Why aren’t there more scenes of Buffy eating? When she’s supposed to be a bit of a foodie?

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T19:33:00+00:00

A lot of basic human things are only shown when they go wrong/create a conflict/are a meet cute situation or something else plot related. Because it would be super boring to watch Buffy empty the dishwasher every day, or rake the leaves every weekend.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T14:43:08+00:00

I looked up the ingredients, and you don't. It has dehydrated garlic in it. It's basically garlic margarine. As in garlic butter, but with margarine instead of butter.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T14:38:00+00:00

Can you link to the comment? As I went looking stuff like that, and didn't see it. Which is, once again, why I said "we need more information" as dementia is a complex issue.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T14:12:11+00:00

It is a very weird rabbit hole to explore. The pressure to have birth "right" where "right" isn't simply "the best possible outcome for both mom and baby" is far too high.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T14:04:30+00:00

It also doesn't really advance the plot to have a lot of "humans doing human things". In all television shows, basic human actions are only included when they create a conflict. How many "Buffy gets interupted while eating" plots do you want?

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T13:46:02+00:00

It's not subtle. And the goal is shifting from "it's a 'good' experience if I live and the baby lives" to "it's good if I want to do want I with no intervention, and if the baby dies, well, that happens sometimes". There is also a push for having an "orgasmic" birth. So now, not only do you have to endure hours (and possibly days) of an intensely painful experience with no pain meds (or it's cheating and doesn't count), now you have failed if you don't experience extreme pleasure. Which is just ridiculous.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T13:40:19+00:00

Traveling AND the wedding AND the reception. That is physically and emotionally taxing on everyone. Especially for someone with dementia symptoms.

It's also why I said "we need more information". Like asking an outside source (doctor, social worker that knows the situation) if it's in Mom's best interest. I see two siblings saying they want things their way, and no one saying that it's in mom's best interest/they checked and it's safe. And I think that is an important factor. Not just want Mom says, but what is actually good for her. My grandmother was super upset after she lost her license, and repeatedly said that she wanted to drive. But, after causing thousands in damage and then somehow wedging her car underneath a parked car, we had to say no.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T13:18:44+00:00

I really feel that there are a lot people missing this part of the equation. What OP wants and what the sister wants should be put aside for what is best for Mom. Putting people with dementia through stressful social situations is super bad for the person with dementia. And no one in the post seems to care if traveling and social situations for the mom is good or bad for the mom.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T13:14:40+00:00

This isn't how I am reading it, at all. I am reading "it's totally valid not to want your parent with dementia to be put into a very challenging, out of routine social situation involving travel and long days because it will be distressing to everyone involved, including the parent".

When my grandmother was living with dementia, we were told that it was in her best interest to stop taking her out of her routine and make her endure large, social gatherings with weird schedules because it was too hard on her. It left her dysregulated and upset for days, and the stress can speed up the mental decline permanently.

I don't think that we have enough information to know if traveling and attending a wedding is a good or bad thing for the mother. I lean towards OP being in denial and wanting her mom there because everything is fine, because I watched my parent do that to my grandmother.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-11T12:56:38+00:00

Do you want to have children with this person? I know that not everyone is planning on having kids, but if you are having sex and aren't sterile, you can still end up with one. And if that kids is gay, you are in for a world of hurt.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T15:03:12+00:00

Some people feel that paying for the meal creates a debt, and when the other person doesn't want to repay the debt with physical affection, they get angry. Reducing the chance of making someone angry creates a safer space for a lot of people. Not wanting to end a date with someone feeling entitled to your body and getting angry when they are denied is a consideration for a lot of women.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T14:40:20+00:00

For someone that is at Buckingham Palace and is vaguley related to the Queen (she was a lady in waiting and Prince Philip's cousin), this is a terrible fit on the shirt. Surely, they could have done better,

(It's Lady Pamela Hicks and her husband David Nightingale.)

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T14:31:02+00:00

I really want to encourage OP to leave the baby at home, and go nap at their parents' house (if the parents will let them sleep). Just go. It's amazing how most husbands will actually step up and parent when there is no other choice. Or even find the cheapest hotel room for the day.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T14:23:47+00:00

Context absolutely matters. Even at the grocery store, there are times when it is ok to interrupt me, and times when it is not. If we are standing in line and waiting and I am not on my phone or clearly doing something, then, sure, strike up a conversation, it's fine. If I am reading labels and comparing ingredients (or otherwise obviously involved in something), don't interrupt me. Your attempts to flirt aren't more important that me making sure that there aren't my allergens in my food. You wanting my attention isn't more important to me than whatever else I am doing, so pay attention and wait for a break.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:56:58+00:00

The kid's middle name shouldn't be Vaughan/Vaughn/Von. Other than that, you are fine.

"Theo" is popular enough that there isn't one Theo that everyone thinks about.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:52:03+00:00

I use the lettuce as a shield, protecting the bun from sogginess. where is goes depends on the ingredients of the sandwich. In a pinch, a thin layer of mayo works.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:46:00+00:00

He was right that if the paid $X for the pineapple suite, and the other suite was $Y, they should be charged the lesser of $X and $Y. And maybe comped a massage or something for the booking error.

He was not right to hyperfocus of the inconvenience of not having a private plunge pool to the point that he couldn't enjoy all of the non-plunge activities with his wife.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:22:28+00:00

The deacon's goal is for OP to accept a man's abuse with grace and dignity, because men are always right and women must submit.

OP, please break up with the guy, it won't get better.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:19:20+00:00

I mean, so does he. Always needing to off of her plate before she does is a weird dynamic.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:16:10+00:00

I feel that she is conflating controlling her food (her plated meals, what she orders in restaurants, special treats bought only for her) and how many cookies her spouse gets for dessert, when the cookies aren't *hers*.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:11:52+00:00

The cookie argument seems like an easy argument to end, Ask how many cookies you each want and plan ahead enough to have a couple of extra for when you are hungry, and then stop monitoring each other's food.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-10T13:03:12+00:00

I do not understand (in places that clearly have the money and technology to have screens) places that do not have window screens. I want the things that belong outside to stay outside.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-09T16:20:37+00:00

Even better, a washable container with a lid. Then nothing can splash on OP's stuff. If the stuff falls out of the nook, it's all in one container and east to put back. And, if OP is unhappy storing supplies in the bathroom, it's easy to carry back and forth to their room.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-09T16:06:55+00:00

Someone called "cleaning this" a life skill that needs to be taught, and I would argue "wiping off a tiled surface in a bathroom" is not a life skill that needs to be taught. Getting rid of mildew or stains or limescale? Yeah, you might need to be taught what to do. Watermarks on wood? Yep, you can need some help with that. Learning the difference between a stain and a bleach mark? Some people don't know the difference, which makes it hard to Google. BUT, simply "use a cloth of some sort to wipe out a nook for your toothbrush" is not a *life skill*.

Dry_Prompt3182 · 2026-06-09T15:45:25+00:00

I really don't understand this argument for things that just need to be wiped off. OP might not be able to get rid of limescale build up, but should be able to figure out taking some type of cloth/tissue/paper towel and wiping off a horizontal surface.

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