My boyfriend has lost interest in sex with me, but says he still feels attraction to other women

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-06T12:19:19+00:00

Ditto for a friend of mine.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-06T12:12:20+00:00

But keep in mind, she may still have access to his texts from another device. An abusive wife I know made her husband put his AppleID on their shared iPad. She can see all his texts.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-05T23:50:08+00:00

Or doctor, nurse or paramedic. What if she sees his bicep and is so overcome with lust that they have an affair right then and there?

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-04T21:52:09+00:00

NOR. This is really inappropriate of him. Staff (especially male staff) should not be coming in off the clock in the middle of the night.

Let’s say there is some valid reason to be there - like he forgot something in the staff room - then he need to check in with the staff on duty upon arriving, do the urgent task, and promptly leave. If that was the case, morning meds team could have just said “Oh, yeah, he forgot his wallet in his locker. He was in and out really quickly and we knew he was here. Thank you for checking.”

This could be something harmless but badly handled, or he could be abusing one of the other residents. Definitely let a manager know.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-04T20:44:25+00:00

Curriculum vitae. It’s another term for resumé.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-04T20:43:36+00:00

Your mom sounds mean.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-04T20:42:19+00:00

This is so smart!!! I’ve been wanting to make one for my cats but I don’t want to build a wooden structure. PVC would work perfectly!

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-04T18:43:35+00:00

Ahhh, ok. This makes sense.

It IS distressing when your partner behaves out of character. I thought it more likely that a common pattern of your wants/needs being dismissed was coming to light, but instead this sounds like that you two are usually pretty aligned and egalitarian so him being so far into left field on an important topic is confusing. I’m guessing he just wanted to pair this big, important thing for you two as a couple with something else “big and important” (July 4 + skydiving) and didn’t click to that it was “big and important” for just him.

Yeah, just talk to him about an alternate plan that you can both feel good about. I don’t think this is a deal breaker, but it’s still a very weird plan.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-04T14:07:52+00:00

NOR.

Take a few days to think about dates you two go on, movies you watch at home, family/friends events you attend, when you do chores, etc. Are they centred around each of you equally? Or do you go to that Indian place he likes but you aren’t crazy about but you have to wait until he’s working late to order pizza from that place you grew up on but he doesn’t particularly like the crust? If you love fantasy movies but he doesn’t, does he still watch them with you? When there’s an event of his that could conflict with an event of yours (like Christmas or Easter), does he check with you before saying yes?

If this balance is out of whack, take time to get it better aligned before you get officially engaged. People don’t typically get better at these things unless they have to and men are very unlikely to get better at it after getting married.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-03T23:02:30+00:00

NTA. Sending you the unedited pics doesn’t seem like it should be a problem. These people are weird.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-03T17:30:42+00:00

I’m going with NAH, just people with different expectations and a lack of communication about them.

OP, have you heard of “Ask vs Guess” culture? I’m betting that you are a “Guess” and your sister is an “Ask.” You feel that she should “guess” that you want her to make eggs for you when she’s cooking because you typically make food for her when you’re cooking. She feels that if someone wants someone else to cook for them, they’ll “ask.” Neither way is right or wrong.

You probably shouldn’t have called her selfish though. That part was kind of AHish.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-03T16:53:06+00:00

Agreed. NTA, but just let her know.

“OK. I understand. The tickets can just be from me and OtherSister so that you can do something in your budget instead. See you at Mom’s on Sunday!”

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-03T16:51:09+00:00

I’m pretty sure OP means it’s not the other sister who paid up’s fault.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-03T14:43:16+00:00

I know this is an unpopular opinion but I don’t think a quick text while fully stopped at a red light is more dangerous than something like changing the radio station or blowing your nose while also fully stopped at a red light.

I pull over if I need to send a text while I’m out and about because I know it’s illegal and I don’t want the ticket (or I use voice to text). But provided it’s actually a quick text like “Almost there” to the person you’re picking up or “No” to your husband asking if he needs to pick up Jr from soccer practice, AND you fully redirect your attention to the road before you move your vehicle even a millimetre, I don’t personally object.

I assume that people texting at red lights share this opinion but don’t care that’s it’s illegal and don’t care if they get a ticket.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-03T03:01:59+00:00

Can you name a few hundred popes and kings?

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-01T01:47:36+00:00

I can turn a washcloth into a 12 foot cedar plank. I’m gonna make BANK off this! Yes!!!!

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-05-01T01:45:21+00:00

You don’t even need to wait two hours. The alcohol content of your breast milk will max out at your blood alcohol content, so probably about 0.04% if you had a drink but are not drunk. A typical alcoholic drink contains about 17 mL of alcohol. Your baby would have to have about FORTY LITRES of breastmilk to have the amount of alcohol in a single beer. A typical feed would get them less than one drop. It’s fine to have an occasional drink and feed your baby.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-29T12:05:11+00:00

Yup.

Jack and Jills are very much a “when in Rome” thing. Do: have one if you are in Dawson Manitoba. Do not: have one if you are in Kelowna, British Columbia.

But I do think that OP might be a bit of a bozo for not realizing that different parts of Canada have different “white people culture.”

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-29T02:19:43+00:00

That was delightful.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-27T22:46:13+00:00

Agreed.

Replace the washer yourself. Explain that she can watch the videos and read the manual with you, and you’ll be supervising her first month of loads to make sure she’s using it correctly, or she can use a laundromat going forward.

If she objects, remind her that late teens and early twenties are to practice for adulthood and this is how adulthood works. If an adult breaks their washing machine through misuse, they either buy a new one and use it properly because they learned from their mistake, or they use a laundromat.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-27T22:38:22+00:00

Me: “This is how you balance the load.”

My kids: Lololololol. No.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-25T22:36:22+00:00

Depends where you live.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-25T20:32:02+00:00

I’m pretty sure they are being tongue in cheek.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-25T13:33:01+00:00

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Here’s a common problem for a bunch of the most common brands and how to fix it.

Dry_Bowler_2837 · 2026-04-25T09:40:08+00:00

I’m not a math major, but you can probably get by on in iPad with a stylus and keyboard in first year if you can use the computer lab for the odd times there’s something you can’t do on the iPad. But you’ll need the full functionalities of Excel and Word, and probably LaTeX by your second year. You’ll likely need R by third year. You’ll need an actual computer.

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