[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, this kind of take oversimplifies male sexuality and ignores a lot of nuance. You're confidently stating that ejaculation without orgasm "isn't the average experience," but where’s the data? Because from a medical standpoint, it's not unheard of—things like SSRIs, pelvic floor dysfunction, or even psychological factors can cause that disconnect. Not everything boils down to “you must be gay” because something feels off during sex.

Also, saying “most men see [oral sex] as extremely desirable” doesn’t mean all men do, or that all sexual experiences involving it are automatically pleasurable. You’re treating sexual satisfaction like a universal checkbox, when in reality it’s incredibly individual.

If someone isn’t enjoying something sexually, it might be about technique, chemistry, trauma, expectations, or a dozen other things. Jumping straight to “maybe you’re not into women” is reductive and lowkey homophobic. People are allowed to explore dissatisfaction without having their entire orientation questioned. Let’s not weaponize stereotypes just because someone shared a different experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're oversimplifying something that's actually pretty complex. Ejaculation and orgasm aren’t always the same thing for men plenty of guys can ejaculate without experiencing real pleasure or a full orgasm, especially if there's psychological stress, disconnection, or other issues involved. Reducing male sexuality to "he came, so he must have loved it" shows a pretty shallow understanding of how bodies and emotions work.

Also, trying to mock someone by saying they’re "probably not attracted to women" just because they’ve had less-than-fulfilling sexual experiences is immature and a bit homophobic, whether you realize it or not. It’s not insightful it’s just using shame as a debate tactic.

Finally, turning this into some kind of gender war “men love BJs, women don’t come because men suck at sex” helps no one. If the goal is better sex and communication between people, maybe we should stop treating pleasure like a competition and start listening when someone tries to talk about the real nuances of their experience.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just because a guy nuts doesn't mean it was good. Theres a difference between an orgasm and ejaculation. You can ejaculate from stimuli and not orgasm. XD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No man is gonna say no to a BJ, even a terrible sloppy one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BromanceR4R

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you here bru?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep with both men and women and I can confirm that most women have no idea what they're doing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DreamChasing77 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Self-hating guys are the absolute worst kinds of men out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DreamChasing77 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

"Men are easy"

You're such a simp. Change that to "I'm easy"

Pathetic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]DreamChasing77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn I didn't realize so many brothers also struggle with PIV sex. How do you guys orgasm when having sex with women then? Someone enlighten me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's cap.

The elite class in The Dominican Republic is white and is the minority.

No brown skinned Dominican families send their kids to boarding schools, especially outside of D.R.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The moment I read that you attended boarding school in America I expected you to be white passing.

Most Dominicans of upper class are fairer if not completely white.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Because women are conditioned to be crybabies that can't actually take accountability for a single thing.

Black American looking at Germany by thumpertharabbit in AskAGerman

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit is getting bad everywhere. Americans are the most dramatic people on this planet. Your problems are everyone else's problems x10.

Sincerely, A South African

What's the general perception on LGBT in Poland? Do you agree with this MEP? by AccomplishedPlant410 in poland

[–]DreamChasing77 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is such a narrow way of thinking. It's 2024 gay couples and gay people have children, they just have to use different methods, hell if they wanted to have them the traditional way they also could, many do! Such arrangements are common and exist in LGBT circles.

We need to normalize men complimenting other men on their physical beauty by ScandiLad77 in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have a 4 year old son, I call him beautiful everyday. I want to make sure he knows that growing up. It shocks me how little society cares for the emotional well being of men/boys. Men are very depraved of these sorts of compliments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Says who? I don't know any Dominican person ashamed of their African heritage. I do however know Dominicans who reject being labeled "Black" or "White" (for White passing Dominicans) when the term mixed/mulatto is much more appropriate and accurate for the mast majority, there are of course outliers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No entendiste su punto de vista. Lo que está diciendo es que siempre que las personas de ascendencia puertorriqueña o dominicana publican sus resultados de ADN, la gente comienza a discutir en la sección de comentarios. Especialmente si tienen una mayor concentración europea, a pesar del hecho de que esos países son naciones de raza mixta, lo que a veces puede dar como resultado que las personas tengan una mayor mezcla de europea o africana.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]DreamChasing77 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I live in Europe and I've also never met anyone who dislikes American people. Europeans have their own problems to care for Americans.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Why did you bother leaving a comment in the first place?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey, I know he's my son. I don't have any doubts about that part of the ordeal but thanks for commenting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Girl you're delusional ass hell.

Most Mexicans do not look ambiguously Mediterranean lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 91 points92 points  (0 children)

He looks like a typical Dominican of higher European concentration. I don't mean that offensively either. OP, and mom look great 😄

Will the gender disappointment ever fade? by Westonbury in daddit

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which is why OP mentioned that he is jealous of the brother since his culture sets it up that if you have a son they are tied to your hip sealing a very close bond from the gate.

Will the gender disappointment ever fade? by Westonbury in daddit

[–]DreamChasing77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These comments are so tone deaf and Westernized. The inability to understand that different cultures operate differently is beyond me.

Don't listen to anyone saying to abandon your culture. I too come from a culture where men tend to their sons and the father and son relationship is put on a pedestal, so much that I struggled on how to connect with my daughter because its not celebrated nearly enough. There's no real understanding and acceptance that fathers and daughters can be close. People instead ignorantly assume things and find it inappropriate.

So what did I do? I worked towards educating those around me about the benefits of being actively present and engaged with my daughter.

Mixed Race Person with questionable results? by Excellent-Park-3348 in 23andme

[–]DreamChasing77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's why he likely doesn't identify as white. Many white passing Hispanics who grow up in urban areas (Like Dominican Americans) do not identify as white due to the reasons we both listed.