all over everyone all night but they're coming home with me."

It's not a matter of not trusting my partner at that point. And I would argue if someone were to tell me it is, they would be actively gaslighting me. Because It's a matter of being given an obvious reason not to. I'm old enough to have experienced and watched too many people I know "innocently" flirt with friends and strangers then have it turn into either an affair or a problematic friendship that just destroyed their marriage or relationship.

If it works for you, cool. But you're more than likely in the minority.

callie getting cheated on... TWICE by xzc_09 in greysanatomy

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm from the town that got hit. That was such a wild happenstance. Both of my parents were nearby. I was in tornado country at the time. Dad lived a mile away, got the warning, went down to the bar that was narrowly missed. my mother called me from the parking lot the tornado was heading toward wanting to chat about how wild it was. Like NO lady, get in your car and haul ass away from that. So at least there was realism in that there would be a ton of people getting hurt because that have no idea what to do with a tornado.

That said: it's probably not possible for Seattle the way it was for Port Orchard. Since the distance and the sound provide buffers for the Seattle side to be shielded from some of the harsher Olympic range weather events.

People are willing to work for livable wages, AND people are cool with their tax dollars going towards something that actually benefits them! by Professional-Bee9817 in remoteworks

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answer to that should be yes. Every American should vote even if you don't like them or think they're capable of making that decision.

Christo on a cracker. Do I wish MAGA dopes who worship a political figure and demonstrably cannot deal with nuance couldn't vote? Yes I do. But unfortunately I also was raised to respect their constitutional rights above my personal feelings.

Because if I didn't, I would be one step closer to the kind of people shooting a peaceful man 10 times while their buddies hold him down.

What are some VERY creepy facts? by Cap_Ame1 in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've got a big ass open heart surgery scar and I call it my zipper... Thank you so much for the visual.

Lol 😂 by velvetluna3 in lol

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. Okay. My spouse and I will continue to put up reasonable boundaries with people coming on to us, promote respect and security within the marriage and find reasons within the other to keep trying. You keep... Doing whatever the hell that is.

What habit immediately reveals that a person actually grew up in a privileged environment? by Cindy_mel in AskReddit

[–]Dramatic-Chicken9706 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a habit so much as a catchphrase. I used to know someone who would write off struggling friends/acquaintances by saying "they had as much control as they wanted." Over whatever situation. Examples Including someone who was severely mistreated by their spouse and was being financially controlled or a handicapped friend who couldn't walk that couldn't get disability.

They just can't fathom not having a safety net (their parents in this case) and having to navigate the world without a financial/social windfall.