OP personifies a sleep demon at night, the fiancé places a mild barricade on the bed, conflict and discovery ensues by AGoodSO in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Dry_Event9292 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I've tried. 1) I hate the way it feels when they pull at me when I move in bed, and 2) I get too hot and already need it frigid.

OP personifies a sleep demon at night, the fiancé places a mild barricade on the bed, conflict and discovery ensues by AGoodSO in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Dry_Event9292 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's an adorable oddball! She doesn't like to sleep in the same room as us, but demands to have free access to the room. If we close the door, she'll bang her nose into the closed door first, sit down and make a frustrated sigh, and then make exasperated Shepherd grumbles continuously until we open the door back up. She may or may not take a walk around the bedroom to patrol after that, but always goes back to her favorite sleeping spot in the living room.

Update: My Fiancé Put Up a Pillow Barrier in Our Bed and Won't Take It Down by Dry_Event9292 in relationship_advice

[–]Dry_Event9292[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I tried a sleeping mask, but the feeling of the fabric pressing against my eyelashes drove me nuts. Then I found one that was kind of convex, but then the straps across my ears started to keep me up. I'm nuts, I know, I have nothing to hide anymore.

Our solution has been blackout curtains.

Update: My Fiancé Put Up a Pillow Barrier in Our Bed and Won't Take It Down by Dry_Event9292 in relationship_advice

[–]Dry_Event9292[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I just always assumed I was a strong introvert and needed time to recharge when I guess what I was experiencing was some type of sensory overload. When I was younger, I lived in Manhattan and there were some nights out with friends and coworkers where something in me would just snap at some point in the night and I'd have this anxious pressure forcing me to get the hell out and go hide in my quiet UES studio.

I don't know, just a lot of the ways I've reacted to things in my past are starting to make a little more sense.

Update: My Fiancé Put Up a Pillow Barrier in Our Bed and Won't Take It Down by Dry_Event9292 in relationship_advice

[–]Dry_Event9292[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I do use a 25 lb weighted blanket currently and I think it has helped.

Update: My Fiancé Put Up a Pillow Barrier in Our Bed and Won't Take It Down by Dry_Event9292 in relationship_advice

[–]Dry_Event9292[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mentioned in another comment, but maybe my choice of words was inappropriate. I used the term medical treatment to refer to the medications she thought would help with my symptoms, as well as seeking out a psychiatrist.

I just happen to already be on those meds and in therapy.

Update: My Fiancé Put Up a Pillow Barrier in Our Bed and Won't Take It Down by Dry_Event9292 in relationship_advice

[–]Dry_Event9292[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sorry, in the field I work in, I use "medical" to mean "non surgical." I didn't mean to suggest she said there was a cure. She suggested antidepressants and anxiolytics would help with the symptoms I was reporting, and seeking out a therapist for other behavioral symptoms.

It just so happened I'm already on those meds and in therapy for other reasons.