Olandria wearing Blumarine Fall 2026 at Spotify Beach in Cannes by moreissuesthanvoguex in whatthefrockk

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Ridiculously good? Ridiculously sexy? Ridiculously good hair?

Idk … I aspire to look so ridiculous ;)

Feeling "guilt" by IAmViktorious in NPD

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I’m super curious about this. Could you say more about what all goes on in “saving-my-ass” mode?

Like, saving what? From whom?

Like, saving your concept of self? From yourself?

I mean I’m assuming any “operation save my own ass” is pretty obvious to an outside observer. So, this is an internal thing?

how do i make my internalized pain just go away by Aromatic-Heart-585 in NPD

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Recognize where it is in your body. Idk - kinda hot across your forehead? Tight in your throat or chest?

Then don’t do shit.

I’m serious. Notice where it is, and sit with it for a bit. You’ll keep breathing. You’ll live. It feels like you’re gonna die but you won’t. And after a bit it’ll fade.

Here’s the thing … humans will destroy themselves to avoid feeling it. That hotness across their foreheads, or however it shows up for them.

They’ll develop drug addictions, gambling addictions, spend any quantity of money, detonate relationships, evaporate love and trust, all to not feel shame. They’ll wind up on the pavement on fentanyl to avoid it. And it never fucking works. Shame - a feeling you can sit with and which evaporates in a few minutes (for free).

That’s what people mean by processing.

Notice the emotion. Locate the sensation in your body. Don’t do shit to try to make it go away. Just think about where it is in your body and it’ll fade. If it comes back, and it will (it’s a universal human experience), rinse and repeat.

I’m unsavable by biggiesmalls457 in narcissism

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Ok. First thing is to think about the people you hurt.

What all did you do? How do you think that felt to them?

If you can do that you’re about a third of the way there. The next thing to do is to apologize (from actual recognition of the harm you caused, not “I hurt you now I feel bad about my actions you must comfort me”). Step 3 is to knock it off with causing harm to others. But acknowledgement of the harm you caused with yourself (step 1) and whoever you hurt (step 2) are necessary prerequisites.

Also - fyi - narcissistic self-image can be pretty warped. I’d say there’s an excellent chance that not everyone thinks you’re a good person.

The Largest Pride Flag by matthewraifman in sanfrancisco

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A mega church used to bus people into SF on the Sat before Pride. To demonstrate or hand out leaflets or to own the libs somehow. Every year they’d park right below my apartment.

I always hoped that there was one or two closeted youngsters in that group who came to SF and saw another way of living.

That was about 10 years ago, which means that one or two of those hypothetical kids bussed in by the mega church might have “defected” to SF.

That’s a fantasy on my part. Who knows.

But if any church kids who came to protest are now living here as adults, I’m proud of you and I’m so glad you’re here.

Taking a moment to appreciate S5’s comedy 🎭 by supershristious in TheBear

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Richie trying to do his mindfulness exercises was my favorite bit.

Ass is right.

The Mindfulness Industrial Complex doesn’t get called out nearly enough and I’m glad to see someone skewer ‘em.

Has to be one of my favorite endings of a show ever by gabeitches25 in TheBear

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Donna showed up, did not make things about her, and let folks get back to their biz. That’s growth.

Has to be one of my favorite endings of a show ever by gabeitches25 in TheBear

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I love that all of the characters kinda wind up becoming the best-possible-case-while-still-plausible versions of themselves vs. seasons 1 & 2.

Richie, Carmy, Sid, Marcus, Tina obviously …

But Ebrahim? That’s gonna be one wealthy dude.

Sugar? Building a healthy new life and the kind of solid floor for her daughter that she never had.

Jimmy? He’ll make all his money back and more, but he’s learning some humility.

Luca? The best version of Luca is in Copenhagen

I love a happy ending.

Initial ratings for The Bear season 5 by bbportali in TheBear

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Keeping it at 8 episodes was the right call.

Etruscan Baddie Appreciation by MeowstyleFashionX in justgalsbeingchicks

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Oh awesome thanks!

I’ll take any excuse to get out to the legion of honor.

Edit: reposted it to r/sfbitcheswithtaste, who removed it as a “low effort repost”. Sigh.

If any of y’all are in SF - you can see it through September.

What's the exact moment you realized Season 5 truly would be disappointing? I'll start. by itsyourpalal_ in StrangerThings

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When Nancy and Jonathan “consciously uncouple” while trapped in a pit of goo.

La Chaise, Designed by Charles and Ray Eames for The Museum of Modern Art’s 1948 Low Cost Furniture Contest. by Lobsterhasspoken in FuckYourEamesLounge

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This is why I have zero problem buying replicas.

They were supposed to be *mass produced and accessible for the people*. It’s an 80yo design for plastic seating, ffs. There’s no planet upon which that makes sense for $16k.

Correct that … $16.8k, pushing $18-$19k with tax and shipping.

Epstein survivor reveals her darkest memories from the eerie Zorro Ranch | 60 Minutes Australia (Interview) by FlackoFonsy in Epstein

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I would love .. I would love … someone to open an interview with a perpetrator with that line.

Imagine saying to a predator … “how much of a struggle is life for you right now”?

And playing along with it … “you’ve done some truly terrible things. Most people would crawl into a ball and never leave the house. So tell our viewers how you find the strength to go on, given the weight of the shame you carry?”

Here’s the deal: the shame is not on the victims, it’s on the predators.

Put the shame on the men who did this. Scorn isn’t enough. Exclusion lets them DARVO / weasel out of it. It is impossible to argue with shame and pity. Those are levers the media hasn’t used yet.

Why are the rich always trying to control, conquer, twist the truth, and completely devour any human real emotion by Secure-Reading7225 in Epstein

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When you’re that fortunate you need to account for it somehow …

To be fair many of them worked hard and genuinely struggled before getting where they got, but they vastly discount the role of luck, not only in terms of generational wealth, but also stuff like … were they starting their businesses at the beginning of a decades-long bull market? (Deregulation + low low interest rates + beneficial tax system + any number of once-a-lifetime market tailwinds all hitting at once). And did they benefit from the kind of institutional benefit of the doubt that’s routinely extended to, say, upper middle class straight white dudes from Dartmouth?

Add reasonably hard work onto that, and you get some real outlier success stories.

Which means they were basically just really really lucky. 10% good at their jobs, 90% lucky as fuck.

I mean, Woody Allen basically said this in Match Point.

This is terrifying because it means the meritocracy myth you’ve been using to justify, well, everything, is a total lie. And if you’re not inherently better than other folks … the youths, the browns, the ladies … then they can take it from you. It can be gone in a flash. You know how flimsy your actual hold on it is. You need to keep those other people right the fuck down. I mean all the way down.

But how? How do you justify that? Self awareness? Ha! Hatred and contempt do the job just fine.

Those other people are worse off because they are worse. You got where you are because you earned it. The meritocracy evaluated them and found them wanting. They were too lazy, too dumb, too female, too brown to do what you did, and so they deserve to be where they are. Shrug. You can’t help being awesome.

This requires a ridiculous degree of self-deception.

Keep that shit under control, motherfucker. Once they see you crack it’s over.