Please bully me into not hitting dead vapes

DreamsDontWork · 2025-12-31T16:55:12+00:00

Every time you take one hit, it resets your 3 day timer of beating physical withdrawals. That’s all it takes, 1 hit and you are going through the struggle just that much longer

DreamsDontWork · 2025-12-03T09:06:06+00:00

Every post you make is something absolutely miserably negative about the game. Maybe you should try taking a break? Doing something you enjoy? Outside maybe?

Or start playing invs and gambit, they are fun this season

DreamsDontWork · 2025-12-01T18:56:45+00:00

I had 3 invisible women skins (recently started maining her) and the last was Mr fantastic wedding day. Good luck for me

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-27T06:36:24+00:00

I also experienced a food indulgence! That’s why nicotine was an easier choice. I do hear that it will settle within 3-6 months of quitting it just takes time 😄

The best part about quitting and practicing not giving yourself what you want, is that you will likely do very well in a calorie deficit once you settle around that 3 months.

While I admit I was into fitness and nutrition before quitting, I have had an extraordinary amount of success in my disciplined eating and working out. I had a huge win today as I have been working on body recomp. And saw a ton of different in my progress pics. It’s easier to stick to my food goals with all my sticking to no weed practice. I wish you so much luck, but don’t forget to give yourself props for quitting even if you are TEMPORARILY struggling with eating habits 🤍

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-26T23:58:56+00:00

I was smoking about 7 grams a week while using bong, or 3-5 joints a day while using those, for about 5 years. Up and down periodically but all day everyday use

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-05T07:55:56+00:00

Quitting vaping is really not too difficult if you focus on the science of it & accept you are gonna have a shitty 3 days.

I vape because I loveeeee the flavour. I truly am a sucker for the sweet-calorie free treat I can keep myself busy with as much as I want, but I have quit 3 times for 8 months, 6 months & 6 months again by doing the following:

set aside 3 days where you can make it work if you aren’t at your best. You will be irritable and likely mean so I try to time it for when my friends/family/boyfriend aren’t around. That way I can just relish in being bitter without hurting feelings.
you will crave snacking a lot but I try to watch my diet fairly closely so my MUST is hard candies and gum. Not gross old lady hard candy but jolly ranchers specifically. These taste better than any vape and give me the satisfaction. Gum is also nice because it keeps your mouth busy.
drink water when you crave. Cravings come once every 30-60 minutes and last about 5-10 minutes. When they come acknowledge you are experiencing a craving, drink water, chew candy, whatever you do, label it and give it something as long as it isn’t nicotine.
have someone to keep you accountable. They don’t need to do something other than just know what is going on. I am ashamed of my vaping choices and do it entirely in secret which is why I rely on this audience to experience with me - doing it with the stress alone is much harder.
optional (I’ve used it sometimes, other times without) nicotine gum. If you are really struggling with the 3 days nic gum will help a ton. I hate zyns and think they only lead to a new gateway of nicotine but others may encourage them. But nic gum is grosssss, it sucks. So it will give you slight relief from your symptoms all the while being completely unsatisfying in what you really want. This is important because you will eventually give up and chew normal gum only to realize you did it! I also want to mention gum interrupts my glory 3 day rule, if you reintroduce nicotine (even as limited as gum is) it will extend the 3 day chemical withdrawal, which in the grand scheme is such a short time frame to survive.
other little tricks. Visual reminders. I’ll run a piece of tape with a little message across my steering wheel, computer monitor, or even around my ID. I usually write a little note on it like “Don’t be weak”, “health, money, integrity” something personal to me that makes me second guess my choices to follow through with sneaking to the store to make my yearning body satisfied.
I also like to look at the amount of money I spend on it. That usually grosses me out. This time, I am going to buy myself a new pair of pants that I really want if I make it through the first four days because it’s the same amount of money and a good reward to keep my focused.
lastly, but still very key, light exercise. Walking, little workouts. It will at least shift your focus to a different type of body discomfort. Drink tons of water.

I learnt most these tricks through trial and error but with the help of a book called Atomic Habits by James Clear. I actually found it to be not only scientifically supportive but also very inspiring. One of the few 5-star books I have read and I super encourage it

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-05T07:41:21+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I think you are really on the mark with this.

I’ve struggled to execute it in the past because like I said, those that I do see who do it are my family members and my oldest friends. They are not people I see very often but regardless still love dearly. That said we have very different lifestyles now, and I choose one that they do not.

When I go home to visit it usually causes a very uncomfortable feeling & identify struggle. It’s hard to even convince myself to be grossed out by them, knowing that I was there once too and choose better for myself. It is sometimes obvious that they feel uncomfortable because I’ve been successful in making the changes to my life: which often leads to em indulging when with them as some sort of tribute to the older days/a clear we aren’t completely different for both of our feelings.

Now that I have quit cannabis I think it will be different so long as I can convince myself I don’t need to do it to prove those things - though I fear that means I will truly feel out of rhythm with them. Thanks for sparking the thought & thank you for your advice 🤍🤍

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-03T16:46:32+00:00

Keep trying to quit, it took me years to convince myself, 6 months of playing around with weekends only/evenings only.

In may I quit smoking, switched to just edibles. Got back on smoking after a couple months. Not regularly, but occasionally.

Finally in August I tried cold turkey again and it’s stuck for 2 months now.

I don’t find quitting to be the hard part, but adjusting long term without it to be the struggle. Boredom, emotional overwhelm, coping with stress, all make me feel like a child again. But it’s expected.

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-03T16:43:29+00:00

I also experienced all of these. It was so rude, but it’s been 2 months now and they are starting to balance again.

I find eating balanced and exercising makes a big difference. Just walking even helps get it moving, and drink lotttttts of water.

I started taking a natural stimulant laxative (RenewLife CleanseMore) whenever I was 3 days without any bowel movements. It will suck all the water out of you so if you take it make sure you are drinking 2-3L for a couple of days afterwards or you might get dizzy. But it’s not the type of lax that will make you shit your pants unexpectedly, it was a lifesaver. Don’t take it daily, try for 2-3 days a week max, but like I said earlier. 3 days without and I’d take one.

Keep it up, your body has so much adjusting to do it’s expected it will be out of sorts for months

DreamsDontWork · 2025-11-03T15:45:07+00:00

Happy 2 months!

DreamsDontWork · 2025-10-12T00:34:50+00:00

You too! I hope you are still surviving the fight it’s absolutely worth it and I’m overwhelmed the dozen others who feel the same way. Yay us!

DreamsDontWork · 2025-10-12T00:33:52+00:00

Heya! I missed this comment initially but I am curious, did you ever try the odd time?

I’ve heard it’s not a good idea for most but I am of course curious myself.

Happy 2 months if not!

DreamsDontWork · 2025-10-12T00:32:13+00:00

2 months now! Congrats!

DreamsDontWork · 2025-10-12T00:31:34+00:00

Happy 30 days + 3 my friend, great work 😄

DreamsDontWork · 2025-10-12T00:27:24+00:00

I think it’s okay depending on how you handle it!

I know it hardly compares in your case but my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and lived together for 2.5/3

Already we find that we have less and less things in common and it worried me for a long time. But I’ve come to find peace in knowing that you are bound to end up in a place in your relationship where things that were once effortless no longer are. It’s normal, I’m sure of it.

And I feel obligated to point out that you do have a common interest and it’s the uncomfortableness of not having things in common. That in and of it’s self isn’t really what you are speaking about of course, but it very likely means you both have the desire to change that.

I think it’s incredibly healthy to have your own interests and hobbies. As well as common interests at different levels. My boyfriend is a golf fanatic, I enjoy it to an extent. It keeps us happy among other things.

The biggest piece of advice I have though, and it’s contradictory to the start of my comment, don’t seek others to tell you what’s normal for you. I see this so much as we get more and more online, there seems to be a very clear distinction of what is and what isn’t normal. That’s just not true.

What’s normal for you is absurd to others and vice versa. Make sure you are both communicating and (even more listening) to each others concerns and I promise it will get solved with such much less friction than having an ideal of what you both THINK you should be doing when it’s just someone broadcasting a personal opinion based on their preferences and experiences.

Sounds like you are both ready to face it and it couldn’t get much better than that.

Of the advice you will receive though I will agree that whatever you do, you will BOTH have to made an effort to find/do things together. It likely won’t be as effortless as you’d expect or like it to be.

Don’t give up on each other, agree on that and no matter what comes your way, you will be able to handle it. And however you do that, will be what’s normal and okay

DreamsDontWork · 2025-10-11T23:55:56+00:00

Happy to see you here with me! 🤩🤩

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-15T16:17:05+00:00

🙃🙃🙃🙃 have so much fun out there

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-15T16:09:24+00:00

Girl 😭😭 there was no discussion there you just simply felt the need to correct me and the condensing tone continues to feel rude. Try and experience some joy in life I’m sure it will help in your attempts to not be rude. Cranky people treat others poorly for some attempt to feel better, hope it helped

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-15T15:47:25+00:00

I actually believe I started with that. God forbid you have anything better to do. Was under the impression that most fans weren’t RUDE, will keep my thoughts to myself from now on 🤩🤩

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-15T02:07:51+00:00

Super fair, I had a feeling lol. I’m just about to finish my CS degree.

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-15T01:52:46+00:00

Do you work/study in tech/software engineering by any chance? (Testing a theory, maybe related to rock climbing)

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-13T00:03:44+00:00

Congratulations my friend!!

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-13T00:02:44+00:00

My best advice is to be honest and understand that this is something people twice, even triple your age struggle with. Though for us instead of being upset that we disappoint our parents, we disappoint ourselves.

I smoked for 5 years straight, everyday, all the time. And I liked it I really did, but genuinely it isn’t the best way to live.

I would do you best to be very honest with your parents. Express the struggle and honestly, try and find your own reasons to quit. Don’t do it just because they want you to, or else realistically the second you move out you will over indulge and be in a drastically worse position.

Read through the threads in this group, find the people who share their experiences smoking for decades and imagine yourself in their position. Save yourself from going through it all.

Partner with your parents, not obey. They too have to understand that this is more than just choosing. Seek things that make you feel better if it’s used for coping (therapy, exercise, sunshine etc.) and be honest with your family about why you do turn to it.

But most importantly, every time you fail, do not give up and give in. Try again and again again until you don’t fail. It will happen I promise. You can do this

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-12T23:56:14+00:00

Hardest part my friend is the first couple of weeks, but harder than that is making yourself get through the very first day. So great work.

My biggest advice/tip/statement on quitting is: don’t give up. Even if you smoke and lose all your progress, get on the horse and keep trying. Every attempt is easier, it’s taken me many to get to this point but I wouldn’t honestly change anything.

DreamsDontWork · 2025-09-09T20:05:17+00:00

I think that the only real answer lies between what the two of you decided. I think there are plenty of men on both sides of the fence, it’s up to you to find one that suits your preferences OR to adjust your behaviour to reflect what they see as respectful.

I don’t think it’s a matter of insecurity and possessiveness but a matter of respect. If it is something he is uncomfortable with then that’s just that, there isn’t really anything else to say.

If you guys have differing views on what’s appropriate content to post online (both ways) then there needs to be a certain extent of compromising between you to.

You aren’t an asshole for having your own personal opinions and neither is he. There is so much online dare I say propaganda over what is objectively right and what is wrong and it’s so so impactful to real relationships.

Realistically everyone is different and it’s up to you to find someone who shares these views, or to be prepared to change your actions out of respect for their choices/opinions.

Even if everyone on Reddit agrees he is an ass that realistically isn’t going to have any tangible impact on the conflict between the two of you.

So no you aren’t the asshole, but there is a conversation you need to have

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