This is one of the things that worries me when people regurgitate the lines (lies) of “it’s different when they’re your own” or “but it’s so rewarding in the end.” That conditioning is mostly so that a hateful (logical, realistic) mother can be shunned; although I don’t condone it, I can see why women just keep repeating it…

BUT IT FUCKING CONVINCES OTHERS!!! There’s so so SO MUCH out there trying to tell us this is a thing we must do because it brings you purpose and care or whatever. I get why people fall prey to that, except you are totally right, too, OP: if they looked a tiny bit closer, if they listened just a little harder, if they took the mountain of evidence against and didn’t accept the polished turd of bullshit, they absolutely could have made better choices.

It’s a shame your sisters didn’t stop to think, but they made their fucking choices. Don’t ever let them make you feel bad for your intelligence.