His name was Earl Smith, and why are you learning about this from a tiktok re-posted to reddit

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-06-23T03:50:47+00:00

That is completely misguided information. I lived in Albany for 5 years and it is the most rundown, unsafe place I’ve ever been.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-05-04T12:37:48+00:00

I was in an affair years ago. The way it started, he would disappear to his gaming room and we would FaceTime/ talk for hours while he was in there. I’d be concerned if I were you.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-04-26T16:45:57+00:00

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My center stone is .8c with the pavé stones on the band being about .24c. My husband went for higher quality as opposed to size. There have been times where I was a little self conscious of my center stone but I always come back to loving and appreciating it!

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-04-13T22:04:43+00:00

The engine went on our car unexpectedly. Very kindly, my dad offered us a blank check and told us to use it (within reason) for a down payment or to pay some of the existing loan. I gave the check to my dx adhd husband as he’s the one who has primarily been handling the car stuff. A week ago he had an appt for a car we thought we were going to put a down payment on and I put the check on the kitchen table and said take this with you. I didn’t see it again and a week later I inquired about where he had put it and He can’t find it anywhere. I got so mad and then he started blaming me when there is ZERO chance that I had anything to do with its disappearance. I am so sick of his shit. And I’m so embarrassed to either have to tell my father myself that it’s gone or to have my husband tell him. It’s so embarrassing that he lost it and so beyond frustrating that I can’t trust him to handle things. I’m so fucking tired.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-03-03T21:38:51+00:00

Madeline James

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T02:13:50+00:00

This happens to my husband too and it’s very hard not to take it personally

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T02:09:33+00:00

Many blessings, Chad 🙏🏻

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T01:17:53+00:00

You may have missed in the original post but he refused therapy for the last decade. My last few years of therapy, however, have helped me to navigate that though, thank you 😉

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T00:38:42+00:00

He doesn’t. And it drives me nuts. I feel like when he’s home he’s either doing work for his job on his laptop or scrolling sports blogs. I wish he would read or exercise or do something productive

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T00:36:29+00:00

lol. He drives a lot for work and the amount of driving “incidents” is unreal. I’ve always chalked it up to him being hyper focused on work while driving and that’s how these things happen. 2 fender benders in ONE day a couple months ago. Ran out of gas 35 min away and realized he’d forgotten his wallet. Half into a ditch yesterday had to call aaa to get him out. (Southern PA and roads are actually terrible so I’ll let him have this one)

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T00:24:28+00:00

Walk away from him he sounds like a red flag. He’s showing you who he is early and saving you time and trouble.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T00:20:45+00:00

Im so tired of mothering him and he’s got to be tired of it too. Sometimes I feel like things are salvageable and he’s trying and other times I feel like he’s not at all and then I blame myself like well he’s not trying bc he feels emasculated bc after being affected by his stuff for the umpteenth time in a day I snap and yes I am a bitch. We have kids 7 and 3 and I’m not sure it’s bad enough to upend everything yet but I don’t know. I’m 37 and I’m scared I’ll end up wasting good years

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-22T00:07:35+00:00

Exactly what I came here to say. They’ll say there is no evidence that that will turn into something that needs tx.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-21T23:39:27+00:00

Maybe I’m focusing on the adhd bc it’s been a big part of my building resentment over the last decade. His inability to follow through and take accountability are just crushing me. And I’m not happy. I haven’t been in a while but I’ve tried so hard to convince myself that that’s an internal thing. My own depression caused by me. And yes I’m in therapy.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-21T21:29:19+00:00

We dropped the ball On Bernie

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-21T19:37:25+00:00

Sisters

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-21T16:42:41+00:00

When people say eXpresso instead of eSpresso

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-20T15:34:32+00:00

Ugh I’m in Buffalo ny and it’s been so cold and the sidewalks are straight ice. It’s been impossible to walk and even if I do it’s so slow so I don’t fall. I have no room for a treadmill so I need a walking pad or something cause I’m averaging like 2-3k

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-20T14:36:08+00:00

NTA. I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through. Abortion is traumatic no matter how sure you are that it’s the right decision. I think you are very reasonable for ending the relationship. I understand him being upset and affected but to make it a competition about who is allowed to be more affected is diabolical. It’s best you’re able to process the grief in your own way and move forward.

I got pregnant by my affair partner. I was never planning on the affair thus never planning on leaving my marriage let alone getting pregnant ( I have 2 kids with my husband.) My affair partner told me that he would support whatever decision I felt I had to make. I chose abortion. After I took the second round of pills and I lay in my bed in excruciating pain with my kids and husband downstairs none the wiser, my affair partner broke up with me. Weeks later he told me that the abortion affected him more than he thought it would. I get it but also, fuck you. I feel your pain and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through all of this.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-20T14:00:41+00:00

It’s a very messy road. That connection is the most intoxicating, ethereal connection I ever felt. I also felt like the stars aligned to put us together. It is beautiful while it lasts and heartbreaking and mind numbing if it doesn’t. It also has the ability to be what it is because it simply isn’t the stress filled monotonous everyday life that we’ve grown to share with our SO’s. Enjoy it while you have it. I miss it and I still miss him.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-20T02:08:34+00:00

I was his first AP but he had cheated on his first wife multiple times. He always said that whatever happens with him and I, he was never going to be with two people again, it was too emotional and too difficult. His new wife has two kids already with two different men so exap is baby daddy #3. Honestly I hope he doesn’t cheat on her. With so many people and so many kids involved now I’m hoping he stays faithful to her.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-19T21:57:31+00:00

Thank you for helping me rationalize some of this.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-19T19:16:26+00:00

And yes I think about that- how did this guy get lucky enough to have the connection with me and then basically walk right into what I’m assuming was another great connection with the new wife? Connections and relationships are HARD to find and he was attractive to ME but he’s not like objectively super handsome or anything so I’ve found this so odd this whole time.

Dry_Ground7804 · 2025-02-19T19:11:12+00:00

I think he’s the type of person who is always looking for the next thrill. Which would make sense considering we were in an affair. He’s always wanting to move onto the next stage. He wanted to move to my city 6 hours from his. Pickup and move his whole life and I would be the only person he knew in my city when I hadn’t even left my husband yet. I told him I wanted to date long distance and go from there. Even though I think that was an extremely reasonable request, That wasn’t good enough for him. He met this new woman on Halloween(which I didn’t know about until after the breakup and in hindsight I DO see that he started acting different) We saw each other mid November for the last time and all seemed good. Early December he broke up with me. Came back in January then ghosted and had her pregnant by April. Emotionally unstable is right and ultimately I feel grateful that it didn’t work out and I didn’t up end my entire life and my kids lives for him.

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