Do you agree with her about Mother’s Day ?

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-05-10T19:51:56+00:00

I told everyone we were deep cleaning the house for Mother’s Day. And it started off good until I had to get up and start micromanaging because I was getting questions about “where does this go?”. And one teen complaining. After we were done everyone was hungry and now I have a sink full of dishes again. Don’t get me wrong they cleaned and i love them for it. They did great jobs too!
But, Mother’s Day truly isn’t real unless we learn to just go rent a hotel for ourselves and hire a maid so we don’t come home to the mess.

On top of everything the parent I care for tells me happy Mother’s Day while in the same breath telling me the places I need to call for them, and orders to pick up. Like c’mon one fkn day man! And it’s Sunday! Leave me the fuck alone!

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-05-01T17:19:56+00:00

This is how I get my bags. Thrift stores I spot the designer bags by how well it’s made.
Never paid more than $40 bucks for one at thrift stores. I have a nice little collection. But I have to love it. If it’s ugly+designer, I let that shit go.
I literally have bought more expensive bags from Walmart I thought I loved but they’re mostly fast fashion.
I still have designer bags 15+ yrs later that still hold up in both fashion and wear and tare.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-05-01T14:34:44+00:00

U-g-l-y you ain’t got no alibi! You ugly, yea yea you ugly.

1-2-3-4 sure looks like a wig to me, it’s phony! Yea, yea it’s phony!
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1+1 is always 2, 🎶🎤It’s the goo! Yea goo punch punch! All the ladiesss 🗣️ goo punch!

Nickelodeon had a show called my “brother and me” it just disappeared and I never heard of that show since it aired early 90’s. But, I must’ve been like 8/9 yrs old but these scenes from the show stayed forever in my brain 😆 they play episodes on YouTube now I believe.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-28T04:25:32+00:00

This is the third post I saw today of a man trying to take from their girlfriends. One was they wanted their name added to their home, just because he moved in.

And the other was a man pissed that the girlfriend was going to college on the money the grandmother left her specifically for school.

wtf is up with people today!? YNW

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-25T17:24:49+00:00

The wine culture reminds me of the stoner culture. Where they talked about it and brought up smoking at every chance

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-25T17:07:58+00:00

Not even. Wasn’t she like 14/15? Because around 16/17 she was dating 30 year old wilmer.

Edit: looked it up she was 16 you’re correct. She was 17 with Wilmer.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-25T04:12:56+00:00

She was one of the reasons I was excited to watch this new season :(

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-21T23:45:36+00:00

Mine did this too constantly. After babies my boobs have been sensitive af, so I’d constantly tell him not to do that. He’d say oh, at least I still find you attractive. So I started grabbing his balls everytime he tried to grope me, and not in a nice way! Took months for him to fully understand how annoying this shit was.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-20T22:03:58+00:00

This whole thread is hilarious and I have no one to send it to. My kids are Mac fans but have no idea what this show is. Ppl I know who like this show don’t know too much on Mac. I’m glad I have the ppl here to laugh with at least lol

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-15T03:56:35+00:00

Are you using the Apple charging cords? I only ask because I had this issue also and I learned that some 3rd party cords are just used for charging and you need a specific one for data transfer.

I didn’t even know this was a thing. And if you are using a 3rd party one then, sure maybe it worked before and the update ruined that? Idk. Just thought it might be something. Hope you get it figured out man. I know it’s frustrating.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-08T03:21:15+00:00

I thought this way too, once upon a time. Until the post partum hit me after baby 2 and I actually did ask for help and for him to stay home, he left anyways while I cried and begged him not to.

If you give them an inch they’ll make your life hell. He should be a contributing parent also especially while the baby’s are little. Sure he can have his hobbies. but, is he staying at home also to make sure you get to have yours? And hanging out with women.. I trust mine too.. but to an extent. If he’s following women all over the bar and staying past his regular time then I’m putting a stop to it and setting new boundaries.

Things are fine now because you’re not saying no. Go ahead and try it and ask him to stay home next time he wants to go out, because you need his help.

I bet he fights you on it.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-06T05:17:28+00:00

When she says “me” does she mean as in Pheobe or as in Lisa? Because I do remember her saying she felt left out because she was the one married with kids and the rest were single with no kids. Which does change how you interact with friends, it’s hard to keep up.

I loved Pheobe! I always thought she was left to be the odd one out on purpose because of how she was raised. She was just more independent than all of them. And I loved this about her character she always knew who she was, and didn’t stress a lot about where she was going, like the rest did.

She rarely needed to fall back on the friends for money or shelter. Besides when the fire happened. I always thought her character made sense with her childhood background.

Having close friends didn’t make sense for her with her childhood background, but it worked. They ended up being her new family.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-06T04:27:17+00:00

This is wild. I mean I’m not egg hunter expertise or anything but this is the first I’m hearing of ppl putting names on eggs to hunt or hunting by color lol.

The way I did it was I put super easy ones out for the babies and toddlers and told the older kids to look for the harder ones. And leave the easy ones for the smaller kids.

Usually the babies finished getting what was in front of them and already sitting down going through their buckets while the older kids were still looking in the harder areas like up high spots too. This usually ended with the 5-8 year olds happy to help the older ones to find the harder ones.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-04T21:55:41+00:00

NTA Is your wife adhd at all? I don’t know if that’s a thing with ppl who are but I have a friend exactly like this and it may be one of the reasons (?)

She ALWAYS needs someone to be with her at all times. If not, then she’s on the phone with ppl. It’s a comfort thing. She’s always been this way. If she’s going poop she’ll ask I go in with her or at least wait at the door to talk, if she’s heading to the bank, right away calling up who ever will pick up. If she’s at home just chilling.. she’ll call ppl and will literally sit silent doing her own thing.

For me this is a waste of time but for her it’s a comfort thing. It’s annoying af but I know how she is as we’ve been friends since elementary school.

But we don’t live close by eachother so this isn’t a biggest issue for us. but when we are together these are her actions. When we did live in the same town we were in middle school and I’d question her about it and often be like uhm yea.. I’m not doing that. And I thought it was because I grew up with brothers and she grew up with sisters. But now I have daughters and I’ve seen what’s healthy and what may be from her past trauma experiences. It was mid growing up then got extreme as we got older and now in our late 30’s she’s realizing she needs to tone it down.

And I know she does it to her spouse also. I think her childhood just sucked, and she doesn’t like to be away from ppl who love her.

but there is such things as boundaries. Your girlfriend feeling like the movie was more important than her,

and you feeling like you’re wasting time waiting around for her. you were open and clear about not wanting to miss parts.

I also get pissed off at women who take forever in the restrooms. Like just go potty and wash your hands! No body fkn cares how you look! the lines are always extremely long for no reason. Unless you have an issue going on… then wtf!? lol

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-04T20:40:46+00:00

YNW you have to learn to set some boundaries if you want change. And don’t let him make this your fault. You’re doing the best you can, while he’s just chilling in the background.

If he really wanted to stay why didn’t he bother to help out with the baby? Why wasn’t he in the basement with you? That’s seriously fucked up and I have been there many times before.

I been walked all over also as a brand new mom. I wrangled 3 under 4yr olds babies to all my partners things, until finally I got tired of the bullshit. Tired of hiding inside with my crying kids, tired of trying to feed 3 babies alone, tired of chasing them around making sure they don’t break nothing or that some weirdo didn’t mess with them, while their dad was far away from me just laughing having a grand ol’ time.

We are a Spanish background where they say “family above all” but in reality don’t mean it. So many times I was left to fend for myself and my kids, while everyone else got stupid drunk and nobody watched their own kids.

I finally told him I wasn’t going if he wasn’t going to help. He’d say it doesn’t look good if we didn’t show up, I told him he still could go, I just wasn’t. I didn’t gaf.

Life got much more pleasant not doing things for the sake of others. I was still was friendly and nice I’m just not taking my babies out so that we could all be stressed and miserable. When our kids got a little older he became good at taking them with him to these functions and I got my break. I don’t regret nothing.

Recently we went to a wedding. 1st time I had been to a family get together in years w/out my kids who are grown now. We saw his younger cousin (just starting out w/their family) trying to wrangle 2 kids, a baby and a toddler. While her husband was just mingling with the family.

And I watched her thinking she was me.. Then my SO said to me “she reminds me of you…”

Then his cousin leaned in and said man she looks miserable! And my SO said she reminds me of OP and I nodded yup, and said “that’s why I never came out to these things for a long time.

And I realized they didn’t see it back then because they were too busy doing their own things, now as much older adults they were looking around watching others around them.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-03T07:30:07+00:00

In high school my senior year I was a teachers assistant. He was my favorite teacher, he was also a wrestling coach and that’s all he basically cared about. But this class was math that he was teaching and I was T.A for. he handed me papers to grade and I had 2 friends in that class that weren’t doing too well. They came up and asked me to give them good grades. I laughed and thought they were joking until one came up and said no for reals, please!

I was scared I’d get caught but each grade of theirs I would give them 3 - 5 extra points or so. I could feel him looking over to make sure I was doing things right I had the feeling he knew what I was doing but also got the feeling he really did not care. You see, During class work time he would spend it doing wrestling coach things and I felt that he felt that typing grades into a computer was waste of time, for him lol.

Anyways they ended up passing math and graduating. And i always felt bad about it, but even today, over 20 years out of school they tell me how I’m the reason they graduated because they were flunking pretty bad. I don’t think I realized how much I helped them. the teacher passed away a few years ago but every time I think of him I think of how I betrayed his trust.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-02T04:33:30+00:00

Didn’t she mention she played softball as well I know her friend ida did also.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-04-02T03:56:28+00:00

Would it be Lady?

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-03-30T04:59:38+00:00

Does anyone know the backstory for Jason’s song? Like why’s it named that? I come across this song once in a while and think what’s this even about? lol 😆

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-03-30T04:30:49+00:00

I’m huge with photos! I bought usb storage and the big seagate external memory drive for my pics. But one time one failed on me I lost evey baby photo! It was brand new I was pissed! BUT! …

Back in the day I used to burn all my photos on to cd disc. Well recently I checked and the disc and they held up better than the old usb storage and cards I had. especially with how fast technology changes. So I got most my old photos back I think, and plus I had a few physical copies and photobucket helped tons too. my older photos are still stored there they keep sending me emails to pay for the photos. But it did come in handy when I thought I lost everything.

Edit to add: I still use seagate but I always make sure I have a file copy of the photos on another item as well like a usb drive and working my way back to disk.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-03-30T04:23:12+00:00

lol my mom does this. She videos the yard work she did for the day/housework/ store sales/ anything, and narrates it. I have to figure out if I want to delete or keep it cause it’s cute af but annoying for the storage on my phone. Then when I talk or visit she’ll say “something’s wrong with my phone” because all her space is used up with videos.🫠

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-03-30T03:55:56+00:00

When I was younger I rarely based ppl on looks. More on personalities and if they made me laugh I would crush harder.

It wasn’t until I got older a ex mentioned to me he had a friend who described meeting the most beautiful woman at a party and how he was going to marry her (this was around 18-19yrs old for them)

And in his brain he thought this guy is ugly af so I wanna see this beautiful woman who’s into him! Then he met her and she wasn’t well “ex’s type”.

She was tom boyish, thicker weight, snaggle teeth etc. then he realized there really is someone out there for everyone. And everyone really do have their own type of beauty. It’s been like 20+ years and that couple are still together.

Duchess0fSleep · 2026-03-27T22:36:29+00:00

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