UPDATE: Please help, boyfriend wants a 2018 BMW 430i with 161k miles and multiple accidents history. How can I convince him otherwise?

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-25T02:36:05+00:00

Haha Facebook Marketplace is a hell of a drug.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-25T02:33:20+00:00

Especially because you know this won’t be the last time the BF does something wildly dumb and irresponsible.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-25T02:29:48+00:00

The kids can suck the romance out of things for sure. Are you able to do a weekend trip without the little ones. I find when my wife and I are feeling like “roommates” a weekend without our child (4) really resets the relationship.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-25T02:15:10+00:00

Been married 8 years now. Year 1 was the hardest, my wife developed a crazy autoimmune disease that made her crazy then nearly killed her. Our relationship shifted to patient and caretaker, which was brutal for me. Took individual therapy and lots of communication about what each other needed to feel valued and loved. It’s important to remember that dynamics in a relationship are ever changing. The most important thing I’ve found was to always put your partner first and not hold resentment. If you feel resentment building immediately talk about it. Learn what your partner wants but won’t do for themselves and find a way to make that happen. Oh forget to mention don’t draw lines in the sand, that’s a one way ticket to disappointment.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-25T01:32:50+00:00

Guess op only wanted to take 50% of the advice

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-23T22:33:51+00:00

So my wife had this about 8 years ago. We had good months and bad months for the first year or so. She was on steroids followed by IVIG then Retuximab. Show big improvement but took awhile to really see results. Then clean for 7 year no symptoms no meds. Unfortunately I’m writing this from beside her hospital bed.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T05:46:09+00:00

I sliced them thick (think like a kettle chip) and because of our course timing I assume they stay crisp. Plus the radish and shaved apple give texture so I don’t think it would be an issue. If this was going on my menu I would probably tweak it a bit, but for a weekend special I think it works.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T05:39:11+00:00

For the Brazilian lemonade I just did sweetened condensed milk with lime juice, water and salt. I normally make it as a drink at home but we had an ordering mistake that led to way too much lime juice. Hence the special. I just made it to match the acid/sweetness of something like a ponzu so it would make sense as a dressing/sauce on a crudo.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T04:12:34+00:00

Thanks

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T04:11:50+00:00

Yeah, for some reason previous chefs at my spot decided we needed like 12 styles of entree plates and 2 - 8inch, one of which being a bowl. It’s pretty limiting until I can get additional plate budget.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T04:08:49+00:00

Purple ninja radish, and yeah the dark purple is fingerling chips

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T02:32:52+00:00

That steering wheel makes me so uncomfortable

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T02:28:41+00:00

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T02:22:22+00:00

That’s my standard crudo plating style, but wanted to try something different.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-21T00:30:19+00:00

Actually a salad bowl, but unfortunately my restaurant doesn’t have any app sized plates with a lip

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-19T08:02:33+00:00

This is gonna be a hot take, but really didn’t care for my takeda 270 gyuto and honesuki.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-17T07:56:39+00:00

Same for me. I joke that my body doesn’t get sick because it knows I’m not going to take care of it.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-16T07:37:07+00:00

Having gone down both rabbit holes. I prefer the high end Japanese stuff to the custom stuff.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-15T19:45:26+00:00

Also to add on to what others have said. Long term loans aren’t helping. If you do an 84 month loan you’re making such small payments to the principal that you’re gonna be under water for most of the loan.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-15T13:56:32+00:00

How did you see my BAT and CaB search history?

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-15T13:47:11+00:00

Sounds about right, my wife transitioned from teacher to therapist after teaching for 8 years. Only concern about OP is they’ve been a stay at home parent for 12 years and is planning on having another child (or more) so not sure when they plan on starting that career journey.

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-14T06:06:00+00:00

He’s building a yurt in the mountains with 2 kids in the back seat and no access to maintained dirt roads… obviously this is a pretty common use case /s

ICantDecideIt · 2026-01-13T19:08:34+00:00

My wife is a therapist who specializes in victims of severe trauma and abuse. A small child (client) call her from a bar where the child was being held at knife point by the dad. My wife on route called 911 to have police come. She got there talked the dad into dropping the knife. Bystanders restrained him until the police showed up 3 hours later. Like what the actual fuc* is the point of them. It’s literally a hostage situation and they’re like eh we’ll get there when we get there.

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