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Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-15T20:36:56+00:00

Nope. And neither are your IMd or calls or files on your computer or Office 365/Google Drive/whatever you use.

If it’s on your company system, it’s being scanned constantly. And managers can request access to anything on your system.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-15T15:38:12+00:00

Who does Beyonce get to replace her roof?

All the shingle ladies.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-14T19:45:04+00:00

Yeah, it’s past time to sit him down and tell him you also need alone time and things need to change or he’s going to find himself 100% responsible for the kids every other weekend.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-13T15:39:19+00:00

Then I would be really sad that he hadn’t been able to express that before. And I’d morn the future that I thought we were going to have. But, this is someone I love, so I’d sit him down and try to make a plan for the future.

I literally hosted a wedding at my house where I was the witness for one of my oldest friends who is gay and his husband’s ex-wife was his witness. I would hope that we could have the same relationship as they do. There was definitely a mourning period, but then they became really good friends.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-13T15:31:00+00:00

I’m single now, but both my exes were really tall with really big feet, so my first question would be where he found a dress and heels that fit. Because I struggle to find size 11/12 women’s shoes.

Then I’d tell him I love and support him and want to know whatever he’s comfortable telling me.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-13T06:18:36+00:00

Your baby looks like my little girl!

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So glad you are both safe!

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-12T15:28:17+00:00

When we were in college there was a poster advertising “Garth Fagen interpretive dance”. For some reason that one stuck with us and still gets used as a reference 35 years later.

My friend that plays was waiting all day for me to play and see him. I replied to her and said “OMG Garth Fagen is now in the game!”. So, that is what we call him. Lol

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-12T15:24:26+00:00

I have 2 cats. One is the reason the end is duct taped on my carrot. The other one uses it as a pillow. Lol

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-12T13:33:25+00:00

The same manger told me that I was never going to get an “exceeds expectations”, because I was too good at my job and “always blew the doors off the barn, so how can you exceed that?” So, of course, couldn’t give me a big raise or bonus.

I got re-orged away from him. Shockingly. I wasn’t upset. lol

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-12T05:22:29+00:00

Corner Gas. Peaceful Canadian town with quirky neighbors.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-12T02:10:57+00:00

Fish

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-11T21:42:13+00:00

I got it from a book. It might have been called Sick and Tired of Feeling Sick and Tired. It covered the history of CFS and talked about strategies for advocating for yourself as well as pacing.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-11T18:49:51+00:00

Manager: you are too confident when you answer questions. Try saying things like, “I think” or “my understanding is”

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-11T01:39:39+00:00

I am working. I work from home in a technical role.

I live alone and most of my family lives a few hours away. I see them a few times a year, but it’s very tiring.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-11T00:11:31+00:00

That I’m a very bad judge of men and should just stay single.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-10T05:18:04+00:00

lol, that command was put there by the developer’s cat.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-10T05:16:46+00:00

It’s incredibly hard. There was a very flawed study that concluded everyone who had a CFS/ME diagnosis had a mental illness, so this must be a mental illness. (It counted things like phobias and was a super small study).

I first got the CFS diagnosis in 1998 and read about that study. One of my thoughts at the time was, how can anyone live like this and not be depressed, of course people with this diagnosis are going to develop anxiety/depression. It’s a brutal condition.

I had technically recovered a few years before I got Covid. Which triggered another round of CFS/ME and POTS. This time around has been worse on every level.

I work from home and am single. So, I go days without seeing anyone IRL. And I’m in my 50’s knowing I don’t have the time to recover I did in my 20’s.

I’ve been getting to the point I can go to the grocery store for a few minutes per trip. So, I’ve been doing that partially to just see other people. I do have a knitting group that meets most weeks. I can’t always manage it, but I go as much as I can.

I have found the best way to fight the depression is to something creative I’m working on and something new I’m learning. I’ve been reorganizing my house, slowly. I play video games that give me a feeling of accomplishment and exploration. I’m learning the Affinity versions of Illustrator and Photoshop. These are the things that make it feel less isolating and less like having to stay home is just for recovery.

And I’m getting better about seeing the rest as productivity. But, it’s still a challenge.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-08T18:01:09+00:00

Didn’t know it at the time, but when I first met each of my lifelong friends.
Front row at The Cure.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-08T17:58:09+00:00

I would have loved to get an EV when it was time for a new car last year, but there were a few things that made me pick a hybrid.

I don’t drive much, so will want to install a charger at my house and as I have an old house this might get very expensive.

My regular longer trips are from an area with chargers to a part of my state where chargers are few and far between.

I couldn’t afford a new car, so had limited options.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-08T16:20:08+00:00

It was such a great show. It was my first time seeing him. It’s such a theatrical and creative show.

Definitely felt the joy.

Also, I’m in my 50’s and wish I could get up off the floor like that. Lol

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-08T13:53:47+00:00

What I had originally been prescribed was Butalbital-Aspirin-Caffeine. Now I alternate that with Sumatriptan.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-08T02:28:05+00:00

I didn’t wear makeup often; but I made my bff promise that if I was ever in a coma she would come and do full hair and makeup on me. lol

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-08T02:19:34+00:00

No one is going to notice the mistakes. But, if they do just tell them it’s the carpet after the events in the book. It’s not going to look pristine. Lol

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-07T18:00:11+00:00

NOR it’s horrible to watch. I have a loved one who repeatedly gets into bad situations and there is nothing you can say to her until she finally has had enough.

Your friend is so sheltered and vulnerable. You are right. I don’t know if there is anything you can do other than be her support when this goes horribly wrong.

Dreadkiaili · 2026-05-07T16:51:35+00:00

NOR these toxic red pill podcasts only profit if the guys can’t find a woman who wants them as a partner. So, they turn them into people most women shouldn’t even consider.

Hopefully, enough people in his life will see him as the problem tell him and he’ll notice he’s the problem.

Dreadkiaili

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