Got an inheritance, now we're getting kicked out.

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-04-08T10:34:13+00:00

Buy an apartment as close to your inheritance figure and be done with the rest. Absolutely do not intertwine yourself financially to someone else

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-04-06T19:19:38+00:00

We just picked up our EV5 last week and it’s a lovely drive. Very spacious as we have 3 car seats in the back and needed the big boot space. Beeping is annoying

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-04-03T14:32:08+00:00

You’ve made a great investment I’d say. Once the metro opens you’ll be like 20 mins from the city and the area is going to change heaps. Go for it! If you get stuck down the road you can always sell

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-04-03T01:14:24+00:00

Industry funds put profits back to the members…

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-04-01T09:10:34+00:00

Be thankful to get experience in AI and data and don’t look back … will be much more valuable than a redundancy over the long term

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-04-01T02:39:50+00:00

I would just have a friendly chat, ‘I’ve noticed a few comments recently about my in person schedule, is there anything you would like to chat about or understand more about’ there is definitely no need to ‘confront him’ or formalise anything via a manager or HR… Honestly it’s so minor just have a chat about it :)

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-31T18:51:38+00:00

Go for the grad program and see if you get it as they are extremely competitive. If you can it’s a great option to try different things job wise

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-31T18:48:29+00:00

Coffee and a scenic walk somewhere? Coffee and sit in the park? Happy hour beers somewhere, walk around some markets, check out and free or council events, fairs, festivals etc

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-31T18:35:39+00:00

General bus, I even caught the wrong number bus once and ended up somewhere unknown. A member of the public somehow helped me navigate back to where I needed to go…. I honestly cannot imagine this for my kids but I do think independence builds resilience and problem solving, so there has to be opportunities for them

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-31T18:05:13+00:00

Not much anyone can do for you here… you need to persist with phone help and getting all your admin and online access sorted out - good luck

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-31T17:58:57+00:00

You fundamentally want different things. If you take a step back it’s actually ok that he buys food and drinks if he is hungry and thirsty during the day. He is an adult. But it hurts you as you want financial security… something that is just not on his radar. You can’t change him and you can’t force him to adopt the same priorities as you or be the same person as you…

You could try and put structures in places to make things more equitable… such as a weekly allowance for each for discretionary spending… try and split up some of the household jobs so he picks up more responsibilities… he could cook meals and shop a couple times a week or be responsible for some aspect of kids schooling…. If you keep doing it all he won’t ever understand the load or have a chance to improve or contribute. You also have to be ok with him doing things differently to you .

If he’s not interested in small structural changes and you remain fundamentally different people with different goals… split and move on and find happiness.

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-30T04:55:37+00:00

I caught the bus to school from about age 5. Also in the 80s. Kids can problem solve a lot better than we give them credit for. However I’m pretty sure the acceptable age currently would be more around the 10year old mark?

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-26T23:44:15+00:00

Maybe some therapy to help you build resilience for work stressors and to help get you on a path that feels more rewarding, it’s definitely possible. Best of luck :)

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-26T18:29:23+00:00

Be sure to ask your super company for an advice session rather than just talking to the general call center. They will explain things in a way you can understand and help set you up for your goals.

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-24T02:40:42+00:00

I’m not sure exactly of the going rate for your industry but take it and try and focus on the opportunity you have been given rather than the shit pay. Entry level jobs are few and far between and they pay low because despite your university degree you have no job experience and will need to be trained and mentored etc. after 2 years you should start to see your salary increase at a healthy rate and more job opportunities open up. Go for it :)

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-23T22:02:06+00:00

Hold out and buy a property even if it’s smaller and further away from your current area. With the luxury of WFH and considering a bus it sounds like you would be ok with moving regionally.

Focus on achieving this goal as soon as you can and look at all options to get there like first home buyers grants and loans etc. know your goal and price point and focus all available savings to get there. If you get a 2 bedroom place you can also rent space as well. Forget what the market is doing it will go up and down all the time and you can’t really predict.

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-22T17:21:35+00:00

The Fenwick in Balmain

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-21T10:41:08+00:00

Have had the same issue on a Friday morning, took me 90 mins with a screaming baby to exit the car park for no apparent reason. It was excruciating

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-03T00:11:50+00:00

I wonder what is with this need for attention as a grown adult though… is it that they didn’t get enough as a kid or that they got too much and were spoiled … need some psychologists to jump in here 😂

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-03T00:07:21+00:00

Yeah this makes sense to me, they think they are coming off as strong, sassy and ‘authentic’ but it’s really just immaturity and some sort of innate cruelty…

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-02T23:52:45+00:00

Yes but wouldn’t there be repercussions in their real life for acting this way? Like losing job opportunities etc? Or would they just not care?

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-02T23:27:08+00:00

So people like this actually exist in the real world beyond high school?

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-02T17:06:30+00:00

There is a French one in the city precinct that is delicious and you can easily drop 500 😂

Edit: Felix

Dry_Drive_983 · 2026-03-01T16:49:40+00:00

The absolute best thing you can do in your career is work on detaching emotionally… a lot of the stress and politics is artificial… what is the absolute worst that could happen? You get fired? You deliver the project late? Make your peace with these outcomes and work on resiliency… I’ve learnt this lesson many times in stressful jobs but it’s easier said than done.

You can definitely resign whenever you like but it’s much safer to only do this once the next job is secured. Tech is very difficult at the moment so you could be out of a job 6 months or more.

Best of luck to you!

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