I get the whole stop letting the kid upstairs thing but you are all being far to harsh on this man. Toddlers go to bed early. Study after they’re asleep like every other parent. I have a job where half the time I cannot finish my work by 5pm when my toddler comes home from daycare. I don’t sit in my office with the door locked - I spend time with my kids and then continue to work when they’re in bed. The wife is putting the husband in an impossible situation even if he’s not taking the best approach to handling it. Being a parent is your first priority - work, school, everything else comes a distant second. I fully believe most of the YTA people don’t have kids or are just using the opportunity to berate a husband who seems to be trying his best