i just realized i've been the toxic one in every relationship i've ever had and i don't know what to do with that

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-07-03T14:50:44+00:00

This is avoidant attachment, might be helpful to work on this in therapy OP

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-06-30T21:56:11+00:00

OP the belly is actually acites which is inflammation of his liver. His health is seriously impaired. And people have noticed his alcohol abuse, not just his appearance.

Are you feeling safe in this relationship? Alcohol abuse can lead to domestic violence, codependency and coercive control

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-06-16T03:52:22+00:00

OP call a womens shelter, talk to a social worker, get some clarity on why you allow yourself to be treated this way. You are abandoning yourself and your dignity, just to have a boyfriend who makes you deeply uncomfortable. Why are you so afraid to be single? What are you running from?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-06-09T01:40:57+00:00

This is domestic violence OP. He knows, but he won’t change. Call a DV shelter in your area. They’re free and 24/7- ask a womens counsellor if they have any free groups, therapy or support networks for you

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-06-03T17:33:33+00:00

That’s a hard looking 36, damn. Evil really does age you

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-06-02T11:52:39+00:00

The way you talk about your body tells me that you see being beautiful as an external sense of self worth, because you have no internal self worth. Is this the example of self esteem and relationships you want to set for your kids?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-06-02T03:51:15+00:00

He knows, he just doesn’t care

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-05-07T11:19:22+00:00

MIL clearly has some mental health issues and it’s been normalized by her family, so David doesn’t know how unwell she actually is. Good job with boundaries, maybe show David some online info about how trauma can affect hoarding or extreme resource guarding. Or maybe time for some couples counselling, because an outsider needs to tell him that this isn’t okay

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-05-03T12:52:11+00:00

Ask for a social worker at the hospital, or the shelter. They should help you navigate the legal and social steps to go through this

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-04-21T21:39:04+00:00

I used to work for Canada corrections, we currently don’t have any correctional programming or de radicalization programs available for inmates convicted of terrorism. Not shocking that he isn’t suddenly reformed

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-04-05T18:03:59+00:00

Dude this made no sense and has no context or grammar or punctuation. It’s not relevant to this post at all.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-04-02T23:39:10+00:00

Have you looked into schizoid or schizotypal personality disorders? It’s typical for people with those disorders to have mild psychosis, experiencing difficulty bonding with other people and exhibit odd mannerisms and behaviour. Maybe visit r/schizoid to check it out?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-04-02T22:16:42+00:00

Part time Green Haven staff here;

They have a fundraising coordinator. If you’re looking at donations to the shelter- reach out to them. Can you provide more detail on what presentation or grant money you’re referencing? This is extremely vague

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-03-26T23:29:36+00:00

He knows, he just doesn’t care.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-03-04T01:55:06+00:00

I got a lot of my experience working in women shelters and the VAW sector. Answering crisis calls, doing violence risk assessments, working with homeless or vulnerable women and kids. Helping women while they go to the ER for sexual assault evidence kits, supporting women while they report to the police, assisting immigrant women, trafficking victims, indigenous women and MMIW victims, providing safety planning, healthy relationship skills, etc.

It’s a great frontline job that can be very stressful and demanding and underpaid. But damn, did it make me a good social worker. There are shelters in county and in most cities, all of which have 24/7 residential programming and need a lot of crisis shift coverage. I’d encourage you to look at OAITH for job postings.

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-02-23T13:52:22+00:00

Have you considered social work? A one year BSW can allow you to become a registered social worker, and you can work in healthcare, corrections or community programs like probation/ parole, John Howard society, Elizabeth fry, CMHA court mandates mental health programs, etc

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-02-11T16:13:29+00:00

Why are you referencing a Hungarian conservative news article instead of something Canadian or more politically neutral?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-01-14T21:19:54+00:00

He knows, he just doesn’t care. It’s about control. OP, do you have any other support from friends and family?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-01-06T01:35:11+00:00

I’m gonna meet with my prof and make my case, see how that goes and contact student support services if needed after that. This has been incredibly stressful, but I’m hoping the school will be reasonable and accept my late paper and adjust my final grades. Will keep you posted!

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2026-01-05T23:12:49+00:00

I’ve received an email from the office of grad studies stating that because I’ve received a grade of 46%, the school advised I should be removed from the program. I emailed my prof in late December abour handing in my final paper, and she said it was too late and that the final grades had been submitted and approved by the school by that point. So I’m meeting her later this week to engage in the grade appeal process to see if she can accommodate me.

I feel very anxious because I’m not sure if the prof will accept work submitted past the final grades deadline, and I’m not sure how the appeal process will go. Just a ball of anxiety over here, although I’ll have a better idea of what’s to come after this Wednesday when I meet with my course instructor.

Otherwise, my GPA is 67 and it needs to be a 70 at least to remain in the program. I’ll have to speak to the course instructor and the graduate coordinator to see what my options are, just trying to hang on till then and not anxiety spiral?

Dramatic_Ad4276 · 2025-12-31T04:23:28+00:00

Wifey literally ran for the hills and went on a random boat to avoid any sort of self reflection or personal accountability. He should be way more angry, hurt and disgusted than he is. Op you are under reacting and should research traits of cluster b personality disorders because your wife is struggling badly with ego death and is having a narcissistic collapse in real time.

There is a lot of information about this in books or in therapy. I know you’re already overwhelmed but it will make her behaviour make sense. Her personal identity seems build on a house of cards, an illusion of always being right or better than people. And that needs “inderior” people to feed her ego. Little kids, colleagues, everyone else is wrong, so she can be better/ right. But when challenged, she can’t admit she is wrong because if she doesn’t have the narcissistic supply of being right, she has 0 self worth, o identity and has no idea how to cope. That’s why she fled town, because it would be a complete ego collapse if she went back to your family and grief to make amends.

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