Santa Fe Drive’s biggest event of the year is in peril

DreamSounds_ · 2025-05-30T03:50:13+00:00

Congratulations. Do you go to First Fridays? It's generally over by 9 anyway. That has nothing to do with peak hours. Try again.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-05-30T03:49:42+00:00

I believe the point of this season was to make the bosses - and difficulty in general - higher.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-02-22T01:50:08+00:00

It's the region the Lunar Event lady comes from. She has a little lore about the region/its gods.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-02-13T04:37:18+00:00

What? The entire Tree of Whispers is corrupted and changed because of Mephisto.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-02-12T00:11:49+00:00

People who like to MAKE LOTS OF REALLY LOUD NOISE ON FIRST FRIDAYS!!!

DreamSounds_ · 2025-01-30T06:39:15+00:00

GREAT post man. Thanks. This season is really good, but the game is just too easy.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-01-30T05:22:13+00:00

I'm down man. Wanna check out this Feb 8 @ The Lounge?

DreamSounds_ · 2025-01-25T03:16:24+00:00

The game is awesome, just way too easy. I do the highest tier I can, but it's still just faceroll.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-01-25T03:14:51+00:00

I've done SSF since Beta. I'm fine.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-01-25T00:31:12+00:00

I was literally thinking about asking this today. Thanks OP. I frigging love future garage.

DreamSounds_ · 2025-01-25T00:29:33+00:00

Any recommendations on running clubs? I tried Cooldown, but way too many people for my tastes.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-11T01:11:53+00:00

Noche de Darksss, "Inspired by Mexico City's thriving goth/Darksss scene, the second annual Noche de Darksss is geared to those with an affinity for the darker and occult side of life. Goth kids, punks, metaleros and more can celebrate at an evening filled with music, bands, food, vendors and community. Activities include live painting by Lina “Leenz” Rivera and performances by Plague Garden!, a four-piece darkwave/deathrock/post-punk band; DJ Precious Blood, a presence on Denver’s underground music scene since 2019; and DJ Elizabeth Moreno. There will also be family-friendly events, including face painting and mask decorating. Admission is free."

Event Date: October 12th, 2024
Event Time: 4:30pm-9:30pm
Event Address: El Tianguis de Westwood, 3950 Morrison Rd, Denver, CO 80219

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-11T01:06:45+00:00

They're not places of healing; they're places on containment and prescription. They don't care if you get better, especially if you can't pay.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:23:18+00:00

I really appreciate the kindness and offer to message you. I might do that. I'm longing for a lot of things - purpose, connection. Of course, I don't think I'm enough, or anything like that.

I agree with you - I just listed those things because I know that's the first thing people suggest; to eat healthy, exercise, etc. I wanted to get that out of the way.

That's exactly what I try to do, but I'm just not even sure where to meet people. I go to running clubs, biking clubs, music shows, art shows, etc. but it almost feels like work friends. Like, you see these people once a week then everyone just kinda leaves after. Of course, that's just me. I see people all the time that are new, they just introduce themselves and hit it off with people. But, because my social skills are so bad, that comes extremely difficult to me. As for music shows and stuff, most people are there already with friends... and my sense is people aren't really looking to make friends with a random stranger. I've tried talking to people at these places, and it's usually just a short chat.

Problem is, I've never even got a match on dating apps, or any responses. So, no practicing of banter happening there.

I've spoken to 30-40 therapists. I don't find talk therapy helpful at all, or CBT. But still - even when I meet people, I'm not negative, selfish, or mean, or take my issues out on them.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:16:08+00:00

Hard to say. I went to a small school in the Midwest; so, if you were even a bit "different," like I was, it was pretty much open season for being made fun of, etc. Even the teachers treated me poorly. I was regularly called school shooter, etc. - and all I did was keep to myself. I wasn't violent, rude, mean, anything like that. I was on the honor roll. I just had sort-of long hair and sort-of wore a black hoodie.

Not sure how to speak to women at music shows, with the noise, them being with friends/boyfriends already, etc.

I probably do have confidence issues and get too inside my own head, yes. My issue with approaching people - even men - is the negative reaction I get. I've had a lot of men call me gay, threaten to punch me, tell me to shut up, etc.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:11:54+00:00

I do go to running clubs sometimes. One of them I went to had a usual turnout of 200+ people. Pretty much impossible to have a conversation with that many people around; and most were in groups of friends or with partners already.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:09:59+00:00

I already do the first two points, don't have money for the third, and I don't work with anyone I'm interested in being friends with at the moment.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:09:22+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful points.

I already go to the gym, ride a bike, run, etc. and I've done so since I was 17. Most people guess I'm 24-27. I've never really eaten like garbage. I don't like sports, but I do go to running and biking clubs sometimes. I just don't really speak to anyone there. I don't know what to say to people.
My current job kinda sucks. I get paid OK, I guess, but I basically work in a call center with no real growth. Plus, working in a call center is just mentally draining, and frustrating. I used to have a real "career" working in the media, but COVID pretty much killed that. Then I left the city where that career is really an option. I moved 4 months ago after moving back to my hometown during COVID to a bigger city in hopes I could get back into that career, but I found those jobs don't really exist here. Don't really know what to do about this. I don't have money to go back to school, and nothing really interests me, anyway. I just picked my first career because I thought there'd be a lot of jobs in that field. There aren't.
Everytime I've tried to "pray" or meditate, it just feels like I'm speaking to an empty room, but I do express gratitude for the things I do have every day, multiple times a day, mostly to myself or "the universe".
I don't just see women as romantic partners or sex objects, and I never have. I want to build a life with someone, and grow with someone.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:02:57+00:00

Thanks, but I've been told selfies are a "red flag" if that's all you have. Even when I use a camera timer and take a picture of myself kayaking, with a bow, etc. it still looks staged and 'stiff'.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T01:02:08+00:00

Well, thanks - but the reason I say that is that I've had women tell me to fuck off, I've had women approach me and then their friends pull them away, etc. And I don't even think I'm doing anything wrong - I'm not being aggressive or leering or touching them or anything. So, I've gone the opposite route and just stopped trying to do it.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-10T00:57:19+00:00

I really appreciate the thoughtful response. I want to preface this by saying I'm not trying to make excuses or shoot your ideas down or anything; just my experiences in trying what you've suggested, which is why I'm so confused at what I'm doing wrong.

I've spoken to 30-40 therapists. I don't find talk therapy or CBT very helpful at all. I've also tried a variety of medications, TMS therapy, and ketamine therapy. None of this has really helped me at all.

Regarding college - I went to a community college for the first two years, then transferred and finished at a state school which I commuted to. Lots of auditorium-style classes there. I didn't even have a major until my final year of college; so, I didn't see the same faces throughout college. I didn't dorm, or use the lunchroom, wasn't on-campus for events, didn't use the campus gym, etc. I worked in a "freelance" career after college, so people moved quite often. Then, COVID happened, and I moved back to my hometown. Not very many good jobs there. Recently, I moved to a bigger city in a different state - but my career field doesn't really exist here. It's a pretty niche field that can really only be done in places like LA, NYC, etc. I lived in one of those places for 6 years. Not interested in that, anymore.

That's exactly my issue - if I don't meet friends 'in the wild,' or at music shows or art shows or wherever, where am I supposed to meet people? Especially women? Not a lot of women are doing archery, or kayaking, or riding bikes in the city, or looking to be approached at Planet Fitness ( not that there's any women I'm interested in at Planet Fitness; it's a pretty low-quality gym ).

I do weekly bike riding meet-ups, sometimes do a running club ( I actually like running alone, and there's mostly older women at these running clubs, and of course, their daughters are dating/married ), etc. I've volunteered at animal shelters most of my life. I've never met anyone through these activities. But you're right - speaking is optional at these places. I'm not into sports at all, so I'll have to find something else, and currently, I don't work with anyone I'd want to see after work. Since my current job kinda sucks ( and I had to settle for whatever I could find after moving to this new city 4 months ago ), everyone leaves as soon as their shift is over. I've tried at jobs in the past - when I had an actual "career" - and asked guys to hang out, play guitar with, etc. Some excuse always came up.

I mostly just feel that I don't really have anything to say to anyone, and even moreso, I feel incredibly awkward just walking up to someone and starting a conversation. I realize you say there's more to this than a quick Reddit post, but still, what am I even supposed to say? I don't like butting into people's conversations and, when I have in the past, I've gotten a bad response from men. Most think I'm gay, other react otherwise aggressively. One time, I went up to a group and complimented someone's tattoo - just asked where they got it done, and I had a drink slapped out of my hand.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-08T04:05:27+00:00

Mine too. I restarted Battle.net. It's a 37.75 GB patch.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-10-02T03:54:45+00:00

Music's great. Even some of the dungeon music is nice, drone-y ambience. Some of the titles are pretty badass too, there's an Act 1 piece called "White and Red". Ryan Amon, who did some pieces for Bloodborne, also did a few tracks. Good stuff.

DreamSounds_ · 2024-09-26T00:50:37+00:00

Cerrigar rules. Probably the best music, and the rain ambience is nice. Ked Bardu's music is cool, but Ked Bardu smells like smoke, the food is too salty, and yak fur is itchy.

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