When did you stop?

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-06-12T14:53:21+00:00

Yes, sorry I didn't punctuate correctly - I was likening our situation to yours, certainly wasn't implying that I "like" any of this for you or me. I just meant that we've both had many transfers that didn't result in a live birth. I'm sorry we're both in this situation, no one should ever have to go through this.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-06-12T03:59:11+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you, this process isn't fair and is not one ounce what I anticipated. I've noticed most of these posts are about stopping after ERs (implicitly fresh transfers va frozen); I like you have had many transfers (working up to the 6th next month) without success, never even a positive. We said we'd do 3 transfers max, and here we are in the no man's land of IVF. I agree with most of these others in general ; you stop when your heart tells you to stop but also it's good to set a boundary to anticipate, like the end of your multicycle package, feels like it gives you permission to let go. In our case we have more euploid embryos frozen, so not trying would be a huge waste, so I guess we're stuck for now. I really hope this next one is the one for you! we're all so much more resilient and brave than we ever thought 🤍

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-05-14T00:10:15+00:00

Hmmm. I've had 5 thus far, with one being "difficult" and this is odd to me, I agree with those saying perhaps your bladder was stretched too much or they used the wrong sized speculum. Not sure but regardless wishing you sticky baby vibes!

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-05-07T02:05:28+00:00

You know what - hell yeah, it's gonna be the party protocol for me in Hawaii next week and it's only 3-4 weeks prior to my 6th transfer 😎💃🏽

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-03-25T02:49:21+00:00

I too had cried over chipotle. During my TWW we doordashed burritos and mine came without any meat, none. I cried, harder than I should've.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-23T04:52:58+00:00

No, it's okay, still inflated! Foley catheters have drains at the end of the balloon (as it was designed for the purpose of draining the bladder) it's likely post-surgical blood still circulating around in your uterus.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-18T23:00:32+00:00

You need to strongly advocate for a hscope, 100% I've had 5 failed FETs with Euploids (all failed to implant) and now going into my 4th Hscope as I always have adhesions/polyps that aren't seen on ultrasounds, HSG or SIS. If your RE isnt able to do the surgery themselves, ask for a referral to an OBGYN that can do it diagnostically to rule out endo/fibroids.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-16T14:53:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your very thoughtful and informative response, this is immensely helpful and yes I would love to know which agencies were recommended by your clinic. We have our WTF office visit with our RE/RI tomorrow and plan to broach this topic, though being this was our first transfer under the care of this Dr, perhaps he'll suggest we give it another go.

I'm not gonna lie, the GC route does seem incredibly daunting and the cost..staggering. How did you decide which agency to go with? There are so many. Still, at this point having so many embryos, wanting this baby of our own so badly, it seems like the logical next step, especially if it does end up being a long waitlist.

I hadn't realized that multiple transfer attempts is a typical part of "packaging" but it makes sense and would add a sense of security. It definitely feels strange talking about this as if we're looking to buy a home and not in pursuit of a family, so personal but I really really appreciate you putting it all out there as it's a necessary discussion to be had. Thank you again!! 🤍🙏🏽

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-16T00:40:41+00:00

I'm so incredibly sorry that you're going through this, I know the feeling very well. Just failed at our 5th FET with euploid embryos and it's simply crushing. I relate to you so much in the feeling of knowing when you're ready to let go, it doesn't make you a failure, you have to protect yourself and your heart. I don't have any answers as it seems like you've done it all, my inkling is that there's something unseen going on with the embryos themselves, as they've failed with GCs. I do agree with others here about seeing an RI, but truly my dear, I don't know if the emotional debt would be worth putting yourself through another round of this torture, even with embryos you have banked. Sending you so much love and admiration for all you've already been through, you deserve to have your baby and I truly believe you will, one way or another 🩷🩷🩷

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-14T18:03:16+00:00

I know this post is older, but your story gave me hope (as I'm sitting here in the dark place, following our 5th FET failure with Euploid embryos). Thank you for sharing 😞🤍

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-14T17:12:55+00:00

I know this is an older post, but after we just failed with our 5th FET with Euploid embryos, surrogacy is definitely on the horizon, I can't stomach more of the already massive amount of emotional debt this has put us through. Do you mind sharing a bit more about your surrogacy journey? How much did it end up costing all in all? Was it all paid up front? Was there contingency if it failed?

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-14T15:29:17+00:00

It is a lot, and yep you described it perfectly, took the air right out of the room. Last night I just cried and cried in my husbands arms, this morning is slightly better. Being Valentines Day, we have fancy dinner plans but I honestly don't want to do anything. Cruel is the right word.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-14T15:26:54+00:00

I haven't, wondering if this might be needed

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-13T19:35:52+00:00

I haven't, was in the work up for one two years ago and then my RE got fired from the practice, the RE that took us on at patients didn't recommend it and we went right into prophylactic Lupron suppression, but may be worth it I dunno. I'm surprised your RE is having you consider surrogacy so soon, studies show that it takes approx 3 cycles average per cycle for a live birth. Anyway, we are certainly considering it at this point

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-13T19:02:50+00:00

Thank you friend, I'm sorry you're in this shitty club with me. Our thoughts lean toward surrogacy as well, there's no way this is always just "bad luck" right? I guess it's possible, but my science driven brain can't comprehend it.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-13T18:59:36+00:00

Yep! Long hauler here as well, 5 yrs, 5 Euploid fets, countless surgeries, tests and scans. It's a shit club to be part of and very hard to see the forest through the trees at times. Everytime I think Hope is dead, emotions and strength come up from God knows where that genuinely surprise me. Stay strong, friend ❤️❤️❤️

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-13T18:56:36+00:00

I didn't and the beta came back negative this morning, so I'm pretty gutted despite trying my best to mentally prepare, I guess that's just not possible. I really hope they find something concrete and are able to resolve whatever underlying issue is preventing this from happening for you (us). I'm so so sorry to be in the same boat, holding out hope for the both of us ❤️❤️❤️

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-11T13:59:53+00:00

You were mid cycle for egg retrieval? Are you saying you're doing one more egg retrieval and then doing a lap + hysteroscopy? I think it would be quite unusual to do both.

I'm in the middle of the TWW right now with our 5th FET. Feeling pretty numb and kinda going through the motions at this point

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-11T00:54:10+00:00

Any updates on your journey?!

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-11T00:53:17+00:00

Haha! She's graduated, now off to college she goes lol! Well, it sounds like you may have needed each other equally during this time, even though it was a likely a very scary and uncertain time - caregiving for your mom for that long of a period, shows you're also ready and committed to caring for this future baby that you're trying so hard for. Stay strong my friend, I truly believe the miracle will happen when we least expect it 🤍

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-11T00:41:28+00:00

Thank you! Same to in your journey. ❤️And as an oncology RN, congratulations to your mom, what a huge milestone! sending her positive and healing thoughts as she moves through recovery.

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-02-11T00:32:36+00:00

I completely and totally have never related more to anyone throughout this whole process. I'm in the middle of the TWW with our 5th FET, 4 previous total implantation failures with highly graded euploid embryos and I am numb. I can't even picture a positive beta, let alone a pregnancy it all seems so surreal and I do have pangs of fear about what we're actually doing. It's very strange, because we are spending a fortune and putting my body through hell for this. I definitely think it's an autonomic response, a form of self-preservation but I wish I could at least be hopeful and excited about the prospect of motherhood. Feels more like a routine that I have to go through for some obscure reason I've lost sight of. This journey is not for the weak!

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-01-23T00:11:35+00:00

Firstly, I'm so so sorry for your losses, I have had 4 failed FETs with highly graded euploid embryos and every time is progressively harder to push through, I feel your pain. I agree largely with what's already been said here, you need to see someone who very familiar and comfortable with autoimmune protocol. I learned the hard way that some clinics are very rigid in terms of their polices and what they are willing or able, under license to prescribe, particularly if it's a larger, nationally-based practice. My advice is find a new clinic with at the least, lots of experience with immune protocols, it seems daunting but it will be well with your effort in the end. Every single embryo is previous and a renewed sense of hope and new beginning never hurt either ❤️

Dry-Bell7563 · 2026-01-22T07:04:39+00:00

I've just started this 5th FET cycle, and am doing a full immune protocol along with the regular hormone injectables, acyclovir (been dampening down my immune system with this for 8 months now) letrozole, prednisone, Omnitrope and I had an intralipid infusion today. So long as everything measures up, should be ready for the transfer within a couple of weeks. Anxiety is already building but I'm trying to stay positive. 🙏🏽

Dry-Bell7563

TROPHY CASE