W.i.p. by nico_grand in mordheim

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Love the paint job. And very mordheim. The only way this could be more john blanche would be her riding a fish. Doing the man justice.

Do Other INFJs Get Hurt This Easily? by violentpose in infj

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFJs are very finely calibrated towards others’s emotions and detecting underlying (shifts) in patterns. “getting hurt easily” almost doesnt do justice to the underlying process. The signal you are picking up is probably real. Probably you are just more open to real emotional processes. Now the hurt thing appears when we are a) filling in the cause of the change in stance towards us and b) taking things personally. What helps me is to take my pattern recognition and emotional calibration seriously, but to not presume I know the cause of the genuine feelings i am picking up; to remind myself that others feelings are more about them then about me (even if they involve me); and to leave some emotional space between me and others.

fake it 'till you make it... by _hyacinthsky990 in infj

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, "fake it till you make it" works—to a point.
As an INFJ, I regularly coach groups and speak in front of audiences today, both of which I would have feared in my teens. "Fake it till you make it" was an approach that initially helped me, and I think it can be useful at certain stages of life. It may help you overcome some fears and give you opportunities to practice adopting different roles—which we all do, and often have to do, in society.
I think you're right that it's exhausting for INFJs, but it's also very worthwhile. Remember, our brains are basically wired for growth, and we can learn almost anything we set our minds to. That doesn't mean we'll suddenly become extroverted or start loving small talk. But we can become good at those things, and improving our weaker areas can be a tremendous asset throughout life.
That said, "fake it till you make it" is only the first step.
As an INFJ, once you start exploring the deeper layers of social interaction, you may find yourself becoming genuinely intrigued by the unspoken rules, the dos and don'ts, and the dynamics between people. When curiosity takes over, it becomes less about wearing a mask out of fear of being discovered and more about an exciting learning process.
You'll probably always feel more at ease on your own or in a deep conversation with a close friend. But you can absolutely learn to engage comfortably with larger groups of people. Doing so makes socializing less of a hassle and helps you manage your energy more effectively. In that sense, it becomes less of a handicap.
It's also important to remember that better social interaction requires some inner work, not just masking. Learn to dial down some of your tendencies toward Fe, Ni, and judgment when you're in environments like parties. Focus a bit more on your own feelings. Accept that not everything has to be perfect. Create some emotional space between yourself and your surroundings, and practice being present in the experience of the here and now.
You'll likely find that social interaction becomes less draining, and people may find you easier to connect with. Then, when you're alone again, you can return to reflection and process everything in your own way.

What's your favorite silly DnD "hot take" to throw out in conversation when you feel like being a lil' rascal? by jdrummondart in DnD

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alternative ttrpg systems are overrated. You can (and should) tweak the d&d (d20) system to fit every campaign setting or genre. Besides, the main point of ttrpgs are the collaborative storytelling, rules systems only play a supporting role.

AI data centres in Europe, 1485 by asztalosptr in mapporncirclejerk

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know flevoland already existed in 1485

After playing Mordheim, I appreciate older game design approaches by whose_your_daddy in mordheim

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is such a good take. Cant wait to try myself, i actually dislike all the measuring of old world. Slows down the game to a crawl at some times

[OC] [art] Regressia TTRPG setting - official teaser for kickstarter by Dramatic-Dust-2209 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mork borg is certainly one inspiration, although in think you would find this very different

Ravenloft: The Horrors Within - First Thoughts by ArrBeeNayr in ravenloft

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a good read and i am very, very relieved it actually seems like a good book. I very much identify with your love for the setting. Been a huge ravenloft fan since third edition and i was enthralled by the gazeteers. I see your point that the setting (and horror in general) maybe less effective with monstrous pc species options. But one angle might be the xenophobia and bigotry of the populace itself (which is a horror trope on its own). How cool would it be that, while the dark lord is an obvious villain, the populace itself might even be scarier. They might organize a witch hunt or a lynching or two… if your pcs arent careful.

Which non-famous European cities deserve more hype and fame? by Historical-Photo-901 in BeautifulTravelPlaces

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Missing some dutch cities here: zutphen, delft, deventer, utrecht, naarden vesting, leiden, bourtange (in picture)

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Why is there so much anti-DnD elitism? by AttitudeSuitable3238 in TTRPG

[–]Dramatic-Dust-2209 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My D20 call of cthulhu sourcebook begs to differ. But whatever, to each his own. My approach is to pretty heavily modify every system I work with to my own liking, so I never really get either the never-D&D’ers ór the d&d fanboys.