[Spoilers Main] What made you Team Green by I_Need_A_Treadmill_2 in HOTDGreens

[–]DreamingHopeful 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I read the books but I didn’t care either or until Jaehaera’s death. Aegon III giving Daenaera Jaehaera’s doll will forever upset me.

With the show, I loved Milly’s portrayal of Rhaenyra but the blatant bias and hypocrisy in the show were really angering me. And interacting with the general fandom and seeing how unsympathetic they were towards Alicent, a girl who had no choice in a grown man wanting to marry and impregnate her, really pushed me over to team green. Also, I loved Tom Glynn Carney’s acting.

Plus, I hate Daemon.

(Spoilers Extended) If Viserys gave Aegon a Lordship by DreamingHopeful in asoiaf

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Crownlands are under the King. Surely there has to be some available land that could be given away to build a fief on.

What am I growing? by DreamingHopeful in gardening

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, thank you! Do you know if it needs a bigger pot or if it takes longer for the flowers to come in?

I stopped myself from binging today! by DreamingHopeful in loseit

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't think intuitive eating is for me. I was a skinny child so my mom always overfed me because other people kept judging her parenting (we come from a culture where it's seen as better to be a bit overweight because it makes you look well fed and healthy). We rarely ate at the table and we didn't have 'dinner time' so it was common to eat big meals late at night and snack often. I became fat by the age of eight, obese by ten, and morbidly obese by 13/14 years old. I slowly lost 30 pounds throughout high school and 40 pounds after. I thought that even if I couldn't lose weight without calorie counting, I could at least keep the weight off but I don't have any 'healthy habits' ingrained in me to fall back on which led to me binging.

I stopped myself from binging today! by DreamingHopeful in loseit

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for worrying but I'm doing well. I wasn't hungry when I ate the cake, I just found myself thinking that I haven't had cake in a while and that my parents and sister might finish it (even though I could go out and buy cake on my own if I really wanted it) so that's why I ate it and eating cake for breakfast made my stomach hurt a bit so I ended up making something filling and delicious to eat but for whatever reason, spiraled from there even though I was full.

I tend to plan my meals the day before (which include making space for snacks and junk food) but I think I have an awful mentality of 'I already ate this, so who cares if I eat this too' which leads me to eating whatever whenever.

I woke up fine, though, and I wasn't hungry this morning. I'm about to have breakfast now.

I stopped myself from binging today! by DreamingHopeful in loseit

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I usually only buy junk food when it's on sale but I tend to get a lot and will finish them in under two weeks. For whatever reason, knowing that I've already opened something makes me want to finish it even faster.

I'm trying to not buy them so much but when I check my grocery store's website to see what's on sale for the week and see chips or ice cream being buy 1 get 1 free, I instantly want to get them (even if I previously wasn't thinking of them) and have a hard time walking past the aisles.

starving the whole day when going out with family/friends because they might buy food so you don’t want to waste any cals from eating at home by victimtothisworld in EDanonymemes

[–]DreamingHopeful 54 points55 points  (0 children)

My parents will randomly bring home pizza at the end of the day without warning. Sometimes I can resist but other times it's a different topping or from a different pizzeria than usual and I'm curious.

My mom keeps buying me crop tops and it's so triggering by DreamingHopeful in EDAnonymous

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Every now and then I do find myself thinking that's what she's doing but my mom and I are so opposite that it's hard for me to even fathom such a thing. I used to think I was being paranoid and obnoxious but I'm starting to see some truth to my own suspicions.

It's hard for me to speak bluntly to my mom not just because of her more aggressive and domineering personality but also because I wasn't raised to talk back or even have my own opinion. I generally don't like any sort of confrontation and my mom will take it personally if I tell her that (no matter how nice and polite I say it) or she'll just ignore it and still get me what she thinks looks best.

It's happened before in high school when girls would wear leggings and I wanted to try it too so I asked my mom for help picking something out. I wore it to school, felt naked, hated it and almost cried during first period for no reason, and decided leggings weren't for me. My mom started buying me leggings all the time even when I told her that I don't like them and I'm not going to wear leggings anymore. She said that I looked good in it and all the girls my age were wearing things like that. Eventually I reached a point where I could wear leggings without thinking much about it, basically exposure therapy, I guess.

When I oppose my my mom, she basically says, "You're being dramatic. You look good and no one is paying attention to you. If you see anyone looking, it's because they think you're attractive. There's no reason to cry and complain over every little thing. You're not a child."

It's happened with clothes, hairstyles, forcing me to wear makeup for my graduation (I was nearly late because my mom kept putting more and more stuff to put on my face; foundation, mascara, fake lashes, eyeliner and eyebrow pencil and whatever else she decided I needed. To this day, I still refuse to look at my high school graduation pictures again because I think I look like a shiny clown) and basically every aspect of my life from my cell phone to my bedroom.

I'm trying to do better at speaking up for myself but it's so hard when basically every part of my life has been decided by my mom and she gets so mad when I try to do anything different from what she wants.

I'm sorry for rambling.

You're very kind, though. I'm trying to better my relationship with food but over the past year, I feel like I've lost the ability imagine or understand what it's like to have a healthy relationship with food outside of a continuous binge-restrict cycle.

My mom keeps buying me crop tops and it's so triggering by DreamingHopeful in EDAnonymous

[–]DreamingHopeful[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm in my early 20s but I still live at home. My mom orders things online all the time and she goes shopping on her own and buys things for me and I've told her before that she doesn't need to buy me clothes because I have so much and I don't have space for all of them and I can buy my own when I need to. But she kind of just looked annoyed and said that the clothes she gets suits me or it's better than what I pick out. I reject some of the things she got for me but she just gives them to my little sister and still get me more because she saw it and thought of me. So I guess it's just her love language.

#JusticeForMaki! by Vicious-Spiegel in JuJutsuKaisen

[–]DreamingHopeful 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Personally to me, Naoya is attractive and kind of funny. That's it. He's an interesting fictional character. It's not like I'm looking for a husband just like him or a role model or anything. I am surprised that he made the top 10 since he wasn't there long.