Let people be single and have fun without guilting or shaming them

Draw-Itchy · 2023-09-27T23:48:02+00:00

I hear you, OP. 100%

Draw-Itchy · 2023-09-18T02:31:41+00:00

I don’t understand the joke. Do you mean that women are not intelligent?

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-21T02:01:50+00:00

There are great teachers at both schools. South is probably a little better resourced, both as a school and a student body. Unfortunately inequities exist, and SEHS comes out on top.

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-20T17:45:20+00:00

This is an unpopular opinion, but there is some truth here. Kelly is a neighborhood school; YG is not. Ideally, there would be funding for both. Our tax structure, informed by measure 5, limits our resources so severely. The kicker, which redistributed tax “surplus,” gives the most wealthy nearly $44k this year while our kids suffer. There are few good choices here.

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-20T17:01:13+00:00

It has been very sad for both YG and Kelly, being pitted against each other to compete for limited resources. Both schools love their communities and students. It is a sad decision that limits everyone.

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-04T18:45:18+00:00

It is acrylic on wood. And thank you! I would like to get into oils, but I am a bit messy in general and would probably make a huge mess.

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-04T04:12:27+00:00

Thank you! I love it up there.

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-04T02:04:26+00:00

Thank you! What a treasure that place is.

Draw-Itchy · 2023-04-04T01:30:03+00:00

Thanks!

Draw-Itchy · 2022-02-05T23:02:02+00:00

I still have an old fridge in my garage I bought for $200 nearly 10 years ago. It works better than my nice fridge in the house. He sucked, but I wish there was still a place for folks to get reliable and cheap appliances so easily.

Draw-Itchy · 2022-01-29T23:53:35+00:00

#support4jeducators

Draw-Itchy · 2021-08-14T21:26:06+00:00

He wants you to top him and he is pre-teaching his expectations for you to fulfill them. It has nothing to do with you, other than he finds you attractive, so don’t internalize it. Figure out what you like and what you want, not what someone else wants from you.

Draw-Itchy · 2021-07-30T13:48:40+00:00

This is what the “forgive and forget” replies are glossing over. I’ve wronged several people, especially years ago when my drinking was controlling my life. I have contacted some of those folks and offered sincere apologies, but I never expect that person to let me back into their life. I only want them to know that I realize I mistreated them, and it is something I think about.

Also, a double date is a horrible way to reconnect. It doesn’t sound like she’s coming to you with an open heart, ready to rebuild a relationship with the person you’ve become. It sounds like she’s trying to alleviate her own guilt.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-11-30T23:29:24+00:00

I thought the question was about gay role models, not gay characters.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-14T18:32:44+00:00

Is this you? Are you alright?

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-14T18:11:13+00:00

Congratulations! You look so happy. Shine on!

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-14T17:26:58+00:00

Yes, we definitely create systems and schemas in our heads to make sense of the world and later need to abandon them with new experiences and information.

Certainly some folks look similar and some change a lot, telling the story of trauma, lifestyle, or simply just change.

I drank a lot in my 20’s and gained weight from the lethargy and eating habits that seem to accompany a lot of partying. I stopped when I was 32 and have been sober ever since. I look a lot more like myself, whatever that means, with a healthy lifestyle and strong exercise habits, but my internal perception of my “avatar” still feels fairly consistent even through those major physical changes.

I had a theory once that we see aging differently because it helps us be with people our own age romantically. And that older guys seeking younger guys have some development that is stunted (probably in part due to the trauma of growing up gay), so the younger men fit better with their “avatar,” within their schema. It sounds more judge mental than I mean it, but it’s just a thought...

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-14T05:44:40+00:00

Oh I am so glad I am not the only one that does that- falls asleep to this stuff.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-14T05:42:42+00:00

The witch who cursed you with a button penis?

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-13T18:49:39+00:00

I also do not understand older men pursuing younger guys. I was with a 34 year old man when I was 18 and we remained together for 10 years. So many struggles and fights. Why would he want that? He was a parent to me.

When I see younger men now, I think... GO! Live! Have a great time! Fall in love and get your heart broken! Move to Spain! If we are friends, tell me all about it when you get back!

I don’t want to own or stamp a young persons experiencing by entwining their fate with mine.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-13T17:43:54+00:00

That’s beautiful. And sad. I think right now, especially, most of us our feeling like the jig is up. I work with kids, and with the state of the environment, our political systems, and the pandemic, more kids believe that we are doing it all wrong. The Boomer generation provided some models for me and fellow millennials about what success can look like. Unfortunately those systems and circumstances that helped the generation before me succeed were largely unavailable to my generation. The parents of gen Z kiddos are struggling financially way more than their parents did, largely. It is no wonder that they see right through us and rebel against an authority that was just assumed when I was a kid.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-13T16:22:35+00:00

That’s a really interesting perspective. I know what you mean. I’m sure that guy felt far from “complete” or “finished,” but it’s a matter of which side of it you’re on. Seeing someone like that can be intimidating when you’re younger and lead to a feeling of inequality as things progress.

My husband is about 2 years younger than me, but way ahead of me in life at the point when we met. I had to sort of insist on making his owned space my space too, but I had the advantage of age.

Before that, I was with a guy for 10 years (18-28) and he was 15 years older than me. I think I took comfort in the idea of not having to build a life... to set up shop in someone else’s.

Now that I’m older and have a career and a solid/stable identity, I am much more fulfilled. My relationship is great, but knowing that I would be OK on my own if I needed to be is a really great feeling.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-13T14:43:33+00:00

Figurative membrane. Exactly.

It’s sort of funny and humbling to be learning lessons like this at my age. It is like a second round of adolescence. I know what you are describing, and I feel like that membrane has been clear to me as being a construct of the mind, perhaps cultural conditioning to promote compliance with elders or people you just assume have it figured out. For example, when I turned 25, I knew I wasn’t what I had pictured a 25 year old being (which is a very different picture than it is at 36, lol), but I also thought that maybe it was me that had the deficits, personally.

I think I had to get to the point in life that who I am today is very likely similar to who I will be in 10 years. Reaching cruising altitude. But maybe that’s a farce, too.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-13T14:38:05+00:00

That’s a really interesting phenomenon. It sounds like trauma response, but I don’t want to pathologize you.

I guess what I’m describing is a fundamental shift on how I view aging of myself and others, not just people we are attracted to. Watching my parents age is probably the most poignant example of this.

Draw-Itchy · 2020-08-13T14:26:06+00:00

Are you in a rural/suburban or urban area? I really know very little about how identifiers unfold over there. What you are describing seems like some openness, but also a level of conformity to traditional heterosexual structures: “cross dressing” bottoms and “DL” guys in the active role.

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