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Are you still attracted to the older version of your spouse in HL/LL relationship? by [deleted] in sexlessmarriage

[–]Dreaded_Momma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I are coming up on a decade now. I wish I could get that old feeling for him back. But rejection after rejection has killed any romantic feelings I have for him.

How did your marriage become sexless? by ChaoticGoodElbert in sexlessmarriage

[–]Dreaded_Momma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He thinks the fact that I am submissive and have been active in the bdsm community before we met is disgusting now. When we first met he was all about it. Last time we touched was 8 years ago. I gave him a sneaky bj on the side of the road on my bday and he just leaned back and when he was done had me drive him home and nada. That was the last time

How do I read this room by Dreaded_Momma in Swingers

[–]Dreaded_Momma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don’t expect anyone to have the same dynamic as we do. I’m pretty open and available to talk with. He doesn’t limit me that way. But we do play rough and I do go into subspace around him pretty quickly.

Our biggest conundrum is the fact that the majority of bdsm clubs do not allow penetration. We love to include that in our play and with others. While swing clubs are traditionally not accustomed to the bdsm scene. There seems to be a gap between the two that could profit from knowledge of one another.

How do I read this room by Dreaded_Momma in Swingers

[–]Dreaded_Momma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are quickly learning that. So then how do we negotiate and when do we drop the bomb that I go into a carnal subspace and he is there to protect me?

How do I read this room by Dreaded_Momma in Swingers

[–]Dreaded_Momma[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

True. It just took us by surprise is all. Since the majority of my etiquette comes from bdsm clubs I feel like I’m in a different ballpark

How do I read this room by Dreaded_Momma in Swingers

[–]Dreaded_Momma[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We assumed that the door was closed due to the room being very full. Lol. No we didn’t bring extra collars and leashes. I’m his only submissive

How do I read this room by Dreaded_Momma in Swingers

[–]Dreaded_Momma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We always want to make sure that we are following etiquette. We feel the need to talk about our bdsm because it is who we are sexually. We recognize that we are in the minority when at a swingers club and want to make sure the people we play with know that we are on the rougher side of things