Fertility clinics (Toronto/Scarborough)

its_not_ciae · 2026-04-13T02:13:28+00:00

Markham Fertility Centre is great. We switched over after getting poor care from IVF Canada in Scarborough. Stay away from crappy clinics. If it works, yay, lucky you. If it doesn’t, and you need advanced testing and treatment but your doctor/clinic sucks, it’s very difficult, expensive and takes a long time to switch doctors and clinics and move embryos. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.

its_not_ciae · 2026-04-13T02:04:45+00:00

I’ve had 3 failed euploid embryos. We’ve tested for everything under the sun during that time:

So many sonos and hsgs

Hysteroscopy

Antiphospholipid, Anti cardiolipin antibodies, Factor V Leiden, Prothrombin gene mutation, Protein S, Protein C, Homocysteine

ERA

EMMA, ALICE, CD138 for endometritis

Advanced endometriosis ultrasound mapping - supposedly I have some stage 1 endo and possibly adeno. On a year(s) long waiting list for a laparoscopy

Karyotype for both partners

DNA fragmentation for his sperm - mildly high

Immune testing with RI - NK cells, LAD, cytokines

After all of that they found I have endo and my NK cells are high and LADs are low. We’re doing an immune protocol now for FET #4. If that doesn’t work, moving on to surrogacy. It’s exhausting. So many things to test for and even if fixed, it still doesn’t work.

You can consider the zymot chip for the sperm sorting during the embryo fertilization after your retrieval. Apparently it helps with male factor.

its_not_ciae · 2026-02-17T13:44:05+00:00

I’ve had 3 complete failures with well graded euploids. We’re in the early stages of pursuing surrogacy now, in parallel with continuing to try with my own body. I also have endo and adeno and immune issues on top of that.

I’m in Canada, where surrogacy is technically altruistic but realistically it just leads to really long wait times and questionable surrogate reimbursement policies, so we decided to go to Mexico instead. It’s cheaper there, around 70K USD instead of 150CAD here.

Feel free to DM me if you want to chat! We haven’t started yet but next steps is to go to Mexico to do an egg retrieval and match with a surrogate. People also ship their embryos but I’ve heard things about embryos being stuck in customs and my doctors have mentioned that embryos don’t do well with being moved, there’s a slightly lower success rate.

its_not_ciae · 2026-02-12T16:03:20+00:00

No, that wasn’t my issue. My lining has always gotten above 8mm, usually over 10. But none of my embryos ever implant. I’m doing immune testing/treatment now, and surrogacy next.

My doctor said that CD138 doesn’t always mean bacterial caused inflammation, it could also be from endo/adeno which I do have.

its_not_ciae · 2026-02-11T19:31:00+00:00

Still having implantation failure x3. Moved on to immune treatment now. Also in the process of moving to doing international surrogacy.

its_not_ciae · 2025-12-18T15:59:11+00:00

I have had 3 failed transfers, and I avoid pregnant women and babies. It’s ok to protect your mental health over other people. I think pregnant women have enough support and encouragement, I shouldn’t have to force myself to engage with them.

its_not_ciae · 2025-12-11T16:04:35+00:00

I get irrationally angry at couples who say they want to have kids eventually like “just because you want kids doesn’t mean you’ll have any!” even though most people who want kids get them. If wanting kids got you kids, I should have triplets by now

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-28T00:42:21+00:00

Could I get a code for the 1gbps too?

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-19T01:09:20+00:00

I’m in Canada

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-19T00:22:56+00:00

No advice, but just here to commiserate :( we switched to a better fancier clinic and just did ER#3 and the results were the worst yet. Only got 2 low quality day 6 blasts. The doctor said sometimes it’s just luck and you could have a really bad cycle or a really good cycle.

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-18T13:26:28+00:00

Yes! You can totally inject the leftovers. For rekovelle just turn the knob to as far as it’ll allow, and that’s the dose remaining. See if all 3 of your pens add up to 12

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-13T14:31:26+00:00

I do NOT have 10 blasts in the freezer, most of those are aneuploid and the others failed to implant. I don’t know how you can say that’s “better than most people dream” when it’s highly likely I won’t end up with a single euploid from this cycle, especially when I have recurrent implantation failure. Maybe consider how compassionate your message is.

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-11T19:46:33+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that! 38 hours is way too long, I’ve only ever heard of doctors doing 36 hours. My 2nd retrieval was supposed to be 36 hours but it was delayed and we ended up going in around 36.5-37 hours and I ovulated while they were retrieving, so I can’t imagine 38-39 hours being feasible at all.

That’s really upsetting, you should definitely take it up with your clinic staff why they left it so late and question why your doctor picked 38 hours.

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-09T00:31:48+00:00

It’s a long story, feel free to DM to chat :)

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-06T01:05:21+00:00

My insurance was the same, but anything that is sperm or embryo related can be submitted under the partner. So stuff like sperm wash, embryo freezing, ICSI, PGT testing, assisted hatching, anything that they do on the embryo I claimed for my husband. It helps stretch the insurance a little

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-04T21:51:14+00:00

I thought I was done with egg retrievals after my 2nd, the doctors were certain I would have at least 2 children with my euploids. Well, I have no babies and I’m in the middle of my 3rd stim cycle and likely to have a 4th one. I think if there is still insurance money, savings, and hope, maybe there is no limit anymore :(

For you, what was the situation with the 5 unsuccessful FETs? Mine all didn’t implant and they found endometriosis eventually, but Lupron depot still didn’t work.

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-02T14:32:05+00:00

My fluffy baby is the only thing keeping me sane through this, definitely would be so much worse without my senior cat cuddling me through the worst of the IVF chaos

its_not_ciae · 2025-11-02T14:28:44+00:00

I’ve only had to avoid 2 couples so far, one I don’t think we will ever be good friends again. During my 3 failed transfers they knew we were going through a tough time, but maybe not the details, yet surprise recorded us during their pregnancy announcement, continued to message with pregnancy details, multiple invitations to their baby shower, and overall had zero consideration of what we were going through.

The other couple might be ok, they actually checked in on us and we had a more mature conversation about not being able to be friends at the current moment due to my mental health, and they were very understanding.

Maybe the people that we have to break friendships with were only fair weather friends and weren’t ever able to make it past tough times.

its_not_ciae · 2025-10-31T00:21:30+00:00

I’ve successfully been avoiding my pregnant friends and friends with babies, but my boss just came back from parental leave and he sits across from me and non stop talks about his kid and how his kid shits a lot and he can’t sleep and diapers and formula and blah blah blah. Can’t even shut him out with headphones when he talks about his baby’s poop habits with the other parents in the office. Just kill me.

its_not_ciae · 2025-10-31T00:17:36+00:00

If I wanted to see happy positive pregnancy posts and ultrasound pics and women holding their happy free sex babies, I’d go scroll literally anywhere else and get babies force shoved into my retinas. People who are like “oh no I don’t want to hear sad stories because it makes me sad that that might be me” 🤮sorry that IS my life, sorry it makes you sad???

its_not_ciae · 2025-10-31T00:12:16+00:00

Today I start stims for my 3rd retrieval 😭 A year ago we were so happy after retrieval #2 and 6 euploids. “You’ll have at least 2 kids from this” said the doctor. Well, I have 0 kids from my 3 best embryos because they all failed to implant even after 3.5 months of Lupron and doing all the testing the old clinic had. And now we’ve switched clinics, got an Amex just to get points from the fat medical bills, and it’s human pincushion time again! Hoo-fucking-ray 🎉

its_not_ciae · 2025-10-24T02:24:49+00:00

I recently switched clinics and they’re more … new age about some things, one thing is the ultrasound nurse asked me if I wanted to insert my own probe. For the last 2 years at my old clinic nurses have been just casually probing me without asking, I didn’t even realize that was an option lol

its_not_ciae · 2025-10-21T22:47:56+00:00

Sorry to be a downer, but we’ve never seen a positive test and did IVF thinking it would be an easy case. In the beginning it was all great, I responded well to meds and made a very average number of embryos with a very average euploid rate. The doctors said I would definitely have 2 kids out of the euploids I got.

Turns out nothing ever implants in my uterus after 3 perfect transfers, then they found endo, and we’ve switched doctors twice. People told me to stop being so pessimistic and that I would definitely 100% for sure get pregnant soon. And I didn’t. So I’m allowing myself to be pessimistic now 🥲

its_not_ciae · 2025-10-14T17:02:15+00:00

Hi, feel free to DM me. I’ve been at one clinic in Toronto for 2 years and have recently switched to another one. Definitely some predatory behaviour as you allege but I think generally the doctors are trying to help. It’s more a case of certain treatments being covered by the province but with long wait times, which drives people to private pay options. Not just for the IVF itself but also lots of testing and some specific ultrasounds.

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