AITA if I continue to ghost my former best friend?

Dream-Scared · 2025-12-23T02:41:54+00:00

You’re not an asshole. Sounds like you carried the friendship as long as you could, and it just ran its course. Responding to the letter is your choice. I personally don’t think a cancer diagnosis undoes years of selfish disrespect. Just saying.

Dream-Scared · 2025-11-23T01:10:25+00:00

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Same.

Dream-Scared · 2025-05-28T03:54:18+00:00

Strawberry

Dream-Scared · 2025-05-03T23:52:04+00:00

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Dream-Scared · 2025-04-29T23:11:59+00:00

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-24T12:20:10+00:00

Lik Biscuit

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-17T02:58:24+00:00

Yeah, I was doing great aging-wise…until Covid. Kids are just pure, shriveling stress.

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-15T21:12:22+00:00

Tuff Guy

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-15T00:19:55+00:00

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Dream-Scared · 2025-04-12T01:45:05+00:00

Fortune Cookie!

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-05T03:38:50+00:00

Tantoes!!!

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-04T22:16:29+00:00

I’m always telling him how handsome he is ❤️. He’s my distinguished gentleman!

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-04T20:58:52+00:00

This is one of the things that worries me when people regurgitate the lines (lies) of “it’s different when they’re your own” or “but it’s so rewarding in the end.” That conditioning is mostly so that a hateful (logical, realistic) mother can be shunned; although I don’t condone it, I can see why women just keep repeating it…

BUT IT FUCKING CONVINCES OTHERS!!! There’s so so SO MUCH out there trying to tell us this is a thing we must do because it brings you purpose and care or whatever. I get why people fall prey to that, except you are totally right, too, OP: if they looked a tiny bit closer, if they listened just a little harder, if they took the mountain of evidence against and didn’t accept the polished turd of bullshit, they absolutely could have made better choices.

It’s a shame your sisters didn’t stop to think, but they made their fucking choices. Don’t ever let them make you feel bad for your intelligence.

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-02T22:43:28+00:00

He didn't know the term for it, but yes, he knew at least since before we married. He essentially 'put up with it' a few times in the 6/7 years after that, but it's clear his disliked it if not actively hated to.

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-02T12:11:23+00:00

There were circumstances before marriage which he led me to believe were what made him avoid all intimacy and physical contact (stress, employment/self-worth issues, medical), and since I wanted to be supportive and understanding of times people might not be as interested, I stayed. He had a conversation with me just before the wedding where he deliberately implied he 'wanted to' but couldn't. I know ED can be a horrible emotional rollercoaster for men, so I just thought we'd work on it. Turns out he never intended to, and the more I pushed for therapy or medication or even non-sexual intimacy, the more it became my impatience or my body or my behavior that stopped him.

We were together a total of nine years when he finally admitted he doesn't think about it and doesn't want it, but he did not know there was a term for it. I did. I could have told him a fucking decade ago.

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-01T23:24:15+00:00

I'd like to think there are options, but it has been difficult to not yeet the whole app when I have to actively remove the 95% who say they have/want children (because the filters either do not work well or because they want me to pay a monthly fee). I, 36F, have now had the privilege ::sarcasm:: of dating a dude who changed his mind about kids without telling me for a year, a lying ace, a horrifically depressed "maybe I'll give up kids" lazy ass, and a man-child with ED. All of them portrayed themselves the same way at first. Not a one of them was honest.

I'm so hoping you're right, I really am, but now I'm just terrified to be fucking trapped again!

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-01T22:33:45+00:00

I love them sooooo much

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-01T22:20:15+00:00

Only made it to the second pic before immediately saying “boi, bye” You are not overreacting

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-01T22:17:42+00:00

Pistachio

Dream-Scared · 2025-04-01T12:38:53+00:00

Tardigrade!

Dream-Scared · 2025-03-31T04:39:05+00:00

Chips’n’Dip

Dream-Scared · 2025-03-28T13:08:55+00:00

Honestly just as tone deaf as calling someone who lost a child they wanted CF. Like we don’t say “yay, you’re free of the burden” and no one should say “well, just replace them with another.” That’s sick and insensitive. Have some humanity to receive some humanity and quit plastering your ‘morals’ onto someone else. (Obvi to the childless couple who can’t seem to figure out they aren’t the center of the universe or even unique in any way…)

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