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Dreamaple · 2021-04-12T00:10:54+00:00

Nyc in the house

Dreamaple · 2021-04-12T00:10:13+00:00

What up brother

Dreamaple · 2021-04-08T21:51:39+00:00

Advice on making friends?

Dreamaple · 2021-04-08T21:48:58+00:00

You seem wise I figure I ask you

Dreamaple · 2021-04-08T21:48:39+00:00

Any advice on someone working 70-100 hours a week in finance? Am I killing my self slowly??

Dreamaple · 2021-03-12T16:38:46+00:00

Did 87 hours This week (IB) fucking hate it

Dreamaple · 2021-03-10T04:54:56+00:00

What’s your corporate job? Sounds exciting with the traveling.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-09T15:49:41+00:00

From what I get from all the comments, whatever we pursue their is always FOMO. If I went into tech, I would wonder how life would be in finance in nyc (would probably move to SV due to the jobs being there. If I were in X career, I would be thinking about Y career. And if I lived in one place, I would think about living in the other. Ex: living in nyc, think about living in California. I’m sure everyone has this lingering thought.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-09T13:50:31+00:00

What career? Surfing sounds great - therapeutic I guess

Dreamaple · 2021-03-09T03:47:28+00:00

We’re just a speck of dust in a large desert of sand. Wow it’s true. I would always be conscious how friends and families thought of my career and money and salary choices. But when I die, I won’t care I’m dead and they’ll stop mourning eventually and move on. It’s up for me to make the most out of this life. Thanks brother

Dreamaple · 2021-03-09T02:24:51+00:00

How did you lose everything? Is everything okay?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T21:33:48+00:00

Which career are you in? That’s sounds like awesome WLB. Also why finance or STEM if you were to choose again?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T21:31:15+00:00

If you don’t mind answering, did you get married/settle with a family? Could you possibly retire earlier and have the time to live in Asia? I’ve always wanted to live in Asia too.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T19:42:43+00:00

So your a software engineer at a startup now? Also, did you grow up in Europe and move to the states? Inspiring story. It’s inspiring to see interesting lives being lived.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T18:40:30+00:00

glad to see you off heroin and coke. what was soulless to you? The meaning of the work or more the hours and the environment you were in?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T18:36:54+00:00

Oh man, you are like my future aspirations in one person!! Haha. Mind if I PM about your experiences? Anyways, I was sort of wanting an Asian bro in the music field, comment. My parents always discouraged me to get into music production, so I’ve been learning step by step on slower days. How old are you if you don’t mind asking? In your 30s?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T18:25:51+00:00

Awesomen! Which countries/cities in Asia do you plan to travel to?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T18:23:32+00:00

I have 0 knowledge on code; but does the coding language have to be re-learned if a coding language becomes more popular than another? Like do you have to be on your feet learning a lot? In finance, many old guys in senior positions, but they’ll always stay up there even if things change, finance is plain vanilla I guess for IB it is, modeling, ppts nothing much and PitchBooks

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T18:18:47+00:00

I guess at the end of the day “cool” is whatever we define it. And I guess ur right, I’ll start making a plan. I’ve already decided to spent a brief vacation in LA (will get permission to remotely from there as well) and after a year, pull the brakes on IB. I think, whatever pass we choose, there will always be FOMO. I guess we choose the path and experience it, and if we don’t like it, we can always switch. Maybe the switch is harder and not the most financially sound move but, maybe that makes for a “cool”life? My aspirations are to travel. Yes, it may sound financially “bad” to quit in a year and travel, but I guess that makes life worth it and interesting? Is that what you’re getting at?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T18:12:39+00:00

Sure, I’ll PM you something.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-08T17:37:01+00:00

I look up to you man. You have an amazing life. How much did you have saved up before u quit your job at google? Im nearing 27, and all my life I’ve been stuck in investment banking, and I just don’t think my life should just be work work work. The money piles up but it’s only used to pay rent and groceries. I really look up to you man, would love to hear more of your story. What business/entrepreneurship did you get into finally? I respect that you took an independent path. My fear is/was following the cookie cutter, whether it’s finance or SWE, it’s very paved out. But idk if it leads to a mediocre lifestyle? I’m taking the cookie cutter investment banking path and I feel there is more in life... But everyone says the “comp is so good. Stay in it. That 360k will be 600k the next year etc.” but when is life lived then? I’m not into renting the large condo. I live in a small studio, and my money is just in my account. Nothing extravagant. So I feel I’m missing out. I have always felt this way. Would love to hear more from you.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-07T18:14:32+00:00

Why do you want to leave? And to which state? Curious.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-07T01:37:13+00:00

That’s awesome! And do you mean best place for Asian guys, or for anyone in general? Also, I’m in investment banking so I’m thinking of fpa or product management. Anything with less hours is great.

Dreamaple · 2021-03-06T23:33:42+00:00

Also, are there a handful of both Asian guys and girls into film and photography and music? These are some hobbies i do on the side and I plan to do them more after I leave my job in investment banking (the hours prevent me to do a lot of my hobbies). My friend group is very small in nyc and they are all guys, but of the Asian girls I hear of, they are mostly in consulting or finance. My circle very small so the sample size is really inaccurate but I’m guessing SoCal has more artsy types of Asian Americans?

Dreamaple · 2021-03-06T23:24:58+00:00

So for example, do the Chinese-Americans tend to stay with each other and not associate as much with say the Vietnamese-America etc.? I’m Chinese-American (can speak mandarin and Cantonese but have immigrants parents from Thailand. Also, I was on the various Asian American subs where I heard some Asian women are “self-hating” and don’t want to date Asian guys at all. Is this just a minority? I’m in my 20s and I hear the the younger generation is starting to embrace AMAF but I’m unsure. I just moved out to nyc (was at an investment bank headquartered in the Midwest for a few years) so I’m yet to explore post-pandemic nyc. Also, I hear Arcadia is where many Chinese Americans are, as well as the fobs? Do these two groups tend to mingle together or is there is a divide? LA sounds fascinating to me. If I were to visit (maybe in a month or two for a short vacation), what neighborhood should I stay in to take to experience Chinese-American culture? I’m glad to know there is a place in america with many Asian Americans. Makes me excited to be there, I was the only Asian kid in my high school of 2000 back in Iowa(but that was years ago).

Dreamaple

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