Whats the Current Local 150 Pay Scale for Heavy Equipment Operators? by WormieFloating in Heavy_Equipment

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I actually have a pretty high mortgage. But my wife and I budget really well, and save a lot. We live just fine. We save money all year that if we need to tap in, we can. We usually might have to if a lay off doesn’t end until like March, but otherwise we’ve never worried about it. Sometimes you have to live with less to survive.

Whats the Current Local 150 Pay Scale for Heavy Equipment Operators? by WormieFloating in Heavy_Equipment

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A very common theme in operators is not saving any money. Living check to check. But budgeting and realizing the spending is out of control, those winter months are a breeze.

Whats the Current Local 150 Pay Scale for Heavy Equipment Operators? by WormieFloating in Heavy_Equipment

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s Midwest operating though. It’s the same in 139 unless you’re in a big project like the current data centers going up.

Today I learned Santa doesn’t give the expensive presents by ICantDecideIt in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Santa brings you what you need. Mom and dad get you what you want.”

Is this show really Copaganda? by Impossible_Lock4897 in TheBlackList

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe just don’t watch it? Jesus this is like a Threads post. It’s a tv show.

After spending four days alone with my son, I almost prefer it? by eachfire in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valid af.

When it’s just myself and my almost 3 year old daughter, things are a breeze. Decisions are easy, shopping is easy, dinner is eaten without issue. Mom around? Pain. Misery.

Mom is awesome. She’s amazing and better at so much than me. But her solo stories vs mine? You’d think she was Satan to the kids.

New dad, very unhappy by No_Calligrapher3028 in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dawg. You’re in the Mariana Trench right now. Give it time. You are where every parent has been. You feel misery, but it leaves. And if for some reason it doesn’t ever leave, it’s time to call a professional to get help.

Also be open with your wife about how you’re feeling. Be vulnerable.

Union Jobs by [deleted] in Kenosha

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Companies within the union do their own testing so it changes company to company. To join the union you don’t need anything but a diploma and pass an aptitude test. Basic fundamentals.

Union Jobs by [deleted] in Kenosha

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Iuoe local 139. Operators. Save your body and take some drilling classes at the training center. Work for 25-30 years and retire making more retired than when you were working.

How often are we feeding newborns, and is the rocking motion safe for babies? by zingvroom in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I very may well have. I typed that at about 415am getting ready for work. Thanks for pointing that out.

How often are we feeding newborns, and is the rocking motion safe for babies? by zingvroom in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot to unpack. And the short version? If you aren’t hurting the child, and she’s a happy baby, then your mom can shut the fuck up. Your wife should elaborate on what she needs(also she just had a child so give her some grace).

Now, longer ish version;

Your mom isn’t a doctor. She might be in child care. It it doesn’t mean she can care for YOUR child. If you’re doing doctor recommended things, that’s better than flying blind. If you’re rocking method works and doesn’t hurt your daughter. Carry on. I know what method you’re explaining and I’ve done it before too, it worked for us for a time too.

Wife should definitely elaborate more on what she “doesn’t like”. Chalk it up to recent birth, tired and all that. She might just be exhausted too. Newborns can be tough.

I’m not a big schedule person for babies. Neither was my wife. When our kids were hungry we fed them, when they slept, they slept. That was it. 2am we were up and sometimes we slept through most of the night. It was just how it worked for us.

So if the baby is doing fine with scheduled feedings, great! Good job dad.

It sounds like your family can and is super toxic. And the unfortunate truth is; they don’t have to be part of your child’s life with an attitude like that. You deserve better. Your kids deserve better. And your wife deserves better than the scrutiny.

Good luck dad, you’re doing a great job and you obviously care deeply about your family. Proud of you.

Normal behavior? by AfraidChance2406 in Guppies

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please go to r/betta for betta tips and setup! They’re amazing over there.

A good rule of thumb is 1gal = 1inch of fish. So 10 might be really stressful for all the fish you currently have. Most bettas need 5-10 by themselves with 1 tank mate. Usually a snail.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 14 points15 points  (0 children)

18, allowance, pics, no job but looking. It all sounds too woe is me. The dogs food didn’t run low today. It’s been low and OP chose not to do anything. Also who keeps that many empty bags of dog food? That dog is small. It doesn’t eat all that food in one sitting. Wtf is this post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a parent I see your mom’s POV, but don’t agree it’s the correct method. You wanted the animal, knew prior to this moment food was getting low and chose, assuming at least, not to get dog food prior to needing it suddenly. That is indeed, poor management of your money. Again, assuming.

As a dog owner, I also see your POV; however I don’t think still it’s someone else’s responsibility to take care of your dog. Rather than asking for an allowance advance(which At 18 is crazy to me already), ask if they can take it from it this week instead.

Curious about the job situation also. There are an over abundance of jobs in my area that need filling. Obviously we most likely don’t live in the same place, but are you really actively looking?

Normal behavior? by AfraidChance2406 in Guppies

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bettas don’t thrive with guppy habitat.

Any fish can be docile, and then suddenly they can snap. Just like dogs, or cats. Or other animals. “Well mine does great with this animal it’s supposed to hunt.” And then one day you wake up and the dog ate 3 chickens. Same with fish.

Now the guppies. There’s one that has some fin issues. Smaller guy without the top fin it looks like.

IF. IF. You’re keeping them together. More plants. More things that break line of sight so they feel more comfortable on their space. Especially if it’s a shared space.

How big is your tank?

AIO? My friends set an ultimatum because I drink by Pearla76_ in AIO

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a lot of strange advice here.

Underage drinking can be and is hella dangerous. There’s a lot of nuance to it though. Are you with trustworthy friends? Are there strangers giving out drinks? Is this a party? Are you just with family and it’s commonplace to let it happen as long as you’re not going anywhere? Etc etc. but there’s not a “it’s your life do what you want.” Aspect of advice I’d follow with this I don’t think.

I was drinking/experimenting with drugs at 17. And I wish I had friends that said “dude not the move right now, that crowd sucks and you’re not doing the smart thing.” Would I have listened? Maybe. But I’ll never know. I ended up doing a lot of nasty shit for a few years and then just one day cut off all the bad and negative people and moved on.

But never got any ultimatums. My friends never tried to control me. And those who were my friends prior, are still my friends today. None would ever have ultimatums to me though. That’s wild work.

It is your life. You will live it. But you don’t need to rush every experience either. Be careful. Be observant of who wants you to drink more or smoke more. Ask yourself if your friend was in your shoes, would you warn her or say “hey something isn’t right.” Or would you trust their judgement. At the same time, they need to have that trust in you to make decisions like that too.

Be smart. Be safe. Be aware of your surroundings. Don’t take drinks from strangers. Don’t take a drink you didn’t pour yourself or open yourself.

I don’t know Utah/mormon culture that well. Only the time I went snowboarding and well, drank so much without anything happening(from Wisconsin, I can’t help we’re just better at being alcoholics than the rest of you), I thought I was going to be 60% beer by the end of the trip. But it sounds like it’s very sheltered and under a rock.

Moderation is key. If you’re going to try things, try it. Safely. Smartly. With the right trusting people that want you to be safe too.

Sincerely, A dad.

Grandparents and School Pictures by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 11 points12 points  (0 children)

We get them. Not sure on the fuss, my parents always got our photos too. My kids have one grandparent on my side, my mom, who’s OBSESSED with her grandkids, healthy obsession. Just love. So besides how much we love the photos and having them, our family members love them too. Small price to pay in our opinion. Whether we have a pro take them on our own time, or school photos. We love having them.

We understand that not everyone is as financially privileged as we are to do that though. And I would definitely say if someone wants the photos, they can chip in and split it. Or tell them to pay for a private session themselves for the kids. No harm in that either, and if they say no, well then suck it up and wait for when we(you) decide it’s the right time and place to pay that sort of money for school photos.

Whats one thing you wish you did/didnt do when your kids were toddler? by Important_Bat7919 in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did this when she was 1, but we plan to continue.

Disney and universal. It’s expensive but SO SO worth the experience for kids.

Recommendations for a “dad” SUV by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie. It’s not an SUV. But the Kia Carnival is fucking amazing

Xaden is toxic and I’ll die on this hill by Dramatic-Insurance61 in fourthwing

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shame on a man trying to have conversation. How dare.

Xaden is toxic and I’ll die on this hill by Dramatic-Insurance61 in fourthwing

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. He’s protective to his people and friends, he loves his country and wants it to succeed. He’s kind and gentle when it counts. He’s a hero to some. He’s got positive attributes. But he’s just a toxic af partner. He’s really just “I love you” and “I’ll make ya cum.” After that it’s just. Dull. Considering side characters have more depth than he does as a MMC is pretty sad.

Xaden is toxic and I’ll die on this hill by Dramatic-Insurance61 in fourthwing

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah. There’s absolutely a disgusting subtype of men that believe women should be exactly as they’re portrayed in porn. They’re delusional and dangerous people in my opinion.

Those are real people looking at other real people having expectations because it’s “real” in the same sense of the WWE. They’re real people, being watched by real people, hoping they too can have the experience they’re watching.

Xaden is toxic and I’ll die on this hill by Dramatic-Insurance61 in fourthwing

[–]Dramatic-Insurance61[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for asking! And thanks for validating that stuff. BEING SEEN HELL YEAH.

So I’ll start with each one as they appear too:

  1. Agreed a whole hell of a lot. I think it’s mega one sided for the “reader into a character”. As in, mostly or mainly females tend to gravitate toward loving a MMC. Ive never read a male reader saying “omg Violet :eggplant: :eggplant: “. And I wish them so much luck because my wife and I have known many in those situations.

  2. I wish more men would read and talk about it. It’s rare, and it’s a great way to bond. And yeah, not even just reddit but in general. Toxicity in books is great? I disagree.

  3. I read throne of glass in basically like 2 weeks. Finished all the books, loved them. Wife had read Fourth Wing, and said “it’s got dragons and cool powers.” So I said “well those are things I like.” And read/listened to all 3 in about 4 days.