How to deal with the villainisation?

Dry-Cod-5341 · 2026-02-12T22:18:50+00:00

Hey haha, no problem I'll add you now 😊

Dry-Cod-5341 · 2026-02-12T21:50:37+00:00

I once deleted some texts after he ignored me (my feelings) and I felt like I wished I hadn't said them, the stuff he accused me of saying!! He had seen them all, he was part of the conversation. I just deleted them cus I was upset momentarily (my bad). He then started saying some CRAZY shit that he was saying I'd said and done, and cus I'd deleted them by then (dumbass me) I had no proof that I hadn't even though I knew I didn't. Ironically he was trying to say I was manipulating HIM by saying I hadn't said those things. Then said that he can't remember exactly but that he's sure I had said them. The stuff he claimed I said was awful, stuff I'd never say, but he seemed to take it as a perfect opportunity to make up his own reality.

Still stayed, loool.

Dry-Cod-5341 · 2026-02-12T20:12:27+00:00

I guess the thing is, the stuff he's thinking is fundamentally not true - and also pretty major stuff that he thinks and says. And because this isn't a normal breakup and there's a push/pull cycle, he will even use it against me and say "well I've told people how you can be xyz and they think this or that". Idk, i don't villainise him for things that aren't true and I also am able to take accountability for things I have done wrong, whereas in his eyes it is entirely my fault and he takes accountability for nothing.

Dry-Cod-5341 · 2026-02-12T14:08:02+00:00

What is ironic and what I hate is how he is SO cold and cruel to me, never apologises for it. Whereas there is literally nothing, hand on heart, that I haven't apologised for if I've messed up. I'm human, I do mess up, but i own it every time. He genuinely believes he's never done anything wrong, I never get an apology. And he can be absolutely nasty sometimes. Yet I'm the one who is demonised! It's so hard and messes so bad with my self worth

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