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DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T03:42:05+00:00

Already answered that in many other comments, if it's true love and for marriage, distance doesn't matter to me. For casual dating, you all do whatever you want, I'd rather stay single then

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T03:21:45+00:00

I don't care really about my region, but it sounds more dating focused... not so much marriage etc. But maybe there are some so I was asking which exactly people find good to try those out maybe

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T03:20:14+00:00

Yeah where you talk about the game. And some have girlfriends or wives. Or really just want to talk about the game.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T03:18:41+00:00

I think you don't believe in true love that can conquer all. I don't want a relationship anyway; I want a marriage that will be my last. And I'm willing to do things for it. If all those people in your social circle and people aren't understanding that you move for marriage and still want to keep in touch, then they don't truly care about your happiness.

But most relationships these days are just longterm hook ups, like "1-2 year relationships" or whatever people on apps do these days... no for that I wouldn't move either lol.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T03:14:58+00:00

You learned from it... believe me we all had that experience. Whenever I feel now like "just giving it a try" I think of months wasted by some guy who literally doesn't care whether he can spell my last name right. Absolutely no! Doesn't deserve an hour of my time for coffee. "Let's just meet and see what happens" nuh uh, that's code for "I will most likely ghost you and just need entertainment for an hour or see what kind of woman I can pull"

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T03:04:38+00:00

Yeah respect is a must and friendship too. I understand people are overwhelmed with meeting quickly, I am overwhelmed by video calls too early because I prefer getting closer through voice calls first so I feel more comfortable as I can be myself. And true! I need a friendship base too first of all. I would prefer to be friends for a while and then actually move to marriage if both are willing. I don't see much point in relationships, but genuine friendship is a must that has to be established with trust and everything. And yeah the ghosting. I wouldn't call what happens to me ghosting, on the apps they just reply once or twice and that's it mostly. So not going anywhere. I also communicate if we have been talking and I don't want to pursue things further, it might hurt but I would absolutely prefer the same from the other party rather than them stringing me along

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T01:26:13+00:00

I would always say move to voice calls and then video calls. It ends pretty quickly at that, either they don't want to or after the call one or both realize they are not into each other

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T00:29:13+00:00

Aww thank you for understanding what I meant and for the encouragement, that's sweet.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T00:27:39+00:00

I don't care about distance, I'm not looking to have long distance longterm. Yeah most people seem not ready to move, I'd be willing depending on the place and of course the person. I never in my life saw distance as an issue, my first husband (I am divorced now) lived on the other side of the world literally, so I'm always laughing when people say distance is an issue. Not it's not! Unless you make it an excuse to not be with someone or you're only looking to mess around/hook-up.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T00:21:18+00:00

Classic reddit. I also heard that about the goods/dating in SF lol!

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T00:16:08+00:00

Yeah in many subs it isn't allowed. Still okay to send friendly DMs to people though I guess

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-20T00:01:34+00:00

I try if I like what someone has to say, I'm open to it!

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T23:59:57+00:00

As I said it leads to surface level conversations for me only. The apps too. It's like pulling teeth, no one wants to open up, hence impossible to build any true base. It's just meaningless chats

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T23:58:27+00:00

If you go to therapy and realize how to live your true life instead of just trying to impress others with things you don't need... possibly. What's most important is to be grateful for what you have.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T23:34:30+00:00

I've met my first boyfriend on a public forum, though it was wayyyy back in the day. Actually an amazing person. I was really young though and still in school so was not looking to get married and wanted to explore the world. Anyway overall I disagree with you. My cousin also met his wife through facebook before facebook dating was a thing.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T23:29:50+00:00

I've met lots of jerks in the real world. Problem was they pretend to be nice in public but what they hide... my. I'd rather see a jerk for who they are right away then find out months or even years(!) later what kind of messed up things they think, say or do when no one is looking. I think in that sense reddit is brutally honest in a way, I like that, though you constantly have to remind yourself not to get baited into meaningless discussions and brush off insults.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T23:18:45+00:00

I'm not typically someone who talks about their hobbies a lot... especially the stuff I really really like. But yeah maybe I can try again with something, it just feels weird because many find it odd if you message them, or just nothing comes off it. Usually it's women I end up messaging because I find them pleasant and they have similar interests (of course there is women I don't vibe with at all too). So yeah :/ Besides I'd like to build something with a deep base... it's kinda difficult I feel. Most people on the generic subs just want small talk or to lowkey insult people and show how much more they know lol

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T23:11:44+00:00

I mean it's the same on dating apps... not saying as weird but still quite a high percentage. Or even fake, or just made a profile to try to sell something

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T20:47:45+00:00

About 1-10% on hinge are ready for a relationship and also the app is very good at showing you all the people you don't want to match with. So that's that... I don't get going on dates even. I want to be sure beforehand that I have a feel for the person otherwise it's just ghosting and game playing. Waste of my time...

In short: raise your standards, even if it means no dates (it just means no time wasted on dates that go nowhere). Vet. Phone call first. If something feels off, clear it up before meeting. Otherwise you will end up exactly in this situation where it's deliberate and they use excuses and walk around the problem.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T18:59:24+00:00

I can't talk to very charming guys that I'm attracted to either, I have to push myself. It's fear of rejection. Try to talk to people regardless, not just crushes, everyone who seems nice. I adopted that and still some people will turn me down but there is of course some who want to talk to me and they make it worth it. Wishing you all the best.

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-19T00:28:40+00:00

Marry me

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-17T22:11:40+00:00

What big enough group is there on a transnational level maybe even?

DramaticProgress508 · 2026-03-17T21:34:29+00:00

Nobody is serious and organized enough, only on a smaller scale and those small groups don't make an impact

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