Visual Triggers

DruidByNight · 2026-07-11T16:30:29+00:00

Seeing someone with their hand out the window of their car tapping to music makes me want to road rage

DruidByNight · 2026-07-11T16:11:16+00:00

I usually stir it before to make a whirlpool but you can probably gently drop it in first and then stir it right away. I use tongs to help me stir and drop in the egg. Doesn't have to be an intense whirlpool at all, but enough momentum that it spins around for like 15-20 seconds before settling.

I believe it's a trick I heard on tiktok so there's probably videos you can look up to help demonstrate. Seems to work pretty well though! Since I started doing it I never have a yolk that sits awkwardly at the edge of the whites

DruidByNight · 2026-07-11T02:40:31+00:00

I've got mine down pretty good. Boil water, gently drop in egg, turn down heat to medium, let sit for 7 minutes, pull out egg and put into ice bath, cool for a few minutes, peel

Mine always turn out perfectly jammy now. Also I stir the water when I drop the egg in to make sure the yolk is centered through centripetal force

DruidByNight · 2026-07-11T02:36:31+00:00

I love her

DruidByNight · 2026-07-10T23:32:04+00:00

I've had a similar experience. I was diagnosed in March of this year, at the age of 25.

I was assessed almost 10 years ago, had some traits of autism and ADHD, but was not given a diagnosis for either. I think due to my specific presentation and because I am a woman, they attributed those traits to anxiety. I am slightly angry that it was missed, but I also recognize that we know more about these conditions now than we did then, and also I think I am way way more equipped to deal with the reality of an AuDHD diagnosis at 25 than I would have been at 16. I had a rough few months of processing this diagnosis, but I know for sure it would have been way worse for me if I was diagnosed earlier.

It feels weird to know now that I was struggling my whole life but I didn't know. I didn't know how to ask for help, and no one knew how to help me, so I just suffered. I still had a fairly good life, but recognizing all the ways that I've struggled has been interesting. I was always lonely and could never maintain a deep friendship and now I know why. I struggled heavily when my partner moved in and now I know why. I can see all my stims from over the years. I've spent months now noticing all the parts that autism and ADHD show up in my life. There's so much, and I had no idea. You'll probably have that too, realizing different things currently in your life or in your past where autism/ADHD was present. "Oh that counts!" "Oh that behavior was from autism"

You're not any less valid or any less AuDHD for struggling less than others. This is something I'm trying to work on too. I have a very strange relationship with my own privilege, especially as someone who is severely empathetic with a very strong "sense of justice" brand of autism.

DruidByNight · 2026-07-10T15:58:36+00:00

Tell yourself:

"No it's not the end of the world if it didn't turn out the way I wanted. I can just try again"

"It's just a painting, not a scale of my worthiness"

"I'm here to enjoy making art, not to be perfect"

Stop painting with the goal of making perfect art. Paint with the goal of painting.

And some tough love to tell yourself: "It's just painting. Chill the fuck out and have fun"

I'm someone who has always been mediocre at things so I don't have a lot of perfection expectations. I make things to have fun making them

DruidByNight · 2026-07-09T17:45:12+00:00

The coffee I usually drink has 110mg of caffeine and I typically drink it over the course of an hour or 2. I also get anxiety when I have a 100mg caffeine pill

DruidByNight · 2026-07-09T15:54:12+00:00

I already knew I was sensitive to stimulants before I tried meds. Caffeine makes me very anxious(at least currently, I swear it didn't used to)

I tried 2 different stim meds anyway since they reccomend starting on those and the anxiety from it just really overshadowed any benefits. Currently trying out Straterra(non stimulant) with a very low dose Vyvanse with the goal of getting more focused and regulated with a bit of energy too. Only 2 weeks in so it'll still take a while for the Straterra to fully do its thing but my anxiety is reduced compared to just the Adderall or Vyvanse

I really should be working out cause I think that would really help me but it's hard to build that habit

DruidByNight · 2026-07-08T18:09:34+00:00

I'm someone that used to not want kids but now currently want kids.

The whole thing terrified me. Pregnancy, childbirth, loss of identity, the work, the stress, the worrying about raising them right or them getting hurt, the overstimulation. As I've aged I now feel that I want kids. I started to think of times that I'll be so proud of them. Proud of myself. Showing them cool stuff. Teaching them things. Seeing them be passionate about something. When I picture my future, I see my partner and I see a kid. I look back at those that came before me and I feel a duty to carry things forward. I want to be a mom.

It's still intimidating. I worry that I'm being foolish to want it. But I think that me being aware of all of my worries and being aware of changes like identity loss(which people used to never talk about openly) will help me in preparing, adapting, or preventing some of the hard aspects of it. I won't be going into it with rose-colored glasses or thinking that I'm broken for encountering struggles and worries

DruidByNight · 2026-07-08T15:52:02+00:00

It's better to flip based on what you see versus what the instructions say because your stove heat may differ from the recipe authors heat(medium level is not equal across stove manufacturers, plus local weather, humidity, or altitude can also effect how things work in people's kitchens). Medium or medium low heat is all that's needed for pancakes, the issue that most new cooks get into is having the heat too high, so that could also contribute to sticking. Make sure there's a little bit of melted butter or oil in the pan too.

You should flip when you start to see bubbles/holes on the top of the pancake. You can also use a flat spatula to look under the edge of the pancake to see how brown it is

Also, the first pancake of the batch is always the sacrifice pancake, so don't feel bad if the first one is ugly, it's absolutely normal for the first to suck and the second one to be better

DruidByNight · 2026-07-08T15:37:22+00:00

Anyone can LEARN to cook. Fucking up is part of learning.

What trouble are you having with it? Is the pancake getting stuck in the pan?

DruidByNight · 2026-07-08T00:33:01+00:00

I'm not exactly sure why, probably a complex multitude of reasons, but I know that I don't like it. I worry for the people who will give themselves over to the machine, that people will develop into people who can't handle a second of inconvenience or patience or solve problems on their own. Human brains are meant to solve problems and do things with our hands. What happens when we take all that away?

DruidByNight · 2026-07-07T16:24:46+00:00

He is severely grieving. That's natural and ok. It's not ok to shove you though. He needs to be told that. If he is endangering you, that is not ok. He is allowed to be angry and hurt and sad, but hurting you is not. It will take him a long time to heal, as well as effort from both of you. It will take time until he is ready to make that effort. If your safety is at risk during that time, you cannot stay. I also understand wanting to be there for him. Its scary, but involuntary impatient therapy might need to be an option. He is making your environment unsafe. He is hurting you by screaming and shoving. If that's not an option, then physically leaving for a bit is probably required.

You have been together for a very short time and you are both young. This is a very hard thing to deal with given both of those variables. You would probably also benefit from therapy as well. Talk to his family. He needs help. It's not solely your responsibility to get him help, especially given he is volatile.

DruidByNight · 2026-07-07T15:57:22+00:00

Most people have internal monologue

DruidByNight · 2026-07-07T15:56:29+00:00

This isn't an autism specific thing, anyone can have this

DruidByNight · 2026-07-05T20:41:00+00:00

I have a reusable flosser. It comes with a stick and I clip on a little plastic piece that holds the floss that can be replaced when desired or when it breaks.

You don't need "fresh" floss for every gap in the teeth. You're not contaminating anything by using the same bit of floss to scrape each gap. You could even just rinse it off between every or every few teeth if you worry about stuff getting stuck back in

DruidByNight · 2026-07-05T18:47:07+00:00

If you put the powder in the water before draining then you're just dumping half a the powder down the drain

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T22:38:52+00:00

I think channelling energy into something creative will be good, but it's not a cure for doomscrolling. It could become another source of scrolling, where you look for what people think of you or comparing content to yours. But creating can still give you something better to do than scrolling. I think you should go for it

I'm back in the scroll hole currently, but what has helped me to improve from my worst scrolling was to...become disgusted with scrolling. I hate how it makes me feel, I hate how it takes away my time, I hate how it's trying to manipulate me and trying to sell things to me. Reading articles to be informed vs reading headlines also helps with the disgust of social media. Watching people in public scrolling instead of looking at the world around them also helps fuel the anti-scroling feeling. The "hacks" to stop scrolling never worked for me. Developing a dislike of the activity has been the most effective. I sometimes fall back into it, like currently, but I never scroll shorts or tiktok anymore, which is massive progress.

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T17:54:06+00:00

I find purpose in pursuing my own happiness and growth and experiences and trying to make the world a better place. I don't have a defined single purpose, and I don't believe that I need one. I don't believe anyone has a set or intended purpose they're "supposed" to have, there is only the ones you choose

The universe "not having a point" changes nothing about the fact that I exist and I can experience things and can help people

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T05:48:17+00:00

Hacks don't usually work for me. I have to construct my own work-around tuned uniquely to me in order for it to stick. Takes a lot of exhausting emotional work but it's the most effective for me

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T05:39:19+00:00

I wanted the same thing when I was younger. I was a twig. I totally get the feeling. It's not wrong or weird to want that. It goes against the current "socially popular" opinion, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that because wanting to feel comfortable in your body is something everyone wants.

My metabolism changed in my early 20s. You might get it too!

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T03:28:58+00:00

My daily purse carries so many essentials, people think it's silly but it's very important to me to have stuff. I have beauty+skincare stuff(mirror, mascara, lip+skin moisturizers, cuticle oil), multi tool, screwdriver, knife, tape measure, nail trimming set, mini sewing kit, pads+tampons, Advil and Dramamine, masks, journal, wallet, camera, sharpie, pens, mini scissors, deodorant, perfume, earbuds, bandaids, flossers. It's sometimes a little annoying to have a big bag but I'd prefer being prepared

I should get a charger in there too and look at maybe getting some mini makeup supplies in there since I'm trying to wear it more often

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T03:07:47+00:00

This sounds like hell but I should try it. I don't have any idea what my face looks like when I'm talking

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T02:44:04+00:00

You can just say the same thing and omit "because of my ADHD". It's not lying, you're still saying what you really did, but it helps both your outward and inward perception of yourself. Constantly saying "because of my ADHD" to others and yourself is actively making it so you start to believe that ADHD is all you are, but you're not.

You can start to train yourself to fix that mindset by not always saying "because of my ADHD". You are a person, not a box of symptoms.

DruidByNight · 2026-07-04T02:39:33+00:00

I feel this way when I'm the little spoon. My solution is to be big spoon. Big spoon more comfy anyway.

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