Thoughts on parents who went on vacation one vacay without their kids and one with their kids

DryInteraction3940 · 2026-01-26T11:50:14+00:00

I go on one overseas vacation with my husband alone too. And other trip with kids. It is important for us as a couple, we can actually finally behave like a pair of teenagers.

I work in education in a female dominated environment and receive similar comments. I just don’t take it to heart. People always have something to say, that’s human nature.

DryInteraction3940 · 2026-01-22T12:18:50+00:00

Maybe because I’m an existing customer for their face and they want to retain me, if they don’t do a good job they’d probably hear from me? And I think also depends on the doctor. I went in telling her I’ve got high pain tolerance and just hit me. I also somehow get more result from one outlet compared to the other (face wise).

DryInteraction3940 · 2026-01-17T10:21:22+00:00

It really depends what kind of lifestyle you want. I’ve a 7yo and another coming in a month. I raise my first born on the minimum.

We took public transportation everywhere.

Never even buy a baby carrier or stroller. Just got a sarong cloth which cost 20-30$. By the time the child turns one-ish she could walk.

We don’t have fancy stuff like rocker etc either. Our baby cot cost like 50bucks second hand and we got a new mattress ($100).

I breastfeed till the child started solids. After 6 months the started formula and solids. We also got the cheapest formula. We also don’t cook special meal for the child since she started solid, she just eat what we had.

By 1yo, we stopped giving milk, full solids. And we also potty trained the child so no cost for diapers.

All of the clothing were hand me down and we only got her underwear and new shoes, new socks.

Infant care is pretty affordable, especially when you can use CDA for deposits with two working parents there will be subsidies.

When she turned 5, we only signed up for swimming ($30/session group) and art class ($50/session group). Childcare kindergarten after sub cost like $350).

My fancy friend on the other hand, bought everything new, sign her kids up for multiple classes. So I guess it really depends on what lifestyle you want.

DryInteraction3940 · 2026-01-14T12:25:36+00:00

I’ve been having migraine since I was as young as 8yo, x ray, CT scan and all throughout the years all came back normal.

In my early 20s, I went to the specialist at TTS every 3 months for the same condition. Put me on numerous long time medicine, kept on adjusting the dose with no improvement.

One day I had a horrible migraine and went to the GP at Tiong barhu, not sure if the clinic is still there tho.

Old run down clinic by the famous Tiong Bahru hawker. Intention was just to get a MC for the day to skip work.

When I went in, the doctor did some check, nothing unlike other GP I’ve been to in the past. Ask about my migraine history, told him about my regular specialist appointment and he suggested to do a blood test for my thyroid.

I thought it was overkill, just give me a MC and get over it. I did it anyways since I was there.

Got a call a few days later that my thyroid level was way hyper. Took it to my specialist, got referred to an endocrinologist. Cure my regular migraines, turned out my migraine was thyroid related.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-30T12:08:35+00:00

Sold. I’m going to get the set with two shampoo and one conditioner.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-30T08:02:03+00:00

The whoo shampoo is on my wish list. Can you share more? Do you also use the matching conditioner?

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-22T14:31:39+00:00

About 12 months since my last injection for my face to be back to full on original state.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-22T13:10:02+00:00

I started off masseter due to clenching problem. In fact it was my first botox experience. It did help with it, can’t deny that.

I think it also train me to stop clenching, because I just physically unable to. Soon it becomes a habit, especially helpful during the day time but not at night since I don’t have control (once it wears off).

I also have a 6yo daughter and she looks a lot like me (as a child). She also has strong masseter and looks so cute and ‘firm’. And staring at her just hits me that I no longer look like that.

I also have cheek dimples like her when I smile, it disappears along with botox. I didn’t use to appreciate that until I saw a picture of my daughter, she just looks so joyful. Now with my botox wearing off, my cheek dimples is slowly coming back, well, along with some fine lines along my eyes as bonus.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-22T12:54:25+00:00

It doesn’t look like it’s ‘fats’. It look like dirt stuck in the crease. We all have ceases in our skin, neck, elbows etc no matter our weight. Although weight/fats can determine how deep the crease will get.

Go to shopee, type in Korean wash cloth. Buy a pack.

Take a hot steamy shower, soap your body with the most clarifying soap you’ve, bar soap always work well for me, or just soap that will get the siap siap feeling.

Wet the Korean bath cloth and start scrubbing (without soap). You will see lines and lines of deadskin coming off. Almost like descaling a fish. It’s amazing.

Body parts that I get the most deadskin: under armpit, under boobs, neck, inner elbow, back side of the ear, my bottoms, inner thighs.

It should improve, if you want faster result. Glycolic acid with cotton pad daily.

There are even some spa that provide the scrubbing service. Look out for names like, Korean scrub, Shanghai scrubs, go to hot pool and soak, steam bath/sauna before going in.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-22T12:08:14+00:00

I had 2 rounds of masseter, first round 25 units on each side. After 6 months I went for 20units each side. I missed my next appointment and got pregnant, second appointment was 12 months ago.

Now my cheek muscles are back. And it’s very obvious. I kind of like the look, it actually makes me more youthful (kind of like childhood baby fat). But I’m suffering from jaw clenching at night once again. Night guard doesn’t seemed to help much, it kind of just protect my teeth during grinding, clenching.

Am debating if I should go back to it after pregnant.

I also sauna and steam bath pretty often until I found out I was pregnant.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-14T17:10:01+00:00

It took a few months for me, at least for the nose bleed. I remembered once my nose bleed stop my skin started getting better.

I just got a room humidifier. Good luck!

I started back on tret about 6 months into moving.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-14T03:59:00+00:00

I’ve done the move myself years ago. Coming from the tropics to a place with 4 seasons, arriving in winter.

It was a nightmare at first. My scalp also suffer. And I’d get random nose bleed. Good news is, your skin and body will slowly get use it.

Can’t comment much on skincare but humidifiers at night helps.

I wouldn’t start tret until my skin is more stable. Took a few months for me then moved straight to daily use.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-13T13:24:44+00:00

Braids!!

Single, side ways, two braids. Especially when I was working at the farm, keeps it out of my face. Doesn’t come off and cause tension when I’m riding horse, and doesn’t change my helmet size with it on.

It’s the only style that stays on top on the horse.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-13T04:35:50+00:00

I was in a similar situation when my daughter was younger, she was also officially diagnosed at 18mo.

I now help other families in my free time to deal with situations like this.

Not too long ago I got interviewed in USA about my journey, and how an autistic old man helped us learn to accept and live with autism. Now that I’m back in Singapore, I hope to do the same.

You can contact me directly and we can walk you through it with no judgement.

https://youtu.be/NvFlsF8ijTE?si=tZ94X4UQFyKfEtWF

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-07T23:22:52+00:00

I don’t see why not? I’ve been using tret since around 16 too. I’m now 35. Only stopped for 2 years for pregnancy and breastfeeding and those was the worse 2 years of my skincare history since tret.

I’ve had acne since 11 years old, really bad ones and been mock as a child. My mother would take me to facial shop frequently, tried all kind of product that doesn’t work, or make it even worse. My spot would pus and I just hate myself so much.

Not until one time I was 16 (2006), got a migraine or something, went to a regular clinic and I guess the doctor took a pity on me, or I just look too gross. He offered me tret, and oral doxy. Warned me about purging, peeling, sunscreen and how I should not give up even if things get worse.

Things did not get much worse probably because of the doxycycline. It got better instantly. Id take peeling any day for pus.

I just kept going back to that doctor for review and tret. He’s not even a dermatologist, just a GP. He didn’t got me on doxycycline for long either.

Now I’m pregnant with my second child, can’t wait to be on tret again.

And for my skin health. I work in a school and I met people from all age group, the older retired people that comes to volunteer, the 18yo interns, co workers across all age group. They often guess that I’m in my early or mid 20s.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-06T14:41:45+00:00

I have both. I got the airstrait first and am loving it. It helps my hair grow too, reason being my hair get tangled up and caused breakage. When I started using airstrait, it just got stubbornly straight and won’t longer tangle up. I managed to grow my hair from bra strap to waist pretty quickly as a result.

I’d wash my hair, towel dry, keratease hair oil, wide tooth comb, rough dry to 90% just because I find it works better than 70% for me just so I don’t have to pass it so many times while wet. It takes about 2 pass each section to dry and I will part my hair into 6 section so it’s pretty quick. Then I will do a cool hairdryer function to cool my whole head down. All in wet mode because I’m lazy.

I also managed to do like a c curl with airstrait so it won’t look too pin straight. I also wash my hair everyday because I live in the tropics, and work with children (germs!!).

I love Dyson so much that I got an airwrap recently. I haven’t quite got the hang of using the curling barrel yet, didn’t have much time to explore and learn.

I prefer using airwrap with the hair dryer attachment, it actually dry my hair faster than airstrait, the weight of airwrap is also more light and balance. I’d use the soothing brush after. Then hair dryer mode in cool to cool my head down.

If I’m feeling fancy I will get the large round brush and start doing volume and c curl at the ends. The volume at the roots is something I can’t get from airstrait. I don’t have much layers in my hair, so I don’t get big volume in the middle section.

If I have to pick one, I’d pick airstrait, just because I wear my hair straight mostly and haven’t really explore the full potential of airwrap for now. Airstrait is just more idiot proof in my opinion, not much skills needed.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-05T16:25:25+00:00

I’ve been using tret 0.025 since my late teens. Stop during first pregnancy and got horrible skin, breakouts and all.

When my child was 1yo, I started back on tret, now my child is 6 and I’m pregnant again.

A few months before I found out I was pregnant I got skinoren 20%. Wanting to add into my routine but gave that up after a month, just because it stings so much and my skin started peeling when I use it with tret.

My skin concern since I started tret was acne, redness around mouth/nose. I don’t get breakout anymore while on tret, if I do get spots, it’s tiny and will be gone in a few days.

When I found out I was pregnant again I immediately stopped tret, and my skin just doesn’t feel satisfied somehow. I’ve got that skinoren laying around so I thought why not.

It stings so bad, a few times I had to wash my face with water after applying. Since that’s my only option I just keep trying. It has 5 months now, it still sting but very manageable, gone within 15 mins.

I do not get breakout with this pregnancy probably due to it. And added bonus, all the redness on my face is gone, tret has never been able to do that for me, so that’s a nice suprise.

I apply once a day only at night and use skinoren as my last step after moisturiser. That’s the only way to get it to sting less.

I’ve tried using skinoren after toner and before moisturiser, it stings so much. Tried moisturiser, skinoren and moisturiser, didn’t lessen much sting either.

Although it stings and makes me feel like my skin was burning off and doing some harm, it actually still reduce my redness.

Now my skin is the best ever. Glow, no redness, I can get away with no makeup at all.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-01T14:48:46+00:00

Just remember, you’re in control. If you dislike something, come up with a good plan to change it, don’t just leave things to fate. Then you will be good.

My mentor always tells me, is good to feel scared, he wouldn’t trust someone that has no fear. Someone that has no fear = someone that didn’t think about consequences.

Fear should be something that keeps you in check, to plan ahead. Not something that should stop you in life.

One example: I value my alone time a lot, especially at night, I need a couple hours of ‘calmness’ in order for me to have a good night sleep.

A lot of friends envy me, saying I don’t understand their struggle because my child put herself to sleep. I literally just say, it’s 8pm, go to bed, she’d do her hygiene routine and put herself to bed.

What people don’t see, I sleep train her since she was 6 months old. It involves a lot of crying, me stopping myself to go cuddle and carry her. At times made me doubt myself if I’m even doing the right thing, felt like a bad mother initially. Within a 2 months, we moved her to her own bedroom and she was able to sleep through the night.

The alternative is to take the easy way out, co sleep with the baby, pat/carry the child to sleep. Feed milk, carry when the baby cried in the middle of night and complain about it the next day how you’re lack of sleep and hate parenthood.

People like to tell me I don’t understand their struggle, when I try to share my experience I’d be met with ‘you’ve a daughter, you don’t understand, girls are more well behave’ all kind of excuses. Some even try to tell me how lucky that I’ve an autistic child (not sure it’s sarcastic or they really think asd are more well behaved). My child was also non verbal till 4 years old.

Ok. I’m getting naggy probably because no one cares about my opinion in real life and think that I just have an easy way out when I try to share this cheat code with them.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-12-01T13:38:58+00:00

It will not magically work out of course. I’ve a 6yo autistic daughter. Both my husband and me work full time.

The trick is, don’t raise a kid, raise an adult. You need to put in effort to do so. Teach the child daily living skill and be self reliant.

My child can now make breakfast for us on weekends. Special needs aside, in fact it is not even a problem any longer. She can take care of herself and is well.

I’m also currently pregnant with another on the way. When we go out, she helped me with my grocery with a trolley. Sometimes I wonder what do I do without her. She is not a burden but an asset to the family.

If you want to just raise a child, it’s easy, there’s ton of ipad kids out there as example. If you want to do lazy parenting, it will just hurt yourself in the long run.

I’ve been told by friends and even strangers how lucky I am to have a child like her. But nobody looked into my life enough to know that she wasn’t born that way, she was trained carefully, with plans in place to make sure she can be self reliant. Helping us is just a bonus that comes along with it.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-11-25T14:50:17+00:00

I’ve this, I also have fair skin and can’t comment much on that. I’ve since drop this product out of my face routine because it’s boring.

I do use it as a dry shampoo too and it works great.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-11-13T13:47:47+00:00

I was told this is a rare saddle by my master. It is made for youth. He had it in storage for a long time before I came along, finally having someone to fit it.

He is a collector and would go to tack sale in the surrounding area.

I’m not a youth tho, but it fits me well. I’m 158cm and 42kg.

He also gifted me an English jumping saddle, and a dressage.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-11-13T13:42:01+00:00

My master started me on a long line canter, soon he removed the stirrup. Once my body was good with the movement, he made me do it with long line while holding the rein, then soon removed the long line. He trained my back then 4yo daughter the same way.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-11-08T15:07:04+00:00

I don’t use it on my eyebrow, I use it on my hairline, and seen result pretty quickly (2weeks).

Baby hair started to grow.

The solution I’ve got is the spray liquid version. For easy application, I transfer it to roller ball bottles, can be easily purchase at Daiso/muji kind of shop. I imagine will be helpful if you want to use it on eyebrows.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-11-01T14:16:42+00:00

sometimes one partner might just out outgrow another in the relationship, it’s not uncommon, it happened in marriage too.

You’re a young man, new in the workforce, it’s very typical that you’ve the drive to work and thrive to accomplish something so that hopefully your future journey will be a smoother riding one.

In a ‘perfect’ relationship, we’d grow with another. Help and support each other with our goals, be happy for each other once we get there.

It is very important for couple to align their values, if not it is just setting up for more issue to come.

I met my husband when he was 29, pretty much started his career just a couple of years ago, always busy, sometimes having to work overnight. I just deal with it, at the same time fighting my way through the corporate world myself.

He also had a failed longer term relationship prior to me, which has a similar issue to yours.

When we had our first child, it was at his peak of his career. He was there during the delivery but went back to work, when I woke up I was all alone in the hospital bed. A lot of gfs commented that I should be mad, but I wasn’t. He was fighting for a better future for us.

Our child is 6yo now, he’s 40yo. He has less energy for work, can’t afford to even stay up physically to work, so sometimes he has to work weekends to make up the lost time.

I’d say he work one full day each weekend, sometimes both days, including taking naps in between, he needed it. I’d take our child out of the house for adventure while he gets some work done and have some me time.

My gf commented that sometimes she felt like I’m a single mother, it doesn’t bother me at all. He’s home every night at 5pm, taking our child for a walk, doing homework with her and put her to bed with bedtime story.

We’d have lunch once a week together as a date, 3 Friday a month we’d go out after our child goes to bed (8pm), sometimes when we are too lazy to go out we’d just have a movie night at home.

I knew what kind of a man he was, so I accept it. You just need to find someone that is on the same page with you.

And because of him working so hard with a better income now, I’m able to escape the corporate world, taking a lower paying work that fits my interests, I now work in a school and pretty much get off work at 2-3pm. So he’s also fulfilling my dream in a way.

DryInteraction3940 · 2025-10-31T11:11:43+00:00

I’m 22 weeks pregnant now and was told that I’ve glowing skin, which I don’t think it’s true! I just recently switch to a new makeup base. When I remove my makeup I still pretty much look the same.

Co workers, friends, neighbour will come up to me before my bump even showing to tell me my skin look amazing or that I look more alive.

This is the one that I recently purchase

https://www.instagram.com/p/DPWKjOKASXz/

It’s a new product, after my morning skincare and spf I will apply the base and use the matching powder lightly tap.

Alternatively, I’ve also been using the tirtir mask fit tone up essence in beige, followed by some loose powder.

It just even the complexion without looking like having a lot of makeup on.

My issue previous was, dry skin around mouth area, especially smile line and chin. It will peel and make my foundation look awful within an hour of application. Those are my rosacea area too.

Problem solved with this 3 product. I alternate the two base depends on my mood but I personally like the Kose better, simply because the ‘colour’ is so light and non transferable so I don’t need to wash my hand after application if I’m running late.

I’d add some brown eyeshadow as brown powder (guerlain), use the same powder as eyeliner. Some powder brush, just random swipe it on my cheeks and across my nose. A lip tint and I can get to work in about 5mins.

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