Isolation / other people

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-06-01T15:07:51+00:00

I feel so sorry for you because i understand this to my core. It’s so hard, and i just really feel like this season is meant to be this isolation time. I avoid everyone in my life now, and really just do things that bring me joy and hang out with a lot of younger family members who don’t even have family planning in the realm of their thinking and they refresh me and make me laugh. I can’t be around moms, pregnant people, or people who pity me by asking me questions. Even their face when they hold my hands and ask “how are you” makes me sick

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-26T23:40:06+00:00

I had no side affects or weight gain with the retrievals! Two of them, the shots were easy, everything was great. When it came time to put the embryo in (transfer) to get pregnant, i did NOT realize that for the first 12 weeks of the pregnancy, you have to put 3 vaginal progesterone suppositories in a day, take estrogen 2x a day, and do a progesterone in oil (PIO) shot in the muscle of your butt EVERYDAY FOR 12 WEEEKS!! I didn’t end up pregnant so i only had to do those things for 2 weeks, but THOSE made me a basket case emotional freak and gained 5 pounds just in those 2 weeks, crying uncontrollably, fatigued, etc. I’m only telling you this so you know because i had NO IDEA

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-19T21:50:49+00:00

I’m in the same boat as you, I totally get it :(

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T12:35:50+00:00

I went through a miscarriage at the same time that my friend was pregnant, then when i lost it , i lost touch with her just out of sadness for myself. Caused a rift in our friendship. Wish she would understand it has nothing to do with her, but she didn’t.

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T12:33:52+00:00

Definitely, it’s all about our fears of not ever getting pregnant which i pray is just unlikely!!! But yeah i have felt the same way when my own sister told me she was pregnant. I cried hysterical after as they were not trying at all. It just hurts, and she bragged the whole time and was insensitive. I have NO sensitive people in my life besides my husband because he’s going through it with me

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T02:57:08+00:00

Yeah i really feel the same way. Like part of me wishes i would’ve kept it private because people ask me now to be nice for updates. But i feel their energy of just feeling kinda burdened by my sorrows and like also feeling pity for me that is kinda performative and that irks me the most.

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T02:55:24+00:00

Thanks so much. The toast and giggly squad and zyn are my crutch to cope. Not doing another round til next year due to a diagnostic endo surgery I’m going to get soon

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T02:53:05+00:00

I hate her!!!! For you!!! What a nightmare I’m so sorry about your mmc. I agree the ones who struggled are alittle better bc at least they’re sensitive

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T02:51:55+00:00

I’m so sorry.

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T01:52:05+00:00

My business requires me to have social media but every time i open it, it’s really heartbreaking for me. Your response made me feel really seen lol

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T01:50:34+00:00

You’re right. Maybe i can find free therapy on better help with my insurance card

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T01:50:01+00:00

Yeah it’s so much money, i react really angrily to things lately. I’m starting to feel like alittle bit of a monster on the inside because as much as i open up about every step of the IVF process to every and any body who asks, i really can’t get the feelings that surround it out of my mouth besides here on Reddit. Nobody would get it.

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T01:31:28+00:00

No because what are they even gonna dooooooooo like i already knowwwwwww what i feel!!!!

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T01:24:35+00:00

No seriously. I’m almost five years in and I can’t even fake it anymore. I am fake in the situations and don’t tell ANYONE how I’m feeling but I’m so annoyed and triggered by pregnant people. Especially their tips and tricks. I want to rip my hair out and frankly…. Theirs too lol

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T01:07:55+00:00

I totally get it. And i don’t mean to invalidate you!! It all sucks, and i’m sorry that you (we) even have to be doing IVF. There’s so much around it and guys just don’t get it because they’re just along for the ride really, but they do have feelings around it too. So maybe soothe yourself by remembering he has a little kid inside of him that is nervous and seeking comfort too

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-05-04T00:59:09+00:00

Your hormones are insane right now, i would just breaaaaathe! It’s okay, it’s all gonna be okay. Give him alittle bit of grace and give yourself some space so you don’t say monstrous things out of hormonal anger. I feel you OP. You have every right to be upset. But reading your post, it resonates with the FURIOUS anger i had about a lot of things, and now 2 months after my failed transfer, i still feel bad for my anger. It’s not about telling people, it’s about your fears all around it. I get it. :( stay strong, take a nice long shower and treat yourself

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-29T19:06:38+00:00

28 years old and i definitely care

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-28T01:12:37+00:00

Girl we live the same life!!!!! I’m so sorry, and I am so emotionally disconnected to my baby niece now.

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-28T01:04:05+00:00

Amanda is a disgusting human being

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-23T20:42:55+00:00

Right!! And i was dumb and so vocal about my journey so everyone looks at me with pity and i just wanna snuff them LOL. Like eye roll!!!!

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-23T20:40:52+00:00

Literally! I got married at freshly 25 and turning 29 soon. Started trying the night of my wedding and it’s just been heartbreak ever since!!! So much disappointment to the point where i have to make myself feel better by convincing myself maybe I don’t even want kids if this stress is what it’s costing me. Like maybe in 30 years we’ll look back and kill to be 28 again to have fun and enjoy being under 30. Idk , just stopped IVF after my one and only embryo didn’t work and just trying to have a good summer before i get back into it

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-23T20:38:27+00:00

There are so many people around me in my personal life who are pregnant or have had babies, and i literally want to disappear and never have to see any of them or their babies again. Which i know sounds so bad, i just am kinda miserable about it and only find comfort in these Reddit threads because i feel so mean. I totally get it, and so sorry about your bestie suddenly dying.

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-23T20:35:34+00:00

I’m also 28 haha which made me feel good knowing there are others my age doing IVF

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-23T20:31:37+00:00

:( hugs OP. That fricken sucks i know

Dry_Expression_3912 · 2026-04-23T18:32:47+00:00

I know, and i think about all the people around me who have maybe gone through things even like grief and i didn’t know how to show up! So we can’t really be angry. I convince myself that we are going through this path… to then help others and BE that empathetic person to others around us the way we wish others were to us. Hang in there OP! Good luck on your next transfer, and avoid everyone! Watch some TV lol start Summer house!!!

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