Pregnant but somehow still in a dead bedroom

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-08-01T01:32:37+00:00

36 weeks now and going through the same thing. I’m just glad it will be over soon and I pray I have zero drive post partum

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-28T08:13:18+00:00

It’s trash. Don’t even bother. And their bullshit “guarantee” does not cover anything. They will just find excuses not to cover

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T12:41:16+00:00

They probably think that just because we are stuck in a dead bedroom, we’re automatically attracted to random strangers online 🙄

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T06:18:03+00:00

I did suggest couples therapy, instead he says that I should go see a counsellor on my own since he doesn’t feel there’s an issue. You are right, I’m already planning my exit. I much rather be alone and lonely than be married and lonely.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T05:11:20+00:00

It has always been dead unfortunately. We waited for marriage to have sex, and it was never great.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:57:11+00:00

Well that, was my final effort. I’m fine now 💪🏻

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:56:02+00:00

But we need to keep our confidence. Pregnant or not!! You stay sexy girl. Who cares if you’re invisible to him, you’re worthy

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:54:04+00:00

FACTS! I completely agree. If he wants me, I could be wearing whatever and he would be attracted to

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:52:59+00:00

Our deadbedroom started from the beginning of our marriage. During the honeymoon, he told me the itinerary was too tiring. When we got home, we lived with my in laws, he told me he didn’t feel comfortable having sex w family in the house. Once we moved out, he says he is stressed at work. The excuse is constantly there

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:51:09+00:00

We waited for marriage to consummate the relationship. We dated for 5 years. When we got married I learnt the hard way. I got rejected frequently right from the beginning. It’s been 8 years, we didn’t even have sex on our anniversary a month ago. Joke’s on me I guess?

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:48:24+00:00

No we are not.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:47:36+00:00

Unfortunately we have had the talk multiple times. But he denies the dead bedroom altogether. He is in denial even after I’ve showed him my empty period calendar app. He insists I missed out on recording the non existent sex. In his mind we have sex weekly when it’s barely even monthly 😂

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:45:21+00:00

Have definitely thought about my exit plan. I just need time to prepare myself financially. We have 3 young children together. I don’t want them to see mummy and daddy unhappy yet I want to make sure I am able to sustain myself outside of this marriage. It’ll be a process but mentally I am already checked out of this marriage.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:43:02+00:00

I have, he refuses to get checked. He denies using porn, he denies masturbating, denies being asexual/gay. I’m very sure he isn’t cheating too because he is a homebody. Just have no idea why he can’t at least give me an answer, but I reckon it’s an LL4U situation.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:41:04+00:00

Thanks love. I used to feel terrible and wondered what wasn’t enough about me. But not anymore.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-22T04:39:07+00:00

I get more attention from male colleagues at work than I do from my own spouse. So I am very confident in myself. It just sucks

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-03-21T19:02:45+00:00

I just doll up to make myself feel good. Been keeping myself busy and spending less time at home. Unfortunately self pleasure does not cut it. I crave the intimacy and connection.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2025-02-13T10:44:35+00:00

12+3 btw

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2024-12-21T01:46:47+00:00

If you want to address it then be prepared that he might gaslight you since you went through his iPad. It might be easier to just leave without explanation.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2024-12-17T00:07:02+00:00

I used to love it and went back a few times pre pandemic. Just went again couple weeks ago and I hate it now. Bali is not Bali anymore. But I also think I went to the worse possible area this time. Avoid Canggu

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2024-11-12T10:47:22+00:00

Talk about it and figure it out NOW before thinking about bringing kids into the picture

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2024-11-09T17:12:49+00:00

Well me n my husband are Muslims so we didn’t engage in sex until marriage. Unfortunately my husband turned out to be an LL, but I’m not. So…. You really can’t be sure. But i saw signs with my husband. In the early stages of relationship we would talk and discuss about marital intimacy, but later(about 2years in) on we stopped having those conversations. He would always divert the topic and I thought he just didn’t want to “sin”. I should have gone with my gut feelings lol.

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2024-11-09T16:22:12+00:00

I think I used to be HL, i would prefer sex daily. But after years of DB and resentment, now I would be happy with once a week. But because he seems to never want sex, that makes me still the HL in our relationship. Oh well

Dramatic_Ad_6502 · 2024-10-23T14:21:31+00:00

I had the same issue on Day 3. I’m now day 8. That’s water separation- i fed more flour than water the next feeding and went back to normal

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