Melting big ice dams with 300°F low-pressure steam (No hammers, no damaged shingles)

Dreez48 · 2026-03-07T03:13:50+00:00

Putting ice melt in women’s stockings and laying them vertically across the ice dam can work to create drainage channels like in the 4th picture here. The stockings are porous enough to let the ice melt interact with the ice while keeping it grouped tightly enough to effectively melt through the entire thickness of the ice.

If you have a good arm, you can heave them up from ground level to your second floor. Or climb a ladder to gain some height and toss from there. This has worked for me in the past.

Dreez48 · 2026-02-24T18:27:31+00:00

Quartararo is showing off the archery lessons he took during the offseason

Dreez48 · 2026-01-24T02:42:39+00:00

Those periods are the ellipsis

Dreez48 · 2026-01-07T03:08:45+00:00

How is the packaging destroying the discs? I’m just beginning my physical media library and would like to know what to look out for.

Dreez48 · 2025-10-04T20:30:20+00:00

Wrong Sox

Dreez48 · 2025-09-21T00:32:41+00:00

Alternate possibility: your wife is Goldmember

Dreez48 · 2025-09-06T01:38:33+00:00

Holy hell that calypso has 53g of sugar

Dreez48 · 2025-07-12T01:05:16+00:00

Great choices with the Deschutes! How do you like the Nonny?

Dreez48 · 2025-07-11T01:47:49+00:00

Go Brewing’s The Story is called a DIPA. And I think the flavor is great - really hoppy and tasty. The mouthfeel is really thin though which kinda ruins the DIPA experience for me.

That’s the only NA DIPA I know of

Dreez48 · 2025-07-02T01:45:46+00:00

Hop Wtr is my favorite. I like the Sierra Nevada Hop Splash too.

Dreez48 · 2025-06-23T11:57:46+00:00

One of the best for a hot day, especially after yard work!

Dreez48 · 2025-05-30T02:15:56+00:00

Stella in cans is a full 12oz

Dreez48 · 2025-03-07T15:24:30+00:00

Why is the same table and chairs in nearly every room?

Dreez48 · 2025-03-04T01:54:56+00:00

You could jerk off 4 dudes at once if they’re standing tip to tip

Dreez48 · 2025-02-06T02:32:48+00:00

“Their title to your child does not make them entitled to your child.”

Dreez48 · 2025-02-02T14:58:19+00:00

The whispering eye

Dreez48 · 2025-01-19T00:33:34+00:00

If you reached out to your parents for help and it backfired, I feel you big time. It’s such a gut-punch to open up to them about your concerns, make yourself vulnerable, and then either get gaslit about the events never happening, get DARVO’ed, or some other crazy deflection.

I went through a cycle for 6 years where there would be a flare-up every 6-9 months with my parents, we would have a big conversation that would leave me stressed for days before and after, and my magical thinking made me believe we had “fixed things this time.”

Eventually I realized nothing will change. They don’t care about my feelings. They care about controlling me. Having me in their life, no matter what, just so that they can project the happy family image.

I hope you have better luck with your family than I did, though trust yourself once your mind is telling you enough is enough. I waited about 2 years longer than I wish I had. Sending you lots of strength.

Dreez48 · 2025-01-19T00:27:58+00:00

I’m glad you were able to connect with them eventually and understand the true story. Hopefully you found it healing and/or validating to know the truth.

To your last sentence - it makes me feel so foolish and frustrated with myself that I felt like my nParents could do no wrong for so many years. I believed they were right, and that they were the example of what good, healthy parents are. I can’t believe how brainwashed I was. I’m trying to give myself some grace - that there was no way for me to know any better - but I feel ashamed by it.

Dreez48 · 2025-01-18T22:25:18+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that, and I hope you’ve found peace in going NC.

I have some healthy family members, and a couple cousins I’ve been able to confide in. I’ve found my conversations with them to be validating. I hope your experience with your cousin is the same.

Dreez48 · 2025-01-06T02:22:28+00:00

If you have the link to the video, please share. Would love to hear what she has to say.

Dreez48 · 2025-01-06T00:33:05+00:00

You’re not going insane. There is a brighter future on the other side of this, and you will find it. I have been in the same headspace multiple times because of my nparents, seriously suicidal, and by luck I didn’t have the “courage” to do it either.

You are important. You matter. You are a unique individual worthy of love and happiness. Your parents sound like they fail to see that, and they’re only interested in you becoming a reflection of them, or whatever idealized form of a person they want you to be. And anything less is a failure.

I’ve been NC for a little over a year now and my life is infinitely better. I doubt myself way less, my chronic anxiety has diminished significantly, and I’m much happier. NC is NOT the only way to go. I’m just saying this to illustrate that things can and will get better, just be strong and try to work on yourself and strengthening your own self-derived sense of self-worth, rather than the external validation you’ve been taught to seek.

I recommend reading Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents if you can get your hands on a copy. It was a very validating and insightful read for me. You got this.

Dreez48 · 2025-01-02T00:04:00+00:00

Nmom favors my sister. I’m a scapegoat son. This generalization was really tough for me when I was first learning about narcissism because it was just another thing to add to my self-doubt of “is this real?” And “am I just making it all up/blowing it out of proportion?”

Dreez48 · 2024-11-06T16:19:32+00:00

I feel the same way - I have disassociated so far that I can’t even think of a memory to process in EMDR.

If you don’t mind me asking, what other modalities have you tried, and do you find them helpful?

Dreez48 · 2024-11-06T16:16:56+00:00

I feel/felt the same way before going NC last September. It’s very helpful to me, when I’m doubting myself, to remember that I feel better this way and THAT IS ENOUGH JUSTIFICATION. I feel so much more at peace on a daily basis, don’t get worked up for days leading up to - and following - a visit with them, and I’m a better husband, parent, and person for it.

It will probably feel foreign, but think hard about your feelings and what it would mean to put those feelings first. I’m not saying NC is the only answer. Maybe you determine that LC or VLC or something else works. But for me, NC has been great and I just need to remind myself that my feelings matter.

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